How long after did u....

How long after birth did u have sex? Im scared but not sure if it will hurt or mayb I wont feel anything????

It looks weird down there now kinda not what it use to...

Its just that our 2nd wedding anniversary is comin up the wk end and of course I want it to b spec but not sure I wanna do it??? its been 2months so I spose I should do it but the birth was a bit traumatic and im kinda like dont want anyhting near it IYKWIM?

+ we havent done it for a long time we probl did it 3 times during pregnancy cause I was so sick and had no energy!

thanks girls im sure ur words of advice will help me (((flower)))

We waited for my 6 week checkup and everything was fine, there was no pain and i thought there would be as I had labour, pushing,then forceps then an emergency c/s. Try not to be too anxious either IYKWIM?

Don't put too much pressure on yourself, I'm sure DH will understand if you need a bit more time. If you're not ready then you're not ready. It's a very individual thing. I think we DTD about 9-10wks after Zander was born & that was after a c/s.

We dtd after 2 weeks. We hadn't been very intimate while I was pregnant as I so exhausted and had m/s the whole way through, so I couldn't wait!!
It did hurt the first couple of times as I had a small tear and it would sting for a couple of hours afterwards.
Maybe start of slow, and see how you feel, but don't feel pressured into it. It does feel really awkward the first time, so prepare yourself for that.

Hello, I agree with the others, take it slow and relax, tell DH how you're feeling. I also want to add, cos I sense you're still a bit emotional about the birth trauma, it might help to chat to someone & 'debrief' on what happened that day. See a counsellor if you don't have any one else who will listen in a supportive way. I had a very traumatic birth experience and in the early days, the prospect of sex brought up a lot of those feelings I hadn't dealt with.
Good luck with it, I hope you get the emotional support you need right now.

We didn't succeed until about 11-12w after the birth I think. We tried a couple of times before that but I found that it hurt too much to continue. Definitely take your time and don't feel pressured to continue if you don't feel comfortable. All the best.

Relaxing is the key, and so is making sure both of you dont have any expectations. i think we were abotu 6w or so? But it really hurt, and liek angel we tried a couple of times and stopped.
Lube is realyl important too - go and get a tube of KY and be very liberal in its application!!

Awe thanks girls i dont feel so bad bout not havin it yet but more confident it will b ok! wen i had my pap at 6wks i was surprised it didnt hurt so i think i might b ok! although i will take ur advice and do some debreifing angel as im really traumatised! i will try do it online in the debreifing sectioin thanks!

what would i do without u girls!?

LOL Leah I understand your nerves! We DTD about 4 weeks post baby and we were both nervous but everything went really well!

GL.