Can it seriously get any worse??

I just called CSA to find out how long it takes for them to get no payments before they start taking payments from ex's wages/employer. Well...

4 years ago we were seperated & I asked CSA to collect. Ex gave/loaned me some money towards christmas & something else. I can't remember now, but it was money from him to me & it was put in my account & told CSA it was child support. Well, half of it was, the rest was a loan at the time (though not paid back, coz we got back together later on.
I declared it thinking that if there was a random check of my bank account they'd see that & it might cause trouble.

Not long after that I said I'd collect privately, then we got back together. Apparently that money I told them about wasn't needed in the past 4 years & just sat there on their system.

So... 4 years later, after recieving nothing for 9 months of being seperated (and not a cent for 5 months before we seperated) I call to find out whats happening with the collection, only to be told that he is in CREDIT & that he won't have to start paying me again til about February next year! Right as my assessment goes up to over $100 a week, so my c'link payments will go down, yet I won't be getting any money to make up for it!

How is that fair? I know that if the payer is on a higher income than her/his assessment, s/he doesn't have to back pay when the assessment amount goes up, so why is this happening to me? That was 4 damn years ago! He hasn't paid me a cent in over 9 months of being seperated. But they'll only back pay me for 3 months of that.

Feeling pretty ripped off & screwed over right now, & I did it to myself :( I'm only just managing on what I'm getting from c'link now, I can't afford to lose more money :(

Oh hun. Sorry this is happening to you. I don't get all the CSA stuff. Hopefully things get better soon. x

I really don't get it all either. Even the person I spoke to was confused when trying to understand & explain this to me. No tax returns have been filed for the past 2 years either, so that confuses things more.

Thats really crappy, so what are you meant to do in the meantime? Does he deliberately not file tax returns so to avoid paying child support? And I guess your Family Tax A will be affected too won't it if they think you are getting money from ex. Even if you are on paper "ahead" of payments why can't that ex of yours step up and look after his kids so they can have more than very basics!

From what i've been told, they 'have bills to pay you know'. 2 working adults with no kids, obviously need their smokes & alcohol more than my kids need the basics of life. I spat it when SHE said that. And the moron told me they had to book up smokes that day. You've got to be ****ing kidding me? I don't smoke or drink until my kids are fed, clothed, housed etc etc.
Seriously peeved over the pure immaturity & stupidity.

:hug: lovely.
I would say that I "hope" he gets his act together soon but it doesn't sound like he will.
Do you have any other supports around in the mean time?