Do I/Don't I ... the battle

It's no secret DH wants more kids, I thought i was well and truly done, in a sense I am. So why do I have that little nagging feeling, that one that is questioning my decision.
Do i miss the fun, the excitement of TTC whilst blocking out the pain, stress, tears and fear of it all
Do i just miss small little bubbas now the boys are so big
Do i just miss the feeling of pregnancy
Or am i desperate for my perfect birth

I don't know why Im feeling i want another, Im not sure if its for the right reasons. Not much point to this post just dont want to tell DH that im thinking of TTC otherwise he will get very excited and Ill never hear the end of it

How did you know you were done? Do you ever truly know or just settle for what you have?

I think you know.

My cousin had 4 and then when her youngest was about two, her SIL had a baby, cousin was having a cuddle and handed baby back and went "nope, nothing. Guess I'm really done!" so I reckon if you're still having glimpses of longing, maybe there's room for another one ( or two?!) in your lives... Maybe!

Only you can tell ;)

TBH, sounds like you what another baby. I don't know if you are one to 'go with the flow' but rather than analyse, why not just go with it & see what happens? GL

I guess im scared of what would come with having another child, having to feed 5, give enough attention to them, keep whatever sanity remains not to mention move to a bigger ouse which would cost a lot more .... but theres still that nagging feeling

You don't HAVE to move to a bigger house. Larger families are about choice. I grew up as one of four in a 10 square, three bedroom house - so we shared bedrooms and played in the lounge. Sharing bedrooms is absolutely fine. Teaches children about tolerance and understanding, as does sharing play space. And there's always outside. Some of my best memories are of outside. And holidays just become about camping or visiting relatives.

All the best with your decision.

we would have to hunt down one of those triple bunk beds i guess as the boys are already crammed in a room together and the girls already share, who knows what will happen though i probably wont ttc until the boys are in kinder so gives us a few years to plan and save

Divvy, your childhood reminds me of mine! My sister and I shared a bedroom and most of the time we were outside playing, using our imagination!

your boys are still young enough that you can certainly leave it for a bit longer on whether to have more or not! it will also give you the chance to sit down and speak it out with your DH on whether to or not go ahead with another one.

my DH and I are going thru that same situation at the moment except we only have one child atm! i had such a difficult and horrible pregnancy that i just dont know if i could ever go thru that all again. plus we are so happy with just DS that we dont know if we really want another one. sometimes i long to go again but then i remember all i went thru before and i just hesitate and get anxious. i am sure you will know if and when the time is right to either complete your family or know your family is complete

good luck with whatever you choose! :hug: