HOW ON EARTH DO YOU COPE during 2ww first icsi ivf cycle

Hi everyone,

To all those gorgeous mums to be and mums out there, just a question. How on earth do you cope during the 2ww of an ivf cycle. I have ET tomorrow and im already dreading every day after that. Is it really possible to just continue with the flow and forget about the end result. Im tearing my hair out now and hoping like hell that i'll get the answer i so desperately want.
When is the earliest i can do a HPT too ? My AF is never ever on time, so i dont want to get my hopes up when she doesn't arrive. This is driving me bonkers. Any suggestions would be great.
Also, how do you stop feeling the things that could be in your head. What i think i want to say is, if you feel a bit queazy, how do stop getting your hopes up over that. Such a stressful time and shouldnt be.
Phew, i feel better now.
Any suggestions would be GREAT!!

ta


me 26 dh 48
me pcos/insulin resistant/healthy weight
hubby ok

ivf cycle 1 = cancelled (ohss)
ivf/icsi cycle = ET tomorrow
ttc for 4 years

The short answer is.... With great difficulty!

I survived through the support of all the amazing people on this site, my great DH & watching grey's anatomy so I could cry my eyes out & blame the show. I felt I couldn't talk to my sisters or friends as I felt they didn't really understand & their comments that they thought were supportive usually upset me.

You join the TWW thread on here & good luck.

Don't google & do too many HPT's... Lol who am I kidding we all do it... Those who say they don't are lying ;)

Best of luck, be kind to yourself & go get a facial if your not broke from your cycle.
Take Care & I hope your get a BFP :) x

I think the short answer is 'any way you can' :(

Right now, for instance, I just made a cheesecake. My house is also really clean and I have only consulted Dr Google 364646377 times since getting up this morning. This is my 5th IVF 2ww.

Basically, you will go crazy, you will fluctuate wildly between thinking 'it has worked' and 'it is a big fat failure'. The luteal phase meds will give you all the pregnancy symptoms - nausea, dizziness, cramping, sore boobs, fatigue. DON'T TRUST ANY SYMPTOM EXCEPT A POSITIVE BLOOD TEST!!!!!

Not sure what luteal phase meds you are on, but if it is pregnyl, you cant test at all because you will get a positive even if you aren't pregnant. Similarly, if you used a trigger the HCG will cause a positive test.

I am sorry, but at least you are in good company with all of the other crazy IVF-ers on here!! :lol:

Good luck!

Lol *snap* Bex!!!

N2L you were a great TWW buddy, I don't think I would've made it through without this site. I'm sure ppl in the general public thought I'd lost my mind.

Nawwwwww thanks Bex! Right back at you...Are you sure that you didn't lose your mind though?? I'm sure they put something in the progesterone to make us loopy ;) :lol:

Like the others say you get through it anyway you can. I dont know I would say you forget about it...its always at the back of your mind but you just get on with things.
I did get a pos HPT at 8 days after the transfer of a 2day embie but it will depend what support you are on when you can 'rely' on a hpt. What I say to my friends now is that only hpt is you can cope with either a positive or negative result.....I had a lovely friend who did an IVF round a month ago and was so super calm and positive the whole tww....then she did a test and it was negative and the poor girl cried for days.....not good for her or the rest of her tww.....so just think about it before doing one....And to be honest I have over my 7 transfers done hpt's randomly....but for me I coped better not doing a hpt.....

As for symptoms...this time I got preg I had NONE! I would have sworn black and blue I wasnt pregnant but i was and still am....so symptoms are just there to make our TWW harder :)

Goodluck

I found keeping busy the best and only way to cope. It does drive you slowly batty, but googling is a hazard of the 2WW few of us can avoid. Symptoms are not worth getting excited or negative about - purely because each pregnancy is so different, and because you are medicated, you can't tell if it's your body or the drugs. The short answer is that it can be really challenging, and the only short-cut to getting through it is to do as much as you can to NOT think about it. After initially buying a zillion HPT's on the net, I stopped using them after all of them showed up negative each time. It ruined the 2WW as I still had to have a BT. My way around this was to have the BT, then do an HPT and tell the clinic only to call me if it was a BFP. That meant I didn't have to deal with a phone call I already knew the answer to - and if it was a BFP then I could find out by HCG level.
GL and hope the time goes really quickly for you :)

Hi All. I had my Egg collection yesterday dated 6/12/11 and i am scheduled for egg transfer on friday the 9th Dec
I had 5 follicles and 2 eggs collected and both of them have been fertilised! Thank God :)
I am so excited about friday but at the same time i am so nervous and anxious. Does anyone here please give me an advice of what to do after egg transfer?
What can/cant I eat? I've read that pineapple and walnuts are good for you...sorry about all this questions!!

1st Cycle - Cancelled
2nd Cycle - 5 egg collected (their all immature)
3r Cycle - 2 egg collected (Due for egg Transfer 9/12/11) :)


Thank you in advance and Good Bless
xox

I kept my mind busy during the TWW following ICSI/PGD by peeing on numerous hpt's starting the day after embryo transfer, LOL! Oh, and when I say numerous, I mean at least 10 times ;) Hehehe

Well for me it was to forget about it (for the first few days I had taken residence on the couch with plenty of comedies on dvd) and then when I did think about it, I didn't stress much because I had convinced myself that it wouldn't work the first time. I believe because I took most of the stress out this way, I conceived on both attempts. Gl sweetie xox

[QUOTE=Miss.B;2993546]Well for me it was to forget about it (for the first few days I had taken residence on the couch with plenty of comedies on dvd) and then when I did think about it, I didn't stress much because I had convinced myself that it wouldn't work the first time. I believe because I took most of the stress out this way, I conceived on both attempts.

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Hi Miss B....I had my egg transfer toda and hubby was there beside me holding my hand. The procedure I was a bit uncomfortable for me but I will do anything just to have a baby lol :)
They transferred 2 embryo and hoping for a good result in 2 weeks time. Good luck to you and Merry Christmas :)

Best of luck to you Goddess! I did one IVF cycle but it was cancelled, so no TWW for me. When I did IUI for the most part, I continued on doing all the things I usually did (apart from heavy lifting or excessive exercise) to keep my mind from wandering. Actually, it was pretty much the same when I was ttc without AC except for the blood tests etc...

Good luck hun and I hope you get a nice BFP!!!! It was so sweet for your hubby to be there for you. Just take it easy now, put your feet up and enjoy some good laughs because otherwise you might go crazy just sitting there thinking about it! Fingers and toes crossed for you :crossfingers::crossfingers::crossfingers:

Thanks Miss B & Rhichichi :)
I will keep you update and let know the result
lots of hugs xox