DD has come out with a few choice phrases lately. She doesn't hear inappropriate language often, but often enough to use them in context.
What is the best way to approach it when she says the swear words?
thanks :redface:
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DD has come out with a few choice phrases lately. She doesn't hear inappropriate language often, but often enough to use them in context.
What is the best way to approach it when she says the swear words?
thanks :redface:
We ignore dd use of the f word.
Although I will admit to a giggle when DH said it when we ran out of fuel and she repeated it from the back seat
Both our girls do it too.
we don't make a huge deal out of it and just say that only mummy and/or daddy can say that... it's usually just the s word cause i tend to say it if i hurt myself or something like that.
They if they hear each other say it they pick each other up on it and say only adults can say that lol
i figure if i make a huge deal out of it it gives them the impression that it's this big horirble thing. Yes it's not nice to say, but i figure they will hear it from more people than jsut me...
Ds repeated the s word once, I said "hey? Oh yes, you're sitting!" He hasn't said it since. If it's the f word it could be truck..
Partial ignore here too, or translate it to be something similar. One night DD1 pretty much exploded with the F-Bomb, at my mum's house of all places, and she shouted it over and over. We all started saying frog and she soon switched it over. If she tries it, we now either ignore it or say that it isn't a nice word. It's pretty rare for her to say any choice word now.
Toddler: correct them with a similar sounding word "Wheres the truck?"
Kinder years: I go the dramatic over reaction. Not yelling and screaming. But lots of gasps. Looking around and making sure no one heard them. Completely freak out.
School age: I threaten with only ever being able to watch in the night garden and all music will be confiscated as that is obviously the cause ;)
My children have never said anything worse than "stupid" past the age of 2 before that it was the occasional mimick. This works. Preventative is better than cure. And even though stupid isn't that bad I still did the dramatic reaction. Worked a treat. I swore more than my daughter does at her age :redface: DD freaks out if she hears a young person swear lol.
I don't like ignoring because I don't find it works.
I find it difficult because they get it from me. :redface: I can't very well tell them off for it. I do try, but it comes out every now and then. Actually DS hasn't said anything like that in quite a while, but DD has started. It's a good reminder to watch my mouth I guess.
I've tended to ignore it or redirect to a similar sounding word, also. Not sure how to handle as they get older, though.
As toddlers I'd ignore it. Usually they're mimicking you and dont understand what they are saying.
Tbh my kids hear quite a bit of swearing and have never sworn. I've always Told them they're adult words and they're allowed to say them once they turn 18. I'm expecting each one of them to come out with a string of profanity on their 18th birthday.
Mine get it from me also. I have a pretty shocking potty mouth. I do behave around other peoples kids though!
DD1 would copy & I can't remember exactly how it worked, but I know that by the time she was 3 she was telling us off for using naughty words. DD2 just never really picked up on it.
DS on the other hand has always thought it amusing to stir me up by using them :rolleyes: BUT he never says them in general. Only to stir me & usually in a whisper with a grin on his face, or he might yell them out when fighting with the girls. Because he knows its going to get a reaction out of the girls :rolleyes: I ignore if he's stirring, but I will pull him up when he's fighting with the girls.
DD3 has just started to say sh*t if one of us drops something :lol: I ignore it for now. She doesn't say it all the time & she'll forget it soon enough.
Considering I had an ex who thought it was hilarious to get the kids to say curse words & TOLD them to tell me to 'get effed' I think I've done darn well. I don't allow my kids to say stupid or idiot either. They find enough ways to put each other down without those words. Another thing DD1 picked up on from her father that I'm still struggling to deal with.
It's weird. I swear in front of DD but she would never dream of swearing. She won't even say shut up.
I have always told her that only adults are allowed to swear. Not sure if that has anything to do with it :dunno:
I'm a shocking swearer, DS has picked up the F word and the S word, when I first heard him say it, I did the big over reaction thing and a very firm "DO NOT say that word!" then wnt on to explain that its not a nice word and mummy and daddy shouldnt be saying it either.
In saying that I have tried to curb my language a bit in front of him, using creative add in "fudge" "flippy flop" sugar...etc...
now he tells me off if he hears me swear, he grabs my hand and looks at me with a big frown, "dont say that word mummy!!!" ahh kiddies...
Vic had a phase of "ohh *****" - and used it in context (fluke) in front of MIL, when he dropped his sippy cup and turned around and said oh Sh** :redface:
i changed the poo word for "shoot" or sharr (star) and he stopped it in a bout a week.