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Hi All ,
I never co-slept with Kaitlyn until she was sick at around 11months ....I was quite against us doing it personally . However now she will go through stages where she will wake at around 2amish and not resettle so I bring her to bed. I personally LOVE IT ..as I get great cuddles ...but at what age do you stop !....I still see her as my baby but she is a toddler I guess...what are your thoughts .
I never co-slept with Emily either but she also goes through stages of coming in to us during the night - she'll do it a few nights in a row then just stop. Then a few weeks later the same thing.
I guess for me I'm quite happy to let her do this as long as she wants. I like it, she likes it, and because it's only occasional it's not really an issue for us. I dont' think there's any age to stop it if everyone's happy :)
Hi Cass, with both our children we never co-slept as in went to bed together, but we have always co-slept if they have woken in the middle of the night, like you are doing now. DS is now 3 and he has just grown out of it....he still does it occasionally, last night he came in at around 2:30am. DD has also gotten good at sleeping all night and she comes in between 3am-5am a few times a week.
This hasn't alsways gone well though! There have been weeks on end where we have had both of them in bed for most of the night....and that lost it's special touch, it wasn't much fun! But things do improve.
Just take it as it comes. If it is becoming too much then stop it, if you think she is too old then stop it. Just do what you feel is right.....it's your bed and your sleep! Sometimes to us it gets to the point where we feel invaded and really push for them to go back to bed. Or if they are really upset I will get into their bed with them (mine are both in single beds....won't work if Kaitlyn is in a cot :) ). Also the cut off point seems to be midnight with us! Anything before midnight they go back to bed or I (never DH!) get up and settle them back in.
Just do what makes you happy! I love the cuddles too. Although the kicks can suck sometimes!!! :) Sweet dreams!
Our approach is to allow the kids to self wean themselves from our bed when they are ready. When they are interested we get them their own single bed and the ages they have slept there full time have varied (ds1 was 4yo, dd2 is 6 and still sleeps with us often and dd2 is just 3yo and is starting in her own bed every night but doesn't stay there for long). The key is to have plenty of space for everybody to be comfortable and separate bedding for older kids. We have atm a King sized bed with a single pushed up for dh, myself, dd1 6.5yo and dd2 3yo although dh often sleeps in another room because he snores and this is also the room where dh and I meet up for romance...
Mackenzie was one who slept fairly well but if she woke and we couldn't get her back down we would pop her into bed with us. Sometimes it was everynight for weeks then she would go back down no problems for weeks - it really depended on her and also how tired we were. This really only stopped when she moved into a bed at 22 months. Now she is in her bed (she will be 3 in June) she has probably come in and slept with us 5-6 times. However if she does wake up which is usually around 2-4.30am we go to her and she usually moves over, pulls back the covers and says 'jump in'. We fall asleep and wake about an hour later with a dead arm and then climb back into our bed. If she wakes at 6.30am she will come into us and we get her to jump in to try and get an extra 30mins or so ourselves but this is usually just play time - very rarely does she go back to sleep. I say do what ever works for you and gets you thru the night. There is no right or wrong.
thanks ladies! Glad to know there are others out there doing the same.
It is funny as we are due to replace our queensize bed frame - but the mattress on it is only 2years old and is a delux one ( cost approx $1200.00 from memory) so I dont want that to go . But DH said "We need a king , what happens when we have three kids " hehehe good point...5 in the bed and the little one said ...roll over ..roll over hehe.
we have Maria's cot attached to our bed like a sidecar, since we have done that she hasn't slept between us at all and we are all sleeping better.