Is it all in my head?

My hubby and I have been off contraceptives since March. We had a very early MC in July and AF has been very irregular since then. I have had a sore tummy, cramps, swollen sore boobs and a general 'off' feeling for about a week. I have no idea when AF is due. The first day of my last period was 10 November.

I want to take a test but I'm worried that I'm just manifesting symptoms in my mind because I want to be pregnant. I hate the disappointment and I try that stay positive. I guess I'm just looking for a little support - just a 'hang in there, it'll happen'. I feel like I'm letting down my hubby each month when we're not pregnant, even though he is amazingly supportive and lovely. I guess I'm putting off doing a test as a no is a no - not knowing for sure is a maybe.

Any advice for dealing with the 'head stuff' that comes along with trying for a baby would be really appreciated.

I think the more you string yourself along with maybes the worse it will be if it's negative IMO.. I would just do a test. :)
Although I did three tests over a couple of days and the first two were negative and the third was a positive.. So a negative doesn't always mean a no :)

It's really hard when you start to 'feel' pregnant but are too scared to commit to the feeling in case your wrong..

I really hope your BFP comes soon!

X

I, on the other hand, am of the don't POAS school of thought. I think if you are constantly testing you are constantly experiencing disappointment and that makes me feel terrible. Plus I don think it's good for my mental health as it's just so depressing. And I am happy to live in the maybe. If AF is going to arrive - she will! In the meantime I can live in the illusion for a little while.

Only you will know what is right for you. There is no correct way, just the way that helps you feel okay.

whether you test is up to you.

But can I just say please do not feel like you are letting anyone down. TTC is hard, there is a reason why they babies are miracles. Even when you time it and chart it, and analyse it, its still a long shot. So you aren't letting anyone down, its not like you can flick a switch and say yep Im pregnant. (cause so many would do that if it were possible)

I say buy a test, a reliable test, a test that tests early. But don't test as soon as you get home. Wait until you feel like you are ready to get the results, then do it.

I had dodgy cycles pre-Liebling and so I didn't test until after my longest cycle for the past 4 cycles.

I was classed as 8w pg from that point. I was only about 6w gone, but it was a nice surprise.

So I'm in the "no test" camp too. I won't test until I'm a week late due to odd cycles anyway.

Thanks for all of your replies. Even just sharing my thoughts made me feel better. I guess the hardest thing is not knowing when AF is due - am I a week late today or do I still have a few days to go? Anyway, I've made up my mind to test in the morning and what will be will be 😀

So I tested first thing this morning and this is what I saw within about 2 seconds. Needless to say it wasn't all in my head. Very very excited!

http://img.tapatalk.com/d/13/12/16/zudy2a6y.jpg

Wow congratulations!!

Wow, congratulations!! How exciting!

Yay!!! Congratulations mrs Mac!!

Congratulations!

Congratulations!!!!!! Wishing you a very happy and healthy pregnancy xo

Yay congrats!!