My mate lost his son :(

I am not sure if this is 100% the best place for this thread.. but it kind of is.. Its support for a good mate of ours whose sons funeral is tomorrow. His son wasnt a baby though.. he was 19 and died in a car crash last week. I have been struggling all week.. we (DH DS and I) spent alot of time with our mate (T) and his son (A) a few years ago, but hadnt seen them much since we moved a few hours away.

Recently A went through the usual teenage thing of not getting along very well with his Dad... the last time DH saw (T) he said that they had had a huge fight and werent speaking, and that was only a few months ago. I dont even know if they had a chance to make up :( T isnt answering his phone.. which is normal, I know what its like to not want to talk to people. Either that or he is also likely to have had a moment and possibly thrown his phone or the like :( I hope not, I have been sending him messages of support, hoping he is at least getting them.

So its A's funeral tomorrow. Its 5 hours drive away and as much as I want to, we arnt going make it, and that makes me really sad. I want to say goodbye and I want to be there for his Dad. I keep picturing him just so sad and angry. So close to Christmas, and also A just recently had a birthday, his last :(

So tomorrow at 11.. if anyone feels like.. please light a candle for A, its what I will be doing, a small token, just to know he is thought of and missed. He was a typical teenage boy.. he had his moments of stupidity (one really big life ending moment), but he was a special kid.. he had the brightest smile and a really good heart and a happy go lucky attitude to life. He will be missed by alot of people :(

Good bye Angus... I hope your in a better place somewhere out there, I am glad my life was touched by your presence, and I will miss you and hearing about your stories and adventures xoxoxox

I'm so sorry for your loss hun :(

I will definately light a candle for Angus. Taken way too soon :( :hug:

I'm sorry for your loss xox I hope
T is okay and has some amazing support around him xoxox


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Im so sorry to hear this huni. I hope T is ok and you hear off him. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. :hug: :hug: xxx

But he was someone's baby :( thinking of T. A day no parent should face. I wish it was closer for you to go today :(

I'm so sorry, I'll be thinking of Angus tomorrow.

Hey beautiful. you have my number (and ill try really hard to answer). Thinking of Angus and T. (and you guys).

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Thinking of you and everyone involved right now xxx

I feel your heartache and despair StarBright, truly. The loss of a child, at any age, has an overwhelming and indescribable impact on those that love them. I lost a very special friend in August in a road accident too, he was 21 years young. Each day I think of him, each day I miss him. I'd like to say it gets easier, but so far I feel the same-like I have a pebble in my shoe (I feel it, I don't like it there, it needs to be fixed, but its still there at the moment). I suppose though i've learnt to get slightly used to that feeling.

I once heard a saying that 'the loss of baby was the loss of a future, the loss of an adult is the loss of a past'. In our cases, the loss of both your Angus and my Jason is the loss of their futures and their past.

They are loved beyond this world, this life and well beyond our words.
Peace and positive light xx

Thanks everyone... it's just really sad... I keep thinking about him and how his last moments must have been, and then he's just gone. No more crazy Angus stories :( I think it is kind of worse too because it had been awhile since I had seen either A or T... DH ran into them on a few job sites recently, but they never made itout here for a visit... so I am actually racking my brain to try and remember the last moment i saw him... I think it was the day before we moved and i went around to their place to borrow something (and to give him $20 that we owed him!!) But I do rememeber I gave him a hug that day, i think that was our goodbye.

I think it will be a long time before I stop thinking about him and about T.. I made sure in one of my texts that I included our address and told him our door is always open if he needs to get away somewhere... so hopefully he comes to us soon.

Thanks again everyone xoxoxox