Has anyone else thought this?

Just joined this forum today and loved reading all the posts.

I'm 30 now and from 15-24 I was on the pill, 24-28 implanon and 28-29 the pill. The times I was on the pill, including the first 9 years, I would forget pills on and off a lot and never used any other forms of protection (seriously risky I know!). But here's the thing, I can't stop beating myself up and as stupid as it sounds I actually stress out that all those times I stupidly risked it I never feel pregnant! I'm only on cycle 3 TTC but I do stress quite a bit that something might be wrong with me :( Does anyone else have these types of fears? Probably not with the reasoning like I do but just wondering if I'm the only one constantly convincing myself I won't conceive.:(

Welcome!!!

I definitely worried, like you. Took us 10 months of TTC but we got there in the end and I'm expecting my little girl in September :)

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Hi Wecandoit, welcome to BB!

My story is somewhat similar to yours - on the pill for about 10 years (with lots of forgetting etc but no surprise pregnancies) and thought that DH and I might have trouble conceiving due to NOT having had a surprise after all the carelessness. I was off the pill for about a year though before we decided to TTC and we used "natural" methods of contraception during that year, again with no surprises.

When we decided it was time we were so lucky to get pregnant almost right away, I'm actually due next week. Please don't lose heart, it could happen quicker than you think, best of luck with TTC!

Ahhhh, yes! I joke that sex ed was a waste of time for me b/c I was on the pill until we decided ttc and it took us all up 13 months to fall & stay pg with our DD. I can't see how I would have fallen pg by missing one pill here and there now given how hard it was to fall pg!

Three cycles is not every long to ttc and most 'norma' couples fall pg within 6 - 12 mths. Perhaps look at using OPK's or shettles method, checking your cervix & mucus and taking your temp can be help too. Good luck

Hi & welcome to BB!
I didn't forget many pills (and the couple of times I did/got sick in the tummy we used alternative contraception) so I am confident that we were protected throughout the years I was taking it.
Having said that, I certainly found that around the third cycle of TTC I had very similar feelings to you. Was there something wrong?? (Especially since we'd been having more sex than we ever had before and I was pretty confident about my ovulation times). We were fortunate enough to conceive shortly afterwards. I think it's really hard to avoid those feelings, and after experiencing them I can come close to appreciating how much these feelings must be amplified for LTTTCers. Hang in there and keep positive! A beautiful healthy pregnancy could be right around the corner :) All the best.

It took me 12 months of TTC after I came off the pill to conceive my first and I had the exact same thoughts!

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You spend so much time in your life trying not to get pregnant and then for me, once I fall pregnant, it seems just as much of a task to stay that way! Somewhat ironic.

Welcome to BB :D

I remember thinking what cruel irony it would be if I wasn't able to fall pregnant naturally after being on the pill for over 10 years. First son was conceived after 9-10 months and a miscarriage. My first daughter was conceived 12 months later. Then our precious surprise was conceived 4-5months after my daughter was born despite breastfeeding 2 kids around the clock, lol. Keep your chin up and best of luck :)

Welcome to BB. :)

I think that what you are thinking is completely normal.
As PPs have said, it takes many couples 6-12 months of TTC before falling pregnant. When I first got anxious about TTC my doctor told me to come back only if we had tried TTC for 6 months with no success, i.e. that it is completely normal for it not to happen straight away.

GL with your TTC journey. Hope it happens for you real soon.

I had exactly those thoughts. You spend all your pre trying life being told to be 'careful' so you don't have a baby by 'accident' and it makes you believe looking a boy will make you pregnant. You come off the pill and realise it's nt that simple lol

Thank you so much for all your replies. I feel much better knowing I'm not the only one who's felt this way. I try not to be negative about things and just enjoy the experience but as everyone probably already knows its not easy not to think about something you want so bad, lol. Thanks again :-)

Similar story here- I was 30 when I conceived DD and it took at least 18 months to make her. Prior to that I'd been on the pill since I was 18 with a few shortish breaks from it.

the irony....

I seriously never thought about it - I seriously thought I'd just pop easily... no one in my family had ever had trouble.....

unfortunately I am one of the unlucky ones - but mostly people take 6 - 12 months - so you have heaps of time!!

Keep your chin up and use the TTC groups - the support in here is great :)

You're not alone *hug* I had a similar experience - pill for 15+ years, plenty were skipped but not even a scare. Then when you really want it, it doesn't happen.

It took us 18 months as we had fertility issues, but I didn't suspect this until about cycle 10/11.

I know it's much easier said than done, but don't beat yourself up hon - and try not to stress. Your body may still be adjusting, cycles can take a while to get on an even keel. I can't remember the exact stats but the minority fall pregnant in the first 6-9 months of trying, not the majority.

Keep up the boudoir antics! Hope you get a BFP soon, good luck.

You are all so wonderful, thanks for the support, I'm actually feeling lots better after all your posts. Think I might actually be lurking around this forum more often :-) argh, the emotion of it all! Yes, the irony! Have a great weekend everyone.

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I try not to be negative about things and just enjoy the experience but as everyone probably already knows its not easy not to think about something you want so bad, lol

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Ooh, I totally understand! For me it was the same once I was pregnant then through birth and beyond... These people we're making, extensions of ourselves but still their own entities, take up so much emotional energy! It's as it should be. Keep plugging away and you know where to find some support if you need it.