Wishing well card

I am helping a friend with her wedding invites. She is having a wishing well at the wedding and hoping to get some money so they can have a honeymoon. I need help with the wording. this is what we have so far.

"We are lucky enough to have set up our home, so we would truly appreciate any contribution so that we may enjoy a honeymoon a little later in the year. There will be a wishing well at the reception in which we would love to receive your greeting card and contribution. Alternatively, XXXXX has a list with a few gift ideas and may be contacted on xxxxxx"


1) don't like having contribution twice
2) don't like having so twice, but not sure wht the first one should be changed to.
3) love any other suggestions.

thank

This is the poem my SIL had in her invitation:

" many of our guests have enquired,
for a gift idea to be inspired,
like many couples today,
we have most things anyway,
if you would like to give, it is our request
ffor something for our treasure chest,
A gift of money, you can afford,
is just what we need, you can be assured,
without the help of this little pun,
our honeymoon would not be much fun"

I have come across better worded ones, but if you can find a site that has quite a few its possible to chop and change to get the wording exactly right :)

I'm one of those people who hates being asked for a cash gift, although I do note that you have also given the option of gift ideas from someone. Just a suggestion, what about setting up an account with a travel agent? I have been to a couple of weddings where this has been done and I personally feel much happier contributing money which I know will be going towards a honeymoon... Not a big night at the pub and the pokies like my cousin did with her wedding cash!

Yeah, i don't really like giving cash either, but its what she wants. The honeymoon is most likely not going to need a travel agent, so that won't work. They are more the hardworking, not much money type not so much big drinking/pokies type.

A friend is getting married in March and is having a wishing well, this is the poem she has on her invites:

"Soon you will hear our wedding vows,
As friends and family wish us well,
Our household treasures are not brand new,
We have twice the things we need for two,
Since we have our share of dishes and bedding,
We're having instead a wishing well wedding,
But more important we ask of you,
Your prayers of love and blessing too!"

I thought that was quite a nice way to ask for money instead of gifts

I think the poems are cool - I think it is great to ask for money if that is what they want, and I applaud anything that results in less 'stuff' in the world so holidays are great.

We had some friends use a site where basically they set up a list of things for their honeymoon and then you contributed money towards them - at the end of the day they just get the money so could if they wanted blow it on pub and pokies (in my mind if that is what they want to do with it so be it) but it showed a bit more of what the honeymoon would be like so you could contribute accordingly. But say their honeymoon was in Portugal it would have a list of things including flight/accommodation etc you could 'contribute' towards but also things like 'relaxing massage' or 'parachute jump' or 'bottle of champagne and roses' etc etc so meant you could choose to put your money against whatever you thought suited you and your relationship with the couple the best.

That was fun, but probably some work to set up and no doubt the site gets some money for it - so I think the poems are great (particularly the second one which doesn't actually 'ask' for anything)

For re-wording - How about

"We are lucky enough to have set up our home, therefore we would truly appreciate any contribution so that we may enjoy a honeymoon a little later in the year. There will be a wishing well at the reception to receive your well wishes. Alternatively, XXXXX has a list with a few gift ideas and may be contacted on xxxxxx"

DD2 is getting married soon and are having a wishing well for large household items as they have the smaller ones as she has been living with a girlfriend.

What I think they are going to do is with their invitations have an envelope with their names on it and also include tag to hang on the tree to show who has given a gift of money. They don't want to know how much a person has given but want to be able to thank those who have given.

I am one who would prefer to give a present as the one wedding we went to who asked for money for the honeymoon was because they spent it on pubs etc instead of saving. Other weddings we have been to have put down exactly where the money would be spent.

When we got married I thought it was in poor taste to flat out ask for money, so we told our close family and friends and the word spread. We did receive a few lovely gifts but mostly $$$.

I'm not a fan of the asking for money, but given that my wedding nearly 9 years ago was the last wedding that I've been to that hasn't asked for money I'm kind of used to it by now.

In terms of wording I actually would prefer people come straight out and ask, instead of dressing it up in a poem and trying to make it sound all cute and novel. Something like:

We already have a household fully of lovely things so we are asking for wishing well contributions towards our honeymoon later in the year. Of course we will love and be grateful for any gifts received.

I'm actually with LL. I prefer simple plain english to cutsey poems. So i think you are on the right track.

I have had to travel and pay for accomodation etc for a number or recent weddings. Will many people be doing this? If so, i question the suggestion that guest can give more or alternatively a gift from the list. Sometimes just being there has cost a guest a whole lotta money.

I like Rivlas suggestion - i wouldn't want to know how much people gave either.

You could cut the sentence about the wishing well to just "there will be a wishing well at the reception".

Please no dreadful poem. I hate them.
I think it's nice of your friend to specify what the cash is being used for. I much prefer to give cash if I know where it is going.


"We are lucky enough to have our own home set up so we don't need many gifts. We are planning a honeymoon a little later in the year and we would truly appreciate any contribution you could make towards that. There will be a wishing well at the reception in which we would love to receive your greeting card and a cash gift. Alternatively, XXXXX has a list with a few gift ideas and may be contacted on xxxxxx".

Thank you all. Have got something that sounds good now (and no poem!).