Scared to death about #2

I just found out im pregnant, waiting to see the doctors yet but i do take 7 tests as a yes :dance: While we were trying i was more than ok with #2 but now that i actually am, im really scared! My dad has lung cancer hes in hospy getting radiation/chemo. Will i be allowed anywhere near him? Ds wants/needs my attention 24/7, he still wakes at night to come into bed with us, perfectly fine by me btw lol but lately hes been waking me up by laying on top of me kicking his legs into my belly. I asked dp to put him back in his cot lastnight but he forgot. I slept about 16 hours a day when i was pregnant with ds, how in the world am i going to get any rest! Were up at 6, bed at 7. With 1, two hour sleep and 1, one hour one but its starting to look like he wants to drop the last one. Gosh this looks like its going to be long lol. Im not worried so much about cost because i WILL perserve with bf no matter how much it hurts, i WILL join the aba and find a good lactation consultant. Im worried about birth because when i left hospy the ob said "good luck trying to find someone who will support another natural birth" I understand ds was very sick, seriously what are the chances of that happening again. I want to go through birth centre but he said id be high risk from then on. He had shoulder distocia, didnt have enough surfactant on his lungs was in icu for 2 weeks and scn for 1. Pushing stage was 2 hours, he was distressed because he was stuck. Episiotomy and suction. I also dont trust what the ob said because he reckons that i make babies too big for me. Ds was 8 pound 2, not exactly huge. My best friend is tiny with the smallest waist and she had a baby who was 10 pound 8. Ugh im rambling now, no need to reply really i just needed to get it out.

Well i can't tell you any info about going to see your dad cuz i don' tknow....
But it looks like we are going thru the same ages together :) my DS is about 14months old and i'm 6weeks pregnant again.

I say get yourself a doula for a support person. she can help you prepare for the birth and help you thru the birth. You can totally birth a baby. My DS was also 8lb2oz with no drugs and no tears and I am very tiny (under 45kg normally) so do not believe the crap about a baby being too big for you unless you have GD ~ even then it can be debatable.
Shoulder Distocia isn't to do with babies size but babies position. Find information about how to encourage baby to be in the right position for the birth. A doula can also provide you with this information and encouragement to do so.

If bfing is done right then it shouldn't hurt. your doula should also be able to help you post birth to get a good latch, otherwise find a LC before bub is born and meet her so then when bub is born and you need help you already have a relationship with one who can help you.

It is different being pregnant second time round cuz yes you can't lay around sleeping all day (i had insomnia at night and i slept most of the day too), however i'm sure the pregnancy will go alot quicker cuz you will be much busier.

Every pregnancy is different you may have nothing wrong with this baby and it is perfectly healthy. Take problems as they come :)

I hope I have been some help ~ I definately recommend a doula though! To calm you down and encourage you to have confidence in your body. xx All the best.

p.s Congratulations :)

Congrats again!!

That is exactly how I felt 2nd time around SCARED.. How would I cope with an extremely active toddler no family support near by and terrible ms...... Terrified of having the same difficult birth 17 hours, posterior, vac, and bubs being in SCN again......but I survived

I booked into a Birth Centre and had an amazing mw, who I talked to about all my fears and made me feel at ease and I read read read so I new as much as I could - knowledge is power.......

Yes it was had being sick and looking after a toddler but you get through it, and rest when you can....

I had an amazing birth DD was posterior like DS but I had no intervention no tearing and she was bigger than DS 9 pound 2 ...

I guess what I am trying to say is that yes it is natural to feel scared and worried but you will get through it and read up, because you can achieve anything hun xoxo

i also have a 15 month old and this will be my second baby, i just believe the key thing to do at this stage is take it one step at a time, if u begin to look at the whole picture from this angle it could be overwhelming and intimidating. at this point my DS still seeks a lot of attention and he still needs a lot of care but i believe when baby comes he'll be almost 2 he'll be much older and able to understand certain things, also able to be independent a lil bit. so don't stress it dont worry over what will happen then just do your best.