at my limit cant cope :(

Well where do i begin,the FS has decided that even though i have PCOS he is STILL NOT GOIN TO DO OP to remove them rather he is choosing to ignore them and just try 50mg chlomid instead soo many ppl have told me its best to have both and a laparoscopy but every time i ask him he changes teh subject and says we will try this first...i feel like screaming at him I AM THE PATIENT if i want it done then DO IT !!!! should i go see someone else???

then i think i will have to start over again its all a bit to much my hat goes off to anyone that goes trhough IVF i am not there yet and i am already almost at my limit cant imagine having to do that...

i always knew i would have trouble getting pregnant but hoped iw as wrong i am sooo sick of ppl telling me relax it will happen bla bla bla they are not in my shoes (all my firends that is) the all have kids so they cant possibly understand every night i am left lying awake thinking how am i goin to cope if i cant have a baby,its not fair on my husband if it wasnt for me he would have one with someone else i am the damaged one...:( what am i meant to do in my life if i cant be a mother.....

not sure how much more i can take i am almost at my limit...it is consuming me and i find it hard to talk to ppl about it now think thy are sick of hearing about it honestly ...this year alone i lieterally have had 1 person or another all year pregnant 3 of my BF at the same time life isnt fair and i am stuggling to continue on this whole journey ...........:crying:

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Oh Hun, there is no harm in getting a 2nd opinion!
Also I'm here if you need a chat or a vent, yes I have the girls but I would never play down your feelings and I've seen how much fertility issues have hurt people close to me, I don't care if you mention it 100 times!


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Oh Hun, big hugs to you. As women we have this amazing gut instinct when we know something isn't right. If it's telling you to get a second opinion, do it. I've been down your road hang in there & remember to vent it's healthy. Best of luck x

Hi Bellabee so sorry to hear you are having troubles. I agrees it is worth getting a second opinion, it made all the difference for me. But just double checking your issue is PCOS? As to my knowledge there is no op to remove these as they are just the 'type' of ovaries you have. If you have endo or fibroids then yes this should be dealt with. In saying that don't lose heart, I have PCOS, high FSH levels and unexplained infertility but I got there in the end. So will you! Wishing you all the best xx

bellabee :hug:, I know how much it hurts. Your post just about sums up my life! You can definitely get a second opinion if you like, but that may take a while (assuming you in Melbourne?)
Maybe take the offer of clomid, give it a try. There are lots of ladies that have fallen PG first go on clomid. In the meantime you could book in to see someone else for a second opinion. That way if the clomid doesn't work after a few cycles, and your still not happy with what your current FS is offering you, you have something to fall back on.
The wait time to see good FS is what really bugs me. I waited over 3 months just to see a good OB/GYN, and i still had no luck! For what it's worth clomid did not work for me, I ovulated on it, but no luck. But, i believe that clomid kind of "kickstarted" my ovaries because after 2 years of TTC I fell PG second natural cycle off clomid. Sadly it ended in early m/c, but at least my body is starting to function properly!

Good luck with whatever you choose xx

Big, big :hug: hun.

I'm with the other girls... go and get a 2nd opinion.

I was in a similiar boat to you, just a different problem. One of my tubes were blocked and my FS at the time just threw Clomid at me and told me to come back in a couple of months if it didn't work... no mention of corrective surgery, or a lap to remove the tube. It took me a good 6 months to make an appointment with another FS, because I was so distraught by things my FS had said to me!

I found another FS and within 4 weeks of my first appointment, I'd my lap and my bad tube was removed.

Like you, before I'd even started IVF, I felt my breaking point was close by and hit rock bottom a few times. Finding my new FS was like finding a light at the end of the tunnel.

I hope you find another FS who is able to help you and give the support you need :comfort:

If your dr isn't listening to you, i would look for another one. Do you have a good GP you can ask if they know someone else? Do you have mates who see a FS that they recommend?

You shouldn't have to start all over again, because any test results that your current FS has, you can take to another FS. If you can start asking for copies of any tests, it is always good to have your own file anyway.

Did the FS say why he wanted to try Chlomid rather than surgery? Knowing the reasons for his decisions might make you feel better about the decision (if you agree)

good luck matey.