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i think dd2 goes beyond terrible 2s, today we had to go help dh at work, when it came to leaving she got upset as she wanted to stay from getting her to the car to getting to the end of the driveway (3 min drive) she had made herself throw up, punched the twins capsules, bitten her hand so hard her head was shaking, dug her nails into her face and pinched and pulled, threw her shoe off and bit her foot til it bled.
Her behaviour scares me, i feel sick because of it but i dont know what to do.
Oh mrs s Sounds like you have your hands full!! Maybe a visit to your GP will get you a referral to a behaviour specialist? Sounds like she is really acting out and you may need some guidance with how to deal with it.
I don't think it's abnormal for a two year old to hurt themselves to get attention. She cant verbalise her anger and frustrations and it's after she has hurt herself that she gets the most attention. She is probably feeling extremely displaced with the arrival of the twins. Self harming is very different from a psychological point of view.
she was like this well before i fell pregnant n2l infact shes calmed down a little since theyve been born plus she doesnt get more attention hurting herself as i ignore her knowing this is what she wants and trust me shes very smart and very capable of expressing her feelings verbally she does daily ... not meaning to totally shoot that post down just give people a better understanding of my daughter so we maybe able to get some help
Okay so it's been going on for a year or more and it has started to improve lately. That has to be a good sign. Have you sought any advice from a gp, maternal child health nurse or paed in that time? If so, did they give you any clues? If not if you are really worried it would be best to consult a professional.
That's pretty extreme self harming you are describing. I would be going to a GP and give all the history and facts and show what she is doing to herself on her body, especially after this recent episode, she would have obvious marks I assume.
I have heard of of head banging, breath holding and pulling out of eyelashes and eyebrows and all of these needed a few consultations with either an OT or Child Psychologist or both. The other thing to come out of it is they may help and show you how to deal and cope with it as well.
She sounds very frustrated that she can't express herself enough even though she has great vocabularly. They just don't understand their feelings and how to deal with them.
GL xxx
yeah she is pretty extreme i have videos of her when she was 1 flat out headbutting concrete, its been going on since she was mobile ... ive had quite a few people suggest a sensory disorder
Take the video as well. The GP will or should set you on the path for a diagnosis of some sort. I have a GF who has a son who is Austistic and has qualifield once diagnosis was established for funding specifically for treating his Austism. The specialists access the funds so the parents are not out of pocket. I think it's a scheme through Medicare through the Mental Health program.:
Ask your GP if he is aware of it, they should be.
She may not be classiified Austistic, she could be somewhere on the spectrum though, hopefully the GP will be able to set you on the right path at least.
Even a referral to a Paed will put you in the right direction. We did this with DS1 last year cos he was acting out and the Paed will just do a full analysis then probably refer you onto another specialist. We were told it's all about teaching the child how to deal with there frustrations which will be hard for your DD age, but at least it's a start.
GL