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Has anyone tried both of these? Is either better than the other?
I am not expecting any miracles, but something to help DD go back to sleep when she wakes instead of screaming for hours would be great.
We have used Rescue Remedy with DS with mild results. I can't get Brauers in NZ but I can get someone to send some if it is worth trying.
ive used rescue rememdy with DD2 along with a magnesium spray (both in a small amount of water) i found they worked great!
i also put some lavender oil on a cloth in her room
I keep meaning to pop in and give you the biggest, fattest, squishiest one of these :hug: I can find. I wish I could give you some miracle cure.
We tried Brauers Calm on DD on numerous occassions and I don't think it made much difference TBH (however we do have a child that wasn't the least bit effected by Phernergan either although it did clear up her hives) but it's cheap and natural so I'd definitely give it a shot. I've heard others having lots of luck with Rescue Remedy too so give both a go, separately of course :lol:
The only thing I can suggest and I know it sucks and you've already tried it but it's the 'tough love' approach. When we moved DD into her toddler bed, we had our fair share of issues over a good 4 weeks and it was awful! I was up every night with her, often every hour and frequently for hours on end. I saw the sun come up on many occassions and it's been a long time since I did that and in the past, I was usually on my way home from a nightclub :rofl: Being pregnant and dealing with sleep issues only makes it feel ten times worse and the fear that the issues will continue (or get worse, god forbid!) once your new baby arrives is so stressful. So hon, it might not help much but know that I did take a walk in your shoes (sort of) for a month or so and it sucked. I don't know how you're still hanging in there!!
Anyway, back to 'tough love'. We had tried giving DD a bit of freedom to cruise into our room at night if she needed to. That was a big mistake so we decided to try the baby gate on her door. She just stood at the baby gate screaming so much she'd almost vomit so that was another fail. In the end, we decided to close her door and keep it shut. We would (and still do) sit with her to settle her to sleep and once she was settled, we'd leave. At first it took a good hour or so but quickly we were in there for less and less time. If she kicked up a stink after we left her room, we'd give her a few minutes before we'd go back in. Often she'd surprise us and put herself back to bed and go to sleep within minutes :o If she was really beside herself (and you know the difference between your child's cries), then we'd sit with her again until she was settled. We did the same thing when she woke over night and I refused to bring her into our room. I think it took about a week and that was it - she was back to sleeping through most nights!! We still leave the door shut now and she is fine with it. Most nights we spend 5 minutes with her when she first goes down then if she wakes at night, I might need to spend a few minutes with her again. Usually she's in her bed when she calls out and flops back onto her pillow and settles immediately as we walk through the door. In the morning she gets out of bed and knocks on her door and yells out 'Mummy, where are ya? Poo!' :rofl: It's the funniest thing ever. I can't believe how different things are now compared to where we were at when she first moved into her bed. Actually, she'd been pretty ordinary at night in her cot for the few months leading up to the move to the bed so a good nights sleep was a long time coming for us too....but not as long as it has been for you :hug:
Anyway, that's what we did hon and it worked AND so much sooner than I ever expected. We did buy the Gro Clock and she loves it. I'm not sure that she understands the concept of it but I honestly think it's helped. She loves saying good night to the sun at bedtime and 'hello' to the stars and we always tell her that she can get out of bed when the sun comes up. So far she's played by that rule :lol: but I'm not sure if it's a coincidence or not. We also put a good stash of her teddies and ruggies in her bed so she has lots of 'friends' plus she has her musical seahorse (Fisher Price toy) which she adores.
I hope you get some rest soon hon. I should have posted this in your other thread but just had to reply before I forgot again so sorry it's a bit off topic!
Thanks Taurean. We have tried the 'tough love' thing and TBH, it has made things worse. I think that is the reason that I cannot leave the room without her launching into hysterical screaming. We shut the door for about 8 nights and she screamed for hours at a time, trashed her room completely, crawled into bed from exhaustion and slept for about an hour and then started up again until morning. She will settle quite quickly if I sit with her (but not DH) but I can't leave the room so that isn't really working for me.
Thanks Olive, I might try the Rescue Remedy first since I can get it here.
i'd have a go at both of them and see how it travels...i also second the idea of lavendar oil. let her know that you are putting it there (i do drops on the pillow case) and do a bit of a story mebbe of how it is "happy smells" or something or other and tell her that it will help her feel better when she goes to lie down....or something like that.
far out, i still put a drop of lavender on my pillow case on nights where i am a bit anxious or just not able to sleep! love the stuff!
DD2 also went through the same phase of me not being able to leave the room, we slowly moved further and further away from her and towards the door, eventually i was outside with a hand for example showing...i did work but took months im affraid :(
is she day sleeping? dropping DD's daysleep worked wonders for us
Olive, I don't have months to sort it out now :( I can sit at the end of the bed but it seems that every single creaky floorboard in the house is in DD's room and as soon as I try to move she hears the squeak and snaps awake.
She is day napping, usually she sleeps in the car after activities/kindy pickup. But not today because we are at home and I couldn't be bothered spending 1.5 hours sitting by her bed trying to escape for her to have a 40 minute nap.
Cass, I tried the lavender drops with W with no effect, I would give them another shot but I don't think you can buy fancy things like that in town lol.