Feeling frustrated and angry

Is it normal to feel frustrated and angry with a baby? While it is not constant, I sometimes lose my cool when she wont settle to sleep at night (like tonight it took me 1.5 incredibly frustrating hours to get to her sleep) During the day I dont feel this way and she self settles for day naps anyway. I think it doesnt help that in the back of my mind I am hoping to get the kids off to bed early so I can do my uni homework. While I have never hurt her, lately I have been getting pretty irritable and I am starting to worry that I might just snap....its scary and I dont know what comes over me I am not this person usually.

If it's not, I'm abnormal too :redface: I know she's just a baby, but sometimes she just gets on my nerves when I try to feed her and she's intent on doing something else - but if I leave her to do what she wants, she suddenly wants me!


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I feel terrible when I get this way. I know I am a good mum and I do everything for my two girls. I just wish I could control my feelings of frustration and anger. It seems ridiculous getting angry at a 9 month old baby!!!

Why do you think that book Go the F*** to Sleep is so popular? It is because kids that won't go to sleep are just infuriating!! I have been there many times before, it makes you irrationally angry when all you want to do is have a bit of downtime after they are in bed but instead there you are an hour or two later still trying to get the little darling to go to sleep. That doesn't make you a bad parent, just human. I know I have yelled at my kids more than once ('cos yelling at them will settle them to sleep faster lol).

Just remember, this too shall pass :hug:

Yes it's normal. I have found my temper is so short when I'm tired and need some me time. You need some nurturing and some more rest. Please look after yourself...maybe evenings isn't the best time for uni homework. Can someone come and mind them for a day so you can do homework then?

Thinking of you :hug:

I found that the more pressure there was to get them to bed at a certain time for whatever reason made me more likely to get frustrated is is just wasn't happening. Give yourself some tools to help you cope with it - things like going outside for 5 minutes to compose yourself when you feel you are at your absolute wits end. Or on the nights where you really have to get into the uni work get DH to take over for a while. But you are not a horrible Mum for feeling this way OK :hug:

you are so not a horrible mum Isa! I agree with Trillian - I always find it worse when I have a 'deadline' in mind and I think J picks up on that....
Does your DH put her down sometimes? we alternate and it is so much easier for me when I am putting N down! (J is also much quicker for DH than he is for me, i thi k i am the 'sucker' who cuddles, pats, creeps oiut of room, DH is loving btu way more business like about it)

Thanks so much ladies, I dont feel so bad now. DH helps me, but he works long hours too so sometimes he isnt here. I have decided that uni has to come second to her. If I can get her off to sleep and manage to get in some study, excellent. If not, I can always arrange for someone to take the girls for the day while I cram it all in. I dont want to be that grumpy, angry mum.

oh hun, totally normal!!!!
i remember while rocking my darling DD2 for the upteenth hour trying to get her to sleep, i could feel my arms getting ready to throw her!!! i never did but my goodness it was tempting at the time! ususally i just ended up crying with her!

You can put me in the abnormal group too then. Like Skybie I have felt like throwing him and at times can feel myself starting to pat too hard.

Thankyou!! I was starting to think something is seriously wrong with me lol!! I love my baby girl to bits, but just go to sleep!!!! :)