Obsess with me.... a ranty, venty tale of a woman possessed.

Just a quickie, I guess I'm searching for hope that this month isn't a write-off. DP and I DTD on cd 14. I didn't get a + OPK until cd 18, which seems quite late. We didn't DTD again until cd20, which bummed me right out, naturally. I still had EWCM though so figured I might be in with a shot. So considering that I already have a baby, I should know whether or not cm dries up immediately after O or not. Silly me, I can't remember. Let's put that down to ongoing sleep deprivation. (16 months and counting, plus a FT job..... *yaaaawwwwn!!!!* But that's a whole other rant)

Am I crazy for holding onto hope? The chance is kinda slim, but the cycle I conceived our first baby (sadly not a sticky), we only DTD once that entire month! What a fluke. And the cycle I conceived DS, we only DTD sporadically, and only once around O time. That was the day after I got a + OPK. Almost exactly 24hrs after the +. This time it was closer to 36hrs after. If I'm realistic, I probably missed the boat this month. Again.

I swear, when it comes to me and babies....................... it's never easy. If I do get pg easily, I've mc 3 times out of 4. My odds suck. And yet still I hope. It doesn't help that I'm exhausted and crampy. The power of the mind drives me crazy. I know I've been lucky in the scheme of things. Some women TTC for years. But I've never hit the 6 month mark of actively trying and having no BFP. And I mean a solid BFP. None of these crappy chems, where I'm a few days late, get a very faint line and within days start to bleed heavily. I don't call that action, I call that a kick in the teeth. I WANT ACTION. I want another baby.

Hmm, this turned into a vent. And not a quickie at all. So WDYT? Let the obsessing and over-analysing begin! Someone give me hope, or slap some sense into me. Tell me your stories! If not to educate me, just to pass the time. I hate the TWW. I've never done it so many times in a row. Over it! :wall:

/rant.

from what I have read and I am no expert you defiantly have a chance, sperm can live for atleast 5 days ( someone please correct me if im wrong) but if you DTD twice around O you can defiantly get pregnant!.
good luck

You dont O until 24-36 hours after you surge so depending on how frequently you did the OPKs (ie. if you caught the surge when it first started), you probably DTD when you were meant to. The egg lives about 12 hours too.

eta - FS recommend doing two OPKs a day until you detect a surge (get a positive), then stop testing and DTD three days in a row.

I rekon you're in with a chance. How far into your TwW are you?

hi hun,

pretty sure you made the window! sperm can live for 5 days! good luck hun. how many DPO are you?

baby dust xx

Thanks everyone. Careful N2L, you're tempting me to REALLY hope lol.

It's hard to know exactly when O was because I ran out of OPKs on the day I got the +. So i'm between 4 and 6dpo. Had some really 'hot' feeling cramps last night, so FX! The one and only HPT in the house is already staring at me.

Exciting times...

Good luck. The instructions with the OPK's I used said O was within 48 hours of the +ve. So I think you could be in with a chance. I really hope so. Stay strong. :hug:

ohhh so exciting!!! let us know what happens :hug:

With DS2 DH and I DTD at CD12. At the time I was ovulating about cd19 (roughly) and we DEFINATELY didn't dtd after cd12 as it was the night before he went out field for 7wks. Anyhoo, that was the cycle I fell pregnant with ds2. The cycle I'd convinced myself there was no hope for :D