Ectopic

I have been posting in a few other threads but felt it easier on myself just to post it here, so those who I have been talking too will get this message.

I was due to have an ultrasound last Friday (7w) to make sure I didn't have ectopic (have had a previous one). I didn't make it until Friday. Started to bleed/pain on Wednesday, was put in hospital on Wednesday afternoon and was urgently operated on, on Thursday. I lost my tube, but kept my life.

I may have some difficulties falling pregnant again due to tube and my age. A bit of a shock for someone who has been able to fall pregnant just thinking about it. I already have 2 children to my ex husband, by my new husband doesn't have any children. My new husband and I are having to come to terms that he may never have children unless we try IVF, which we can't afford. So for now it is fingers crossed my other tube is OK and will deliver the goods. Only time will tell.

My operation was a long one, with a few complications so I had to stay in for a few nights. The hardest thing is that I hadn't told anyone I was pregnant but my parents so I have had to tell some lies to cover up the urgent operation and put on a brave face. My stomach is so swollen from the operation that I look pregnant and am dreading anyone asking me. I think I will just hide away for a while.

Elle, i am so sorry for your loss.. I hope that you are able to grieve the loss of your baby with support from the people who do know.

Are you in Sydney, i think that IVF westmead does ivf on medicare.. not 100% but i am sure that there are options out there.

Wishing you all the best for a BFp in the near future xoxo

Elle I am so sorry. I had an ectopic too in November last year, and just so you don't give up hope for a future natural pregnancy I am now 7 weeks pregnant and this time the baby is in the right spot so it can happen. x

I'm so sorry to hear that hun at least you still have one left and your life. Keep up the positive thoughts and don't give up *big comfort hugs*

Elle, i'm so sorry for you and wishing you the best for a speedy recovery and a BFP in the future. :hug:

Hayley

Elle,

I'm so sorry for you and your husband. I just wanted to let you know I saw a show just yesterday about a lady in a similar situation she had one pregnancy which she got pregnant in her 1st month of trying and then her 2nd pregnancy was ectopic and she lost her tube, then after that she had 3 successful pregnancies all of which she conceived in the 1st month of trying. Remember it only take one egg and one sperm. Good luck....I hope me saying this isn't hurtful I just wanted to let u know that u still have great chances of becoming pregnant again.

Elle sweety, I am so sorry for your loss and the loss of your tube. I had an ectopic pg in Dec 05 and my right tube was removed. i took me a little while to get pg but with the help of a great NP I am almost 20wks pg, and can you guess which side i got pg from? The right ovary released the egg which resulted in this current pg, dr was very suprised at this becaue the tube was removed from that very side, so dont believe too much in what traditional western medicine says about your chances of falling pg again. Im proof that the loss of a tube sometimes doesnt change anything at all.

You take care of yourself and take time to heal your mind and body, and praying that you have a healthy pg soon,
Lisa

Hey Elle

So sorry to hear about your loss...

Just wanted to let you know that my friend had an ectopic pregnancy which resulted in a removal of her tube. She was pregnant within 4 months of the ectopic pregnancy and her little boy is nearly 3 years old...she also has an 8 month old.

Wishing you all the very best

Elle,

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I wish you all the best with your upcoming tries! Fingers crossed for you.

Big hugs....

hey elle,
i just posted a reply for you in my thread i was getting really worried as i hadnt heard from you in a while.I am so so sorry i know you were hoping that it would all be ok but there is still lots of hope just remember i am in the same situation as i have only got one tube as well so if you need to talk I am here for you. I am so sorry for your loss just try and keep your chin up as much as you can.My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Please keep me informed about how you are going.
I ended up getting AF 8 days late so we are now trying again so hopfully we will catch the egg this month round will let you know how we go but i have decided we are just going to try and have some fun with it and it will happen when it happens and will worry about the what could be when we Fall Pg.
Keep smilin
xoxoxoxoxxo

Hi Everyone & THANK YOU for your support, I can't tell you how much it meant to see people responding with encouraging words.

I am sorry if I disappeared for a bit. It is a combination of things. I wanted so much to respond but wasn't sure what to say, still don't really. I also have taken a fair bit to recover from the op. It got a bit more complicated than they expected when they went in, I won't know exactly what till I go for my follow up appointment at the beginning of May. Seems so long away.

I assume it is best not to TTC until after that appointment but I have such mixed feelings, all warranted I am sure. I kind of feel I don't have time on my side. I am 35 this year and well the gap between the children I already have and the one I plan on having just gets bigger each month.

Krittle, I am so sorry, I knew that there were people who I had left suddenly, I thought about responding everyday but couldn't bring myself to write what I needed to write. Can you remind me of your situation or direct me to where you have written it before? I haven't gone over to the TTC after problems forum yet, a bit scared and needed to finish this thread first. I will let you know when I go over. I know you will get a wonderful surprise very soon.

LisaL, what did your NP suggest? I was also told that the tube can float over to the other ovary, so that it doesn't mean one ovary doesn't work anymore. Makes you wonder though doesn't it.

For those who had fallen pregnant after an ectopic, I appreciate your encouragement. I have had a previous ectopic 14 years ago (thereabouts) & I was told that this preg was caught in the narrowing of the scar tissue of the previous ectopic. Knowing this has made it easier to accept that they took my tube, as it is obviously damaged. I have 2 children and a 3rd that landed in the right place just didn't make it here on earth, after the first ectopic, so I know I can do it, I just worry about the "tick tock" and maybe I have left it too long. I think my specialist thinks I am mad for wanting another, but I don't think he realises that I have re-married and my husband has no children.

I have no idea if I have written similar stuff here as I did my first post. So sorry if I have or I am rambling. I know I need to change forums but not really even sure which one to go too. I am petrified of talking about IVF but I know this will be a hot topic at my early May appointment as I mentioned before "tick tock". If anyone wants to give me advice, please do, I don't get offended. I have realised these forums are what will get me through one way or another.

A BIG THANK YOU to you all
Elle xx:)

hi Elle,

hope you are doing well. We met in the introduce yourself area i had a thread going when i was new and we also talked in your thread in the intro yourself if you want to re cap ( :
anyway i hope you are staying positive and keeping a smile on your face.
xoxoxoxoxox

Dear Elle,
I'm very sorry for your loss. I know that it is very hard emotionaly. I found out fathers day last year that I was pregnant with my fourth child. Everything was great, until 4 weeks later I was rushed to hospital. My right tube had ruptured, with large amount of blood loss. I was a mess. With my other pregnancies I had a lot of problems too. After that my husband and I decided that he would have the snip...Three weeks before he went for surgery I found out that I was pregnant again. My doctor sent me for an ultrasound that day to make sure everything was where it should be.
I am now 22weeks into the pregnancy and everything is going great. I pray, that just for once everything will go ok till the end. I'll keep my fingers crossed...
I wish you all the very best. And take care:hug:

Elle, sorry to hear of your loss. Is there any way of telling if you may have an ectopic without an u/s?

Elle - how did your appointment go sweety??