Does my DH have a problem?
OK, I know I should maybe talk to a professional about this, but the area expert is my boss so I thought I’d just see if anyone here thinks this is normal.
My DH doesn’t want to have sex! He’s happy with about once a week, if that! I did coerce him into it a bit on Saturday (not that it took much doing), but I did have to guilt him heavily the night before pointing out that it was TWO WEEKS since we’d last had sex. He wasn’t Mr Up-and-at-‘em (so to speak) before the pregnancy, we’d usually only have sex on a weekend, but I’m really feeling it now! I know that relationships go through times like, but he’s been like this for ages. Didn’t bother me pre-pregnancy, but while I was on the Pill and now I’m pregnant it really annoys me and I feel like I’m constantly nagging him for sex, when in fact it’s usually been over a week when I start really pestering him. This isn’t normal for a young man, right? He’s 25, so not exactly too old. At first he was happy with up to three times a day (more so than I!) but that slowly faded to every night, then every other night… now every other week. I did ask him if he thought he had a libido problem and he said no, but I’m sure this isn’t normal! It has been well over a year of this – does he just not fancy me that much any more? It really bugs me, because when I was working 14-hour days and would come home and he’d expect sex (sometimes), now even on the weekend, or on a Friday when he only works for 5 hours then plays on the computer, it’s too much of an effort for him! It’s so annoying. It’s not like I ever demanded mid-afternoon sex, although the second he does he doesn’t let it drop until I give in. He gets really mad at me if I try that tactic, or mention more than once or twice a day that maybe we should be getting jiggy once in a while. As I say, it's usually been a week or so before I start with that!
Do you think my DH has a problem, or do you think that I have a problem (be honest!)? I’d be happy with, I don’t know, maybe once mid-week and on weekend nights too. I didn’t think that was too much, but it seems to be! DH is more mornings than nights, I can live with that so long as he doesn’t just jab it in my back for an hour then get out of bed leaving me frustrated! And think I have the problem! Also, what are the ethics of getting some testosterone gel and just giving him a massage, or putting it in his shower gel? (That was a joke, just in case you are scared for my DH!)
BTW, I've tried all the sexy undies/clothes/microminiskirts/makeup/food/doing all the housework... and his idea of a bedtime story is entitled "Cuffbert the Smelly Wolf", anything "nicer" I come up with I'm told that it isn't suitable for children... that was the idea, you fool!