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ok well DD is almost 15 months old and the co sleeping is getting too hard with her thrashing around she has a cot and i put her in when shes asleep during the day usually falls asleep feeding (BF) how do i get her to go to bed without feeding to sleep is it possible i wont even start with all the night feeds
My DS made the transition from co-sleeping to cot at about 7 months old. I initiated it because, like you, I was finding it hard to get any sleep with him hogging up my bed. (Well done for making it this far!) I didn't really do much different. I decided one night he was going in his cot, and that was that. When he cried, I would go in and pat, rock, feed, whatever he needed to go back to sleep. Then I'd pop him straight back in the cot.
I think the main indicator of how sucessful the transition will be is how ready DD is. The most important thing IMO when making a change is that bub is ready. It makes for the easiest transition. I had tried earlier (when DS was 3 months old) and he just wouldn't be separated from me, so I abandoned the idea altogether and continued co-sleeping.
HTH
at 12 months, we made a cot into a sidecar of our bed by removing one side of the cot. i would feed dd to sleep and then put her in the cot. when she woke, she would generally crawl into the main bed, have a feed and then sleep in the main bed for the rest of the night. I began to move her back to the cot after a feed. If she got upset, she would come back into the main bed.
this got her used to having her own sleeping space. As she began to stop feeding to sleep, it also allowed us to lie down on the main bed, and hold her hand or rub her back when she was going to sleep in the cot. Over time, she began to increase the time that she would sleep before her first wake.
At 15 months, she slept through for the first night ever. At 18 months
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We transitioned DS in a couple of stages. First we started putting him down in his own room for his day nap. Once that was all good, we started putting him down in his own room for the first part of his sleep at night. He was still waking for feeds during the night at that stage, so I would go in around 11pm and give him a feed (he would often wake at that time for a feed anyway), and then when he woke next I would bring him back to our room and he would cosleep the remainder of the night in the other cot that was still side-carred to our bed. Then when I was 8 months pregnant with DD and DS was 19 months he just suddenly started sleeping through the entire night and has done so consistently ever since.
We're about to start transitioning DD now in preparation for the new bub, so fingers crossed it all goes well...
Good luck J!
We're in the process of doing this too! We were sidecarring/co-sleeping depending on how often DS woke up and how exhausted I was. Feeding to sleep and co-sleeping stopped working and I was spending hours settling him each day, so we figured while it's painful why not make it more painful! Can't get worse :) So we spent loads of time playing with him in his cot (so it's FUN to wake up there!) and playing in his room, we moved the pre-bed routine (nappy change, singing, books, feeding) all into his room so he has a quiet hour in his room before bed. He gets rocked to sleep and put into his cot, I feed him to sleep on the couch in his room when he wakes up which is a bit uncomfy so he's been super happy to be put back in his cot (awake!) and he rolls over and goes back to sleep. I've still been bringing him into bed in the mornings, but that's been a massive fail because he's very excited to be in a different room (he kept our bedroom, we moved into a different room) so we've started the day at 5am when he used to sleep til 7/8am.
So after all of that, to answer your question: you can move your DD into her own bed, but you'll probably still need to feed to sleep. I think doing 2 big things at once is a bit too much, check out the no-cry sleeping solutions book for info on how to stop feeding to sleep. Good luck!