Vent: manipulative stepdaughter!

I have to get it out: my stepdaughter is a manipulative little so-an-so!

She just left me another one of her woe is me messages.

She doesn't want to live with us but complains bitterly about her home life. Makes statements like, I thought maybe you guys could see me (insert a completely inconvenient day/time here - usually at very short notice) if you wanted to.... grrrr.

Her other favourites are:
* Mum said you wouldn't have enough money if I lived with you.....
* Damo blames me for everything....
* I'm lonely...I have no friends....

Then she writes on FB, I miss my dad. Then her mother adds a comment, I know sweetie, maybe he will call you one day. WTF? He calls all the time, but they are always out with friends or doing something so they can't talk.
It just p's me off is then DH is down after talking to his kids.

She's learnt from a master so I shouldn't be surprised.

No response necessary....I just had to get it off my chest before I pick DH up from the airport.

big :hug: hun. Stepfamilies are a minefield at the best of times.

It's really tough, but there must be some expert advice out there on how to handle these kinds of situations. Maybe see if you can find a child behavioural councillor or someone who could teach you (especially your dh) some methods to reconnect with his daughter.

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Jude 07/10/2008 | Lilac 16/06/2011

Huni my step sisters used to do this. It used to annoy me watching it, Huge hugs xxx

Can your DH not reply on FB "didn't realise I imagined calling yesterday, I know you were busy but we did speak before you had to go" or something like that?

Or text back with "cool, we'd love to see you *day*, can you do an hour later? Can you come over? We'd love to see you if you want to see us!" then watch her pull out: I know that people do this to guilt you rather than out of wanting to see you, and she probably can't that day either, just knows you'll say no.

And her mum doesn't know your finances - tell her that isn't true and if she wanted to live with you she could... watch that be pulled away too. If you know it is just a line and she doesn't mean it her refusal will hurt less, especially when she stops saying it.

I know it's a vent, but it annoys me too and finding ways of dealing with it is important as well.