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So I'm having a few issues and I don't think I will be able to work until my maternity leave starts... which is at 38w.
But financially I can't leave...
Mentally i can't leave...
I have BH that hurt when ever i walk - i can't get around a shop these days.
My Vagina feels like it's going to fall out and just aches a lot.
My work is amazing and supportive and i don't want to let them down we are already short staffed.
ugh
That is exactly how I felt.
I managed to hang in until 38weeks. It was such a struggle and although I was there I felt I was letting the team down as I wasn't working to my potential.
Its lucky I did as $3000 of my savings I had aside for my leave was spent within days of bub been born after a dental crisis.
Is there any way to do light duties? Like desk work?
Could you drop down to part time at all?
I had a similar situation. I started my mat leave early (@ 34 weeks) as there was provision for me to do so based on my medical situation. Before that point, my dr gave me a letter stating I wasn't to work longer than 4 hours per day, and my work paid the difference in hours as sick pay. This meant that when I went on (paid) mat leave it was based on my usual salary, not a reduced parttime salary. (You need to think about that if you'll be getting paid mat leave based on your salary @ the time you start leave).
Alternatives include asking for lighter duties or a work from home arrangement (if available) OR to reduce your activity elsewhere (eg, recruit help from friends, family, get a cleaner, shop online, etc). Also, see your doctor and/or a physio to find out if there's something you cab do to lessen your discomfort. :hug:
Mildez I'm hoping I can hang in there...
Art - my work has been fantastic I'm no longer doing home visits and they won't let me carry anything. I'm doing a lot of computer work, and only walking when I have to.
Tinks - no as it effects mat leave.
Marydean - that is something to think about thank you. Like I said to art, my work has been fantastic in lightening my load, and if I'm in pain They make sure I sit down.
DH has been fantastic at home, he does all the cooking and cleaning so I don't have to,he also does the food shopping - because I can't get around the shop.
My midwife has said basically there is nothing I can do that I ain't already doing, I have the SRC pregnancy pants to help with vulva varicose veins and aches etc. Just walking around the hospital for a tour of the birth suits was enough to start BH.
I see my doctor on Monday so will see if there is anything she suggest.
I feel really bad for work, because we are so short staffed, if I was to leave early they would be really short and it would put on a lot on the two FUll timers left. :( that and I'm worried if I leave Early the depression might get worse, it's already sucky. If that makes sense.
So... To add to my stress...
Completely out of the blue - but I might have to pack up and move... As if I needed the stress now...
I can't deal with this too... 11weeks before I give birth... And how I hear about it - I message the family member (i live in their invest prop - have for years) asking for permission for me to put solar on the house... Haven't heard from them in months and the response I get is, I need to sell go to the bank and see if you can buy now.
Oh no! Not good.
Bad things happen in threes right. . .
My step dad is in hospital after a suspected heart attack... hes okay and safe and sound in a high dependency ward.
I dont think I can deal with anything else happening.
Oh Cat, that sucks!!!! How nice of them to let you know like that! NOT!!! Like you need any added stress right now! I hope that things work out for you and the next 11w fly by and you will be holding your little princess and all this pain will be over and be a distant memory! We are here for you xxx
Oh Cat! Sorry to hear about your maybe needing to move house! And your step dad, hope he is regaining strength and healing well.. Big hugs..
I'm so stressed out, and that's not good for the Braxton hicks, they hurt.
I want to run away. I was just getting really use to the fact that I was having a baby and started preparing for her and looking forward to all that a baby brings...
But after this weekend I want to run away, I don't think I am going to cope...
An update on my step dad - wasn't a heart attack he has pericarditis.
Hugs Cat
Good news on your step dad, pericarditis is much better than a heart attack! Hope he is feeling better soon.
Stop stressing girl!!! I know easier said than done! I had to move house 8w before I had DD1, and I know its not fun, but these things are sent to try us! You will cope, you can do this, come and vent in here every hour if you need to! Let it out! There is nothing worse than feeling overwhelmed by everything and out of control.
Take one thing at a time, you can do this!!!
Wish I was closer so I could help!
Yes, a lot better the a HA!!!
I'm just stressing about everything, looks like the house situation is ok for now, after chatting...
I just don't feel like I'm coping very well. But I don't know how to explain that in why? I have my psych tomorrow so hopefully that will help.