almost a family of 4- anxious

Hi all,

Well I'm 38 weeks and as the excitement builds so does my anxiety. I am thrilled to be having bub number 2, but am currently plagued by thoughts of missing time with my DD (14 months) and how little time DH and I will have to ourselves.

I don't want DD to think I dont love her anymore, but at the same time I know she will absolutely love having a sibling.

I am worried that I will be soo tired for the next 3 months that I wont enjoy any of it. I remember with DD I was soo tired I thought I was actually going to die of exhaustion (I'm sure you can all relate..LOL).

I don't want the breastfeeding issues I had last time...and god...please no sore nipples...I couldn't stand that again...LOL

I am scared of having a crap birth, especially since I had a good birth the first time.

I spose all in all I am worried about my baby girl growing up soo fast over this time that I will miss it because I'm busy with a new born.

AND...I feel bad that I feel bad...LMAO...pregnancy hormones anyone??? :rofl:

Hubby is a great support and an awesome involved Daddy...I just needed to let this out to some Mums out there who I know will understand what I'm saying.

Thanks for reading :hug:

:hug: I hear ya!!!! :hug:

Its ok to feel like that!! It will take you all time to adjust as a new family of four.. but you will all find your feet. Its ok to be nervous and worried about everything!! :hug:

I wish you a great birth!!! One that is perfect fo ryou and your new bub :)

I hope you dont have sore nipples!!!!!! Ouchie!!!!!!

I really hope you get a good sleeper!!!! It will make a world of difference!!!

I found when we had DD that Daddy and DS got to spend a fair bit more time together, which they both love!! I do get amazed at how quick DS is growing up!! I know I havent missed it, but some days I am like where did my baby go??? Oh thats right he isnt my baby anymore!!!! And when they are both big enough to play together- my gosh it is so cute and fun!!! There is nothing better but the sound of two kids squeeling in delight to each other and chasing eachother around!!!!! Its the BEST!!!!! :)

sending loads of :hug: xoxox

:hug: it's such a rollercoaster isn't it?

I'm finding that I'm getting very emotional about DS' life changing once the new baby comes. I just start crying whenever I think about it! I feel bad that it's not just going to be him anymore. So I can relate with that part!

I hope that you have a wonderful birth and breastfeeding comes easily this time :hug:

I had a very independent 16mth old when DS was born. I wasn't too worried about how she would react but I was worried about how I would cope with 2 under 2, on my own. I got a bit terrified at the thought of when DH went back to work. He's self-employed and DS was born on a Thursday, so I got Thur-Fri-Sat-Sun and then he was back to work.

Fortunately I had a very supportive mother and sister come around for most of that week and help out. Sister's kids amused my 16mth old and mum did some cleaning and cooking for me.

BUT - this is the important part - I was not as tired with my second. In part because I had a shorter labour (6hrs with DS compared to the 40 with DD...) but I just didn't feel the need to go to bed every night at 7pm like I did for the first few weeks/months of DD's life. There was too much to do, see, feel, think...

It was almost like being mum to one had prepared me for being mum to two. You just get things done.

And if you have any bf issues - call the ABA. Sooner rather than later! They will help.

I also have to agree with SB - my DS has grown up a lot quicker than my DD but it so lovely now seeing them interact, well most of the time anyway!

I know this will sound trite, but it is true - in a few short months, you will be struggling to remember what it was like when it was just the three of you :hug:

Just wanted to give you a :hug:

You’re a fantastic person. You’re a fantastic mother. You’re going to continue being a fantastic mother.

You have a heads up this time about tongue tie, and breast feeding problems. So you’re already ahead there. I also don’t know this from personal experience (obviously) but I’ve heard that second time around you already know how to attached (theoretically) so the sore nipple thing is less of a problem.

Sending you fantastic birth vibes.

I’ll go back to stalking you now ;)

That could have been me posting 3 months ago! My DD1 was going to be around 18 months when DD2 was due. As the birth approached I really grieved losing my special one on one relationship with DD1. I didn't feel like we'd had enough time together and she was such a mummies girl I really worried how she would adjust. But it has been amazing. DD1 absolutely adores DD2 and loves having her around. It has enriched her life rather than diminished it. And I have been really lucky that DD2 has been a great sleeper so I actually have plenty of time to spend with DD1 during the day. With the first you feel so busy, but the second time around you agonize a lot less over the colour of poo, whether they're feeding enough etc. And the feeding has been so much easier!! I had huge problems with DD1 - she was so bad at it and I had flat nipples. The midwives were surprised I stuck at it. I had to pysch myself up for that first BF with DD2 but she latched on immediately!!! I didn't even have time to call the midwife over to help. Anyway it has been really different to what I expected. I'm sure you have a really special time ahead.

Naww, thanks soo much for taking the time to write such a comforting post.

I think my DD will love having a baby around and I'm hoping she adjusts just like your DD.

Congrats on breastfeeding this time around :)

xx