the sharing of photos with your children in them..

Im sure most, if not all, of us do it, we give photos of our children to family members.

Is it alright for them to replicate and distribute that photo to other family members (including ones you do not have a relationship with)?

What are your expectations when you share photos of your children with others, family and friends?

Well I don't speak to my mum. DD is 9 weeks old and I gave my mums sister photos of DD. Mum told my aunt she would steal her photos and make copies if my aunt didn't give her a photo.
And as a photographer I'm usually very protective about anyone's pics I take. But I forget that other wont share that opinion, and I can't stop where the pics they have taken, end up. Unless I ask them not to put them on FB etc.
It's a tricky one.

I think you should tell said person to stop giving out the photos if you are uncomfortable with it.

I'll show photos of other people/kids/family members to my friends family, etc. But I wouldn't upload them or make copies to give out to other people. That's not cool. I don't even let my daughter's school take her photo to use in promotional material.

I am fortunate that my immediate family don't pass out photos except amongst ourselves (i.e. my parents, sister and grandmother) and no-one else. We are very protective of our family unit. My friends also know better than sharing photos of my children.

I did make it clear when I was pregnant with my firstborn that photos are only for the people that receive them.

If I wanted someone to have a photo of my kids, I would give it to them.

LS, I don't let the school use my son's image either. I also do not put photos on Facebook or any other social media or photo sharing forum. I email photos to family and friends or print them off.

I'd be annoyed if they gave out copies, if they asked first and I knew who they were giving them to I'd be very likely to say yes anyway, but the right thing to do would be to check first

I have a lot of family I do and don't talk too & I would not like it if I found out my sister who I talk to was giving my dad or other siblings copies of my photo's. I have sent messages to people saying not to share my information & that includes photos. I know Mym Nan would be showing/sharing with my Dad but I doubt he is actually getting copies. But it annoys me so I deleted her of my FB.

Thanks for your replies :)

Im of the same opinion as you all, that copying and then going on share the photos isnt cool, especially without consent from the original source.

I ask because in my opinion I thought it was kinda like an unwritten rule, that its not ok to copy and share pics without consent from the original source. Like we take a pic of our girls, give it to the inlaws, who then photoshop it, copy it and email it to the rest of the family. Now whether we get along with the family or not doesnt really matter, I kinda feel like they have disrespected us by sharing without consent.

But its interesting, I know that once we share a pic we lost the control of how it is used to a certain extent, but I have hope that maybe morals or ethics would apply as well?

But thank you :)

I guess im on the other side.
If my Inlaws/ mum and dad/sister take photos i dont have an an issue with them being shared amoung family. even ones i rarely see. we send a family photo out with chrissy cards but any that are shared around the family i dont honestly mind. im lucky as dispite the over-extended-ness of my family we're all fairly close. and it seems all of dads side have a "family collarge" on a wall with photos of all the family and vairying familiy events ect. I guess that i want other family members to see my kids grow up. I guess too with the resent passing of two close family members and seeing how many photos they had that my mum and dad had printed/emailed it made me realise that even though we didnt see them beyond maybe twice a year, they where still very much in contact with our kids and us. which means alot for me.

As for promo photos we had a photo shoot for the early intervetion service that have helped DJ. we saw that as helping them show how much good they do and help the *whole* family out too. we expressed we wanted no location shared but names where ok, as long as it was "shortend" IE D@z was DJ and V!(t0r was Vic.

Hell to the NO, should they give copies to any other person without your permission.

My MIL did this. We were unaware until someone made a comment on Facebook. She had been sharing photos (photos she'd taken which included a fresh naked DD & me in recovery, plus photos we had been messaging later on) with people we didn't even know along with family members we despise. Our feelings for said family members were well known too. It's just plain disrespectful.

Interesting question.

I take a photo of Liebling, e-mail it to a family member. I would not object to this photograph being e-mailed on with my knowledge, as if family love Liebs enough to want photos of him they like to share. I rarely e-mail photos. As in, I think I have done it twice.

I take a pic of Liebling and it goes on Facebook. I have to acknowledge that is shareable. For some reason, no-one has shared (unlike the e-mailed ones, which were sent to people I had never met then I was told about it afterwards).

I give a hard copy of a picture. You can show it to others but copying it for others would not be correct etiquette, IMO.

MiL takes a picture of Liebling. She can do as she wishes with it, she took the photo. I really wish she wouldn't take photos, especially as she loves the "no pose" type when I've just taken a mouthful of cake or am turning around to take to someone and look really gormless. On *every* photo. OK, it may be I just always look gormless but I hate her photos. I have asked her not to undress my son and photograph him but she still does (but not her other grandchildren). Thankfully, she asks DH to remove the photos from her memory stick and put them onto a DVD-player readable CD so she can show others. Those ones do not go on the disc. I also take copies of all Liebling pics as she is aware that DH needs to copy them to his computer first, so that's fine. I do not keep pics of anyone other than Liebling, as that is not appropriate.

If I had family I did not want to see a picture, then family members still in contact with the ones I did not like would not be receiving photos. Just safer that way. (Plus neither my mother nor MiL is good at not over-sharing anyway so I'm generally cautious about the photos I give out - these days, only school pics and haven't uploaded to FB for months.)