im at my witts end :(

OK how the hell do i stop my ds2 3 1/2 from wetting his bed at night time ? i have tried everything from not saying a word to growling to yelling to not saying a word again ...but i know its a ploy to get into my bed but im not encourgaing that (as i cant stand the restlessness) Last night he came into me drenched at 0130am and when i said NO ill make the bed again did we have a tantrum yep a full on tantrum at 0130 am . He finally got back to bed and guess what he wet the dry bed 5 hrs later with a pullup nappy on and the pullup wasnt 'full' .... So im up at 6am with two kids watching ABCkids and washing galore and two beds in Alistairs room wet with wee!!

Stick him in a night nappy :)

Truly.. Lots of kids are in pullups at night long after day toilet training. It's completely normal. They get dry at night in their own time. Hard one to 'train'.

:hug: it's really normal for kids to wet the bed. I dont think it's a deliberate act at 3.5yrs, but just normal night wetting. Does he normally wear pull ups? Can you use brolly sheets as well, or hospital blue pads, so you don't have to wash all the sheets.

Night time continence is largely a hormonal thing, and some kids need lots of time (I have a friend that used to periodically wet the bed until they were 12).

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If it isnt a deliberate thing then why is the pullup dry at times and he says 'mummy i did wee in bed' ..... he doesnt do this everynight so as i said when he has a dry night i praise him up and when it seems like a true accident it doesnt bother me BUT when he comes into me in the middle of the night with dryish pullups on but his bed is soaked ummm im thinking it must be a behavioural thing to get into mums bed.
And he has slept in my bed without a nappy on at all and not wet it and got himself up to the toilet in the middle of the night so i dont know what to do .... he is a very strong willed child as well

sorry girls i know your trying to help but it is just irriating me atm..... i know he is only 3.5 and he has lots of issues no doubt gong on in his little head but FFS im over it (and i now that i cant be over it as im his mum )

i think i should move this into the single parent post leaving his father vent 12 months on

If it helps, my 3.5 year old still has a full nappy overnight. And I remember when my DS was wearing nappies, he would sometimes pee out the side if he had been restless and his nappy had moved, and his penis moved over and... there you go - wet bed, with a dry nappy! LOL

Are you using a night time pull up? I made the mistake of getting day time ones and they couldn't hold the wee my boy does at night.

I know where you're at. I tried this a couple of months ago.... Dry at night, took away nappy, kept wetting, kept wetting. Got mad at me for putting night nappy back on him, but doesn't wake to go to the loo. It's tough, I was so tired. He is over 4.

Also layer the bed... So have protector, sheet, protector, sheet. If he wets top layer, a new one is under it, ready to go.

Good luck!



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Keep him in a pull up Hun! My DD was over 4 when she finally stopped wearing pull-ups and still occasionally wets the bed now....

If you think it's a medical issue you can go see your doctor...


Cat xox

my middle child is 6 and still wets every night. He occasionally has a dry nappy and a wet bed but usually if the nappy is too loose of he has been restless and ended up with his penis sticking out the side. The doctor will not assist us until he is 7 so we are just not making a big deal of it until then.

I would recommend making sure his nappy is fitting properly, and if it still happens then don't let him in your bed but be prepared to change his bed in the middle of the night and get him back in it if it does happen. That way if he is doing it deliberately he loses the prize of sleeping with you. Try a star chart with a reward for a dry bed, and a bigger reward for a dry nappy too. It's very tiring though, you have my sympathy.

There's probably nothing you can do except put a pull up on him overnight until he grows out of it. My 8yo nephew still wears a pull up and wets it every night.

Im hearing you girls and thanks for all the help and ideas..... now i feel terrible for really yelling and growling this morning :((

just remembered something a friend of mine did for her son who regularly removed his nappy and then wet the bed. She would put him in an all in one pj set but backwards so he couldn't unbutton it himself. Not so good if you want to encourage him to get up to the toilet but if he wets through every night and deliberately pees in his bed then it could be an option for you.

I was going to say what Traveller just said. A friend of mine's little boy was waking with a wet bed but dry nappy, and after watching him a few nights she worked out that he was not really waking properly when he got the urge to wee. The little guy was still mostly asleep but probably thought he was doing the right thing by pulling his nappy down to wee IYKWIM - just was too much asleep to actually get up to the toilet. She put his pjs on backwards, but also sewed the shirt to the pants so he couldn't just pull the pants down. Worked a treat.

Good luck.

You can also go to the independence solutions web site and by "Connie bed pads" for kids. They go straight over the sheets, and if they wet, you can just pull it off, and you still have a dry bed. They also don't feel wet so your child does not become cold in a wet bed if they do not wake.

Good luck.

Thank you all for your ideas and i have just purchased a Connie Bed Pads online $67 well spent i feel :)

For the record, my DD2 is 6 & still wears pull ups at night.

My almost 4yo DS doesn't...

But I did notice with boys, if their bits are facing the wrong way, accidents will happen. Especially if his pecker (sorry, DS's latest word for it) is pointing up.

try a nappy instead of pull up. I find pull ups always leak.

and for the record, Ds who is 4 next month would have a wet nappy at least 50% of the time. its totally normal.

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