Birth Plan

im writing my birth plan in preparation for a meeting with my student midwife next week and im stuck how to word that i do not give consent for assumed consent if that makes sense? i want to mention it tactfully cos i dont want a cranky midwife when i need them to support me and my MIL works as a homecare midwife for the hospital. last time we had several things just happen without even my MIL knowing what was happening (she was one of my birth support people) and i really would like to avoid that again cos it was done in the name of getting DS safely here....but he got apgars of 9 and 9 so i dont know how necessary they was.

I don't think you need to be tactful, i think you should just be upfront with her and what you do/don't want from your birth.
That you want to GIVE CONSENT at the time on all decisions to be made, that you do not automatically hand over all rights and consent when you walk in the door.

i think you can be as blunt as you want - just state it clearly & simply. fwiw, my student midwife helped me write my birth plan - we shared a document on google docs & then we could both edit & add to it. it was great to get her feedback & help. otherwise there's some good info on the main bb site.

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If you're back with the same hospital then I'd be very upfront and blunt about it :) I'd make sure your people are aware of your wishes and ready to stand guard if need be. Hopefully it won't be necessary, of course! But, as you've experienced, sometimes our 'carers' just do as they please.

I'd say something like - You must seek consent for any procedure. And I wouldn't rely on a piece of paper, either, make sure you talk directly to the midwives on the day and they know this.

Yeah that's why I'm sorting out my birth plan with my student midwife now, she is going to be my first line of defence if I need it. DH is the do what the doctor thinks is best type so not much use.


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