Does anyone else feel the need to clean before your partner gets home?

Just wondering.....

Now that I'm lucky enough to be home looking after the girls this year, I like to try and do as much as I can around the house so DH doesn't have to (just to let you know, he has NEVER said he expects this at all). Anyway, before he comes home I find myself doing a quick run around the house picking up toys to make it look a bit less chaotic (other cleaning jobs are generally done already).

Does anyone else feel the need to do this?

the only thing I do is stack the dishwasher and only if the plates have been more than a day. plus he rarely gets lunch at work so makes something when he gets hone so I have a clear spot on the bench for him (sometimes. we finishes at different times every day so often I do it for him while hevis alreasy hone)

Nope. Though because he gets home after the kids are in bed, I have usually done a little tidy to reset the house so to speak. If he happens to get home before this he joins in.

yes. most days I try. during the day the house gets so messy with 2 kids at home.
its just nicer I think. I would feel swamped if I came home to our mess

Yep :)

But its more for me than anything. I usually get my motivation-to-clean kick in the late afternoon/evenings anyways.

I do like to have a clean house with dinner on the way for him also. But like your DP, mine doesn't expect it at all (most days anyways ;)

No. But I expect him to have done some domestic chores by the time I get home.

Nope with five kids I'm picking their stuff up constantly so no special effort here lol

I always clean up when dd sleeps so its generally not bad when he gets home. I like the sink to be empty and I normally have dinner going. I love it when he's excited for dinner smells :)

Absolutely not! We share the cleaning. We both care fr kids while each other is at work. Generally we clean up together.

I think DH would think something was wrong if he came home to a clean house :lol:

I tend to start tidying as the kids wind down. My DH isn't home until 7 or 7.30pm so I like to have the bulk done so we can put the kids to bed together and then relax!

I tend to naturally get an urge to tidy a bit in the late arvo, I also prefer to get it done then, than later in the evening. So I do it for me, not for him (well on the days I am home before him)

Yep! I start packing up when kids eat dinner, then bath and bed. I like to walk into a clean house and Dh knows that so I extend him the same courtesy.

It's part of my end of day ritual and sometimes the only tidying I've done.

:rofl: If only you could see my house right now. It is an absolute disgrace (and it stinks!) and I cant move to clean it. Pre pregnancy I did if I had time/energy, but not so much for DF as for me. I hate mess it makes me depressed. DF doesnt seem to care at all.

No. It would set some pretty unrealistic expectations about standards.

We tidy up together after the girls are in bed.

I'm trying to learn not to. I need to put my kids first and lately I'm not very good at that.

I remember when I was home full time with DD, I'd sleep/relax through one of her naps and tidy in the other. It wasn't for DH, I don't like a messy house and this was when I had time. Unless we'd had a rough day or been out. DH didn't mind either way.

Now the shoe is on the other foot, DH finishes work before me and is home with DD at 3:30, whereas I get home at 5:30. I LOVE the days (like today) that I come home and the dishes are done and the floor is tidy. Certainly makes me appreciate him :)