Need suggestions for weaning & sleeping alone...

I really had no clue where was best for this, but didn't see the point in 2 seperate threads.

I've had enough. I need help with both DD3 & DS.


I want to wean DD. She's nearly 2 & after almost 6 weeks of being sick & clingy & feeding constantly, I've just had enough. I wake up in pain (SPD) just from the positions I lay in while feeding her during the night. It can go on for hours. The only nights it plays up are the nights she feeds more than usual.

I have no support though. I've thought of asking mum to come stay for a few days & see if she'll help me, but lately the few times I've asked her for a bit of time out, I've been shut down. So I'm not sure she would or not (even though 3 months ago she told me I should be ashamed of myself to still be feeding her :rolleyes:)

When she's finally over this bug I want her off. I noticed today she wasn't so keen on the taste of snot on them while feeding... but I'm not going there :lol: Would consider putting something else on them though...


DS. I want him out of my bed. DD1 & 2 share a room & I have DS & DD3 together. But he's scared to be in there. I don't know why. He freaks over the littlest things, no matter what I do to reassure him. A mouse running through the house will have him SCREAMING blue murder. NOT an exaggeration! He lays in bed & listens, overly paranoid, & the slightest movement/sound has him freaking out & screaming.

He has a lamp. Glow in the dark stars. I've offered leaving the light on. He won't sleep unless I'm in there. I really don't mind that, but if he wakes through the night & I'm not still in there he gets upset. He can't be in my bed. He sleeps sideways & ends up kicking DD. I've thought about changing the rooms around, but I don't know how to work it better. 2 sets of bunks, 3 kids all wanting to be on the top one :rolleyes: He's been wanting the top bunk for 2 years now, he's finally got it, so I thought this would be easier.

He's not scared of monsters, or aliens, or anything else a kid is usually scared of. Not 'something'. He's just scared/paranoid... about anything. The unknown I guess. I really don't know why, or what to do about it.


I need sleep. I need a break. I'm exhausted & have been for months because I'm not getting enough sleep. The last week has just pushed me over the edge. DD3 vomitting & diarrhea for a week tomorrow (worse overnight), plus a chest infection that took 3 types of ABs over 4 weeks to clear & now DS has been asleep all day (literally) with a 38.8 fever.

Any idea's/suggestions anyone has would be much appreciated!

I wish I wasn't alone right now...

Sorry clover I have no advice but I just wanted to say knowing DD3 is exactly the same age as DS1 you are amazing still feeding her, don't let anyone tell you otherwise! I hope someone comes and gives you some advice and you manage to get the break you deserve.

Clover: hugs honey pm ok

Can the two little ones go into daycare for at least at a day a week when the others are at school then you could go home and sleep for at least 6 hours !

My oldest is at school he is 12 and the younger two ds4 ds 22 months attend day care twice a week so i drop Ds off and school then drop the other two off and come home then collect them at 3 then collect Ds at 3 30sh then home .... works beautifully but does cost me $170 for 2 days per week . BUT it is sanity and sleep that makes it worth while. Even for a day it could be worth it :) They do RESPITE spots to at some centres as well .

:hug:
Everything gets so on top of you when they're sick and needy like that.
I'd suggest maybe trying this one step at a time.
What about night weaning first. You can try the no cry sleep solution or jay gordon methods. Or just go cold turkey and get ready for some screaming.

For your DS is there any way you could accomodate him in your room - mattress on the floor or somesuch? Just to get more sleep to help you to deal with things. I guess you've all been through a lot recently and many changes and perhaps he just needs a bit more time and reassurance to settle down again.

Would DD2 be interested in a "sleepover" with the big girls once she is better? That might break the night feeding a bit.
As for DS, can you get a baby monitor and show him how it works - that way he can call you gently when he is scared and not wake up the house.

Can't help you with the weaning, but we had similar problems with DD1. Have you tried putting a radio in his room? DD1 won't sleep without it. The other thing is white noise - a heater fan, a dishwasher, or a specific white noise machine or sound machine. Both the girls have a little fan heater n their rooms at the moment as it is so cold. I turn them off when I go to bed, but I find they help so much as they are noisey in their rooms it helps keep the other noises OUT of their rooms - my doing the dishes, opening the front door, or cleaning etc. DD1 now never wakes up before I go to bed and I am sure this is why. HTH :)