VENT my baby is impossible

I know I've had a few woe is me posts lately, but dear lord I really pulled the short stick. As far as babies go, I got a horrible one.

I'm over helping him get to sleep. We have tried *everything* and I admit to resorting to cry it out. 3 hours later he was still screaming. He just does not want to sleep and fights it like nothing else. I'm not after advice, there's nothing more that can be done here. I just need to get it off my chest.

I don't understand. I really don't. I hate spending all night in the room trying to get him to sleep. It's averaging 2 hours of settling for 1 hour or less of sleep. Do the math. It's simply not enough for a baby. I don't want to do this anymore. I'm shaking with rage and frustration. I'm not unrealistic, I don't expect sleeping through the night. I don't expect to just put him in his cot, walk away and have him self soothe to sleep. I can do rocking, patting, cuddling, feeding whatever it is. I feel like my entire life is revolved around getting him to sleep. And I hate it. I do not like my baby.

Lady Neon no advice because I have none. I couldn't read and not post though. Hugs to you. Do you have some help?

Ok... I absolutely know how you feel. We had the same issues and I just couldn't find a way out. We eventually worked out he had silent reflux and he wasn't sleeping because he was in pain.
Is there any way there is actually something physically wrong?

I have plenty of help and support. So not alone. Just frustrated.

No medical issues. Just a sleep fighter. I must have been a Nazi in my last life or something :o

Sleeping - or lack thereof - can be the bane of a parent's life. Many of us have felt how you do. I had two great sleepers (DS1 and 2) but DS3 is a catnapper. I've worked out that for my (our) sanity, if he doesn't sleep after approx 45 mins of trying, I just get him back up and try again half an hour or an hour later.

Is your DH available to give you a break for a while? Personally I've been known to go punch a pillow several times over in sheer frustration when I just can't get DS3 to sleep (... not exactly a mature reaction, but hey ... doing something physical in a safe manner was therapeutic at the time!!) I know you're not after advice, but have you tried taking bub to a chiropracter just to see if they can help? I take DS3 to a great chiro and I swear by their adjustments.

Lots of deep, calming breaths hunny. I hope he nods off for you very soon xx

What happens if you stop trying to get him to sleep?

I have had two reluctant sleepers, and sometimes they just suck.

When I said we've tried everything, I really mean everything. Chiro, osteo. Diet.

HotI he whinges and cries because he is tired. So lose lose.

Huge hugs hun. No comment here just massive mid night hugs.

I posted a few woe is me posts too. Some lovely ladies suggested it might be an 8 month developmental milestone. I sure hope it is and that it wont last long.

Hugest of hugs to you hun, btdt. Does he sleep in his own room or do you cosleep? I was always set against cosleeping and my girls were in their own room from day 1. From the 4 month sleep regression, Miss G's sleep got increasingly worse and we had to separate them into different rooms as E was getting so disturbed. Separate rooms didn't work so we moved G's cot into our room which didn't really work either (we were regularly surviving on 2hrs sleep a night). It wasn't until we sidecarred her cot to our bed before we started to notice any real difference. She still isn't fantastic but after four or five months, we have finally got the side back on her cot. I think the huge thing for her is that she has always been quite a needy baby and knowing that we are always right there within touching distance seems to have done wonders for her sense of security. While it has been a hugely fought battle, her sleep is gradually improving now and she is such a different little girl. Maybe something to try if you haven't done so? Def wasn't a quick fix in any sense but getting there.

GL hun, hang in there

Having a sleep refuser is awful :hug: DD1 was like that for a long time (and still often is). My only saviour was cosleeping with free and open access to the boob. At least that way I got to doze while she fed and she was comforted and happy, even if she was still waking multiple times a night, it was easier on us both because we didn't have to get up and wake up fully.

My DS is 2 but has never gone off to sleep by himself. He just can't and gets far to upset. So I put him to sleep on my lap every night. Not ideal but works and is the easiest option at the moment. Will bub go off to sleep in your arms and then transfer into the cot?

No advice, sounds like you have tried everything so just plenty of hugs. Lack of sleep sucks

How are things now? Was it just a stage?

ohhh hugest :hug: been there, done that, got the tshirt.

Hang in there. I know that pain and frustration all too well.

Been through it as well. Still have periods of it. It sucks. We have recently discovered shutting her door seems to help her not see light outside her doorway or noise as she is a very light sleeper. My DH helped out when I could not physically do it anymore. We also have cut down her day sleep to get night sleep. I hope you get some sleep soon

:hug: hope you're doing ok

Arcadia, he is getting better. Thank you for asking :)

He is still rotten often but he is getting a bit easier. We are bedsharing now as its easier to respond to him quickly and he usually resettles himself if we are both in bed (he is in the middle).