I know it's taken a while, but I've finally come to the conclusion that....

if I want something done, I've got to do it myself lol.

I know this is nothing new to most people, and in all honestly, for the majority of things in our house DH and I share the jobs pretty well. What I"m talking about here is those 'big' jobs that don't need to be done very often, but still need to be done, but can also be put off (e.g. gardening or cleaning out the spare room). I"ll often mention to DH that I think we should tackle one of these such jobs on the weekend, and he will agree. When the weekend actually arrives his response is usually "I don't feel like it now, maybe next weekend....". It drives me bonkers. Usually I just agree and wait, after all, I don't want to do it on my own, but I've decided not to do that anymore as leaving these things undone really bugs me.

As a result, this afternoon I spent 2.5 hours gardening AND looking after DD (she had a great time crawling around and getting dirty) whilst DH played golf.....:duh: Admittedly, after doing 2 hours, DH came home and 'offered' to help me finish up. He seemed happy to help once the job was almost done but there was no way he was gonna start with me....

Anyone else have this same problem???

I do to a certain degree but mine is more about bills, paperwork things like that. DH is a gardener by trade and he loves doing the gardening, to the point though nothing else gets done inside. I pay bills, fill out paperwork etc.... so I guess it goes hand in had with filing the paperwork and things like that. I also have a system that DH would stuff up if I left it to him. Housework is a major issue but I am home part time, DH works full time so it is easier for me to clean on my days off, then it is done and we have most of the weekend together to do family things. I am also a little particular how I like things done, so I just do it rather than wait for DH to do it and then I jsut re do it anyway. I have learnt to accept things as he does it but it still iritates me to a certain degree.

I find that motivation often rubs off onto the other. So I'll go out to do xyz and then DH will 'decide' to come too.

Yep, if I wait for DH to mow the lawn it will be a jungle before he tackles it but on the flip side if he waits for me to do the paperwork we'll drown in paper before I get around to it.

Besides the playing golf you could almost be talking about my DH. I think he waits till he can see me finishing up something before he asks if I want help. I have started mowing the lawns and destroying the wasps nests because otherwise they would never get done. Taking the bins down to the road once a week is the only thing left for him to do, he does not even have to bring them up. Now I can say that DH completes 100% of what he needs to do:ROFL: