Petrified of giving birth again [VENT]

Sitting here bawling my eyes out because i am in so much pain (i think hes engaging/partially engaged) having very irregular BH and tightenings.

I wouldn't say DDs birth was traumatic but the labour was horrible. The pain i was in for hours and hours, spending close to 2 hours pushing feeling like i was getting no where. But when i did it i felt proud and i still do feel proud of being able to deliver a posterior baby (mostly) drug free.

I've felt nervous most of the pregnancy of giving birth again but was reassured at every check up that bub was in the right position. Then at 30 weeks found out he had moved to breech/transverse which then i was told at 33 weeks if he didn't go back down we would be looking at a c section. Cue a hell of a lot of nerves and tears. Then when i had my fall, had an ultrasound which showed he is head down but now in the posterior position. DD was always posterior, they reassured she would turn but she never did so now i am absolutely terrified of delivering another posterior baby.

I have a check up today at the hospital where ill probably end up breaking down as i am just so scared. Worst of all i have to go alone as DP is working and my mum is taking DD.

I know babies can change positions right before labour and during but because DD never did i'm not at all confident about it...

Wishing you all the best. Hope they give you news bubs is anterior now but You did it once be confident you can do it again :)

Hi there,

Big hugs ... it can be petrifying, and I understand those fears and fluctuations of thoughts and emotions and hormones, and so forth ...

I wish I could do something to help, but let me just say that you're not alone, and I get it.

You will be ok, and as the saying goes, this too will pass ...

This time next month, all you'll know if that your two kids are perfect and healthy and happy, and it's because of you :)

:heartbeat:

nutter

Hope everything works out for you and bubs plays nice.

My little man was breech, an ECV performed last Friday at 37+4. He turned himself out again that night so I was doomed for c-section and petrified as DD's labour was long but no real complications.

Woke up to a massive roll from him Tuesday morning, been in agony since and found out yesterday that he is locked and loaded ready to go! So they can definitely keep you on your toes (I was given until tomorrow to ensure he was head down otherwise a c-section would be booked for next week)

Just keep the positive thoughts going where possible, and remember you've done it once, you can do it again :)

Big Hugs LMS.. I have delivered 2 posterior babies & the last one was 9lb 6oz.
Did they know that your DD was posterior during your last labour? With my first we did not know until he was crowning. With my last though, I knew in myself that something was different.
I found staying upright as much as possible helped the 2nd time round & I also found that standing against the bed (with it raised right up) with a towel (could be anything) hooked around my lower back/tailbone area while holding on to it with my hands & pushing into it helped heaps. Im not sure if you can picture what I mean, but basically I had the towel looped around me & while holding it, I also had my hands on the bed, So I was pushing my bum/back into the towel while leaning on the bed. KWIM?
That pressure applied to the lower back really made a difference. As did standing & letting gravity do its thing.

My first labour & birth was for me, traumatic. It was textbook perfect but I was scared, unprepared & yeah it scared the crap out of me.

Trust your body, read up on the spinning babies website & ask that they guide you through your labour with the suspicion your bub is posterior. A posterior labor should be managed/approached differently to a normal presentation.

Just remember that every pregnancy, labor, birth, baby is different. Try to let go of your fear, talk about it, gain the reassurance & confidence you need. The one thing that will impact on this labor & birth is your fear. If your mind is scared, your body will be tense & that is not a ideal state to be in while in labor.

My ob has told me that second baby can move into the correct position in the middle of labour. Mine is still sitting outside of my pelvis and I was due a few days ago.

And I know where the pushing fear comes from too - I started pushing with DD at 7am and she wasn't born until almost 12pm.....so that part I'm dreading. Gas made me throw up, pethadine sent me to sleep between contractions and they tried to get the epidural in my back and failed - after four shots at it. So I'm going in this time with a TENS and knowing there isn't a lot else they can do pain relief wise.

But you know what's been helping me? Start reading the birth stories on here. There are some hugely inspirational ones that have given me a huge amount of courage. I let fear overtake me in DD's birth and be damned if I'm going to let it happen again.

Every birth is different. My 2nd birth was so different to my first. I knew morewhat to expect, and i had learnt things from the first and getting ready for the 2nd.

Posterior is not neccesarily bad, baby can definitely turn before or during labour but you also know what can help if bub doesn't. be active, no coached pushing, move, wiggle those hips. Birth hurts (it does for me anyway) but you also know the awesome reward at the end.

And FYI: contrary to what I previously thought, a c/s is not the end of the world. I had a (dare I saying it - empowering?) c/s and managed to look after my DS1 and DS2 and not get too isolated.


Absolutely I would have preferred a calm and relaxed waterbirth, I did what I had to do to get DS2 out safe and sound, with minimal risk to him and to me, and to keep DS1 and DH all happy and healthy and safe and relaxed too.


You will be ok. You will find out your options, you will determine what is best and safest for you and your family, and you'll do that, and you'll make the most of it.

Heya, just to encourage you, posterior births don't HAVE to be awful. As a multipara (second time mum) you will find that even if bubs is posterior, it is a lot easier to get them to turn during labour, and easier to birth them even if they don't rotate. Lots of hands and knees positioning, leaning forwards over something, and lots of pelvic rocking. I had exactly the same fears and DD2 was OP when I was induced... but lots of good positioning and she turned well before pushing, and it was a relatively easy birth. Hang in there, it is hard to understand just how much impact being a second time mum has, but it's huge, and you CAN birth a posterior bub.

xoxo
M

:hugs: I don't have any great words of wisdom for you but at the end of everything just remember there's going to be a baby in your arms no matter how labour goes.

DD3 was also posterior. None of us had any idea til her head was out. She sat side ways, in an awkward position til birth, then turned the wrong way (so did the last 2, but they turned the right way during birth).

You've gotta get some faith in yourself. Thats the main thing. You've done it once, you know what to expect & you can do it again.

Two rules for a posterior birth, 1 - keep active!! Thats the most important. Posterior births tend to have a period where everything slows down because bub is in the wrong position. Moving & gravity helps baby turn/descend to keep things going. So try not to lie on the bed (my middie sent me to the toilet, thats all we needed).
2 - use a bean bag or something & try being on all fours. Takes the pressure off your back. It works! Still hurts, but not as much.

I had DD drug free. The back pain is intense, as you'd know, but you can get through it. Use pain relief, but try to remain active. Try not to do anything that will limit your movement, because that can lead to c-section.

Have faith, you know what you're doing :)

DD2 was posterior but turned during labour. DD3 was posterior and the little miss stayed that way. There's no way to know whether or not they will turn, but you've birthed a posterior bub before so remember that - you can do it because you already have! Also, your second birth will likely be faster and easier than your first.

Good luck for your appt. I hope you get good news

My youngest brother was posterior. Being Mum's 5 birth (4th fullterm livebirth), she didn't even know. It was no more painful than her other labours.

You birthed Miss K. You can do this, no matter which way Little Mr is facing.

Feeling a bit overwhelmed by the support, thank you :loveshower: :)

I had my appointment and the midwife after palpitating my belly said that little man is infact in the ideal birthing position which i had to double check meant hes NOT posterior and she said nope he is in the 'correct' position so really happy about that. I won't get too excited as she said herself he has room to roll around.

Now to just be confident within myself. I'm just upset as i was really expecting a water birth but thats been put off as the new womens hospital has been delayed for opening until mid NEXT year! :doh:

To help me feel better my DP and mum said we will stay home as long as we can and being home and relaxed ill labour the way i want