(advice please) where should we go?

So, the girls dad and i are arguing, ha suprise suprise!
He tells me through the week that his aunty and uncle are having a chrissy do on sunday at their house as theyre going away christmas day, no worries thats fine, u guys go i'll stay home!
THEN mum reminds me that this sunday i'd agreed to have lunch with my late Pa's wife for her birthday/ christmas. this was organised weeks ago and i knew it was coming up, just didnt realise it was so soon.
Told adam of the dillema, basically saying sorry i'd forgotten id told mum we'd go around there for lunch already, you'll have to cancel your aunty and uncle (who we havent seen since jacks funeral in feb btw) and he kicks up a stink saying no, YOU go to your mums, im taking the girls to aunt and uncles.

Who wins here? yes i forgot but, i did say yes to mums first

Can you take one girl with you and one goes with him?

Tbh, the real issue isn't what to do on Sunday, but how you guys communicate & problem solve.

Personally, I think birthdays trump Christmas, previous agreements trump new ones & newly bereaved widowed grandparent trumps married aunt & uncle, but it's about what works best for the family. If you had similar values or ways of communicating, you may both be able to agree on what's best.

However, I don't think the issue here is about who's right or what's best but who wins.

Myfirst thought was to do that, but he has a 2 seater ute, and cant take either of the girls because they're still in car seats.
It really shat me how he instantly poo pooed what i'd said, his family always come first

aahhh Christmas, such a peaceful time of year! :lol:

I would of thought that first appointment wins. so your Pa's do would take priority. is there anyway that you could go to your Pa's and then head over to his family's thing for a coffee after lunch? best of both worlds and all that jazz...

i'll suggest that if he still has his guns up tomorrow. its a fair hike though, berwick to beaumauris. and i wont be going, cannot stand his aunty!

Can he go to his aunty and uncles and you to your fams thingy?

Why dont you take the opportnity to have so you time?

It might be nice for you take take some time out and enjoy some adult conversation and company without having to chase the girls around.

You take the ute and he can take the car with the girls seats.