VENT - Parents and issues at school

I've seen first hand what can happen between parents when their children have issues at school which is why I only deal through the school and not the parents. DD11 has been having issues with her friend who is very bossy, kicks DD out of their group if she doesn't do what her friend has told her to do, name calling etc. I have spoken a few times with DD's teacher who has been fantastic, he sits the girls down and tries to resolve any problems they have and gets them talking to each other. On Saturday DD had her birthday party at home and invited this particular girl and I saw first hand exactly what she does to DD at school she did at her party. She segregated the girls, used very inappropriate language towards another girl and kicked one of our dining room chairs over. Anyway last night I get a txt message from the mother telling me how mean DD had been towards her daughter at school since the party. I responded by saying if it happened at school please use the proper channels through the school. Yesterday for the first time DD stood up for herself and told her friend she didn't want to play with her and the other girls played with DD and not her daughter. With the issues at the party because it happened in my home I felt I had every right to bring them up with her so when her father collected her I told him what his daughter had done and he responded with "girls can be *****y" ok, she totally disrespected my daughter and some of the other girls, my property and caused change in the mood of the party. In the messages last night she never once addressed what happened at the party. She's now deleted me from Facebook, it's just caused bad feelings towards us when all this could have been avoided.

Regards,
Dianne

Sounds to me like the parents of the other girl have the classic "it's not my kid, it's yours" issue.

I think you've done the right thing using the correct channels at school to try to deal with the issue.

The other parents need to grow up :)