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I have just finished my 4th try which I think is another BFN, making 3 BFN and 1 cancelled cycle I am wondering could there be other issue's for us other than male problems? My doctor seems to think it's normal ( his words bad luck ) to have numerous failed IVF/ICSI before seeing a BFP, is this true?
Hi Jessie,
You are definitely not alone - im just about to do my 7th cycle with ivf. I did fall preg twice but lost both times - i will be going again in June/July using BIL sperm and hopefully this will do the trick - am still not giving up. Yesterday was a bad day - I try so hard to keep positive and most of the time I am but when i get low i get really really low and yesterday was one of those days - i said to DH that i felt like cancelling the cycle as we have run out of money and at times it feels just useless continuing - but he proped me up and said we've come this far we can't quit now and then he said I never figured you for a quitter so today I'm working on my attitude and trying to pull myself up and get ready for the next round - I wish you all the luck in the world as i know how devasting the negative result is. Chin up Jessie keep fighting for what you want and whats in your heart. :hugs: to you and i will send you some positive vibes.
It's really hard Jessie,
Our only indentified fertility problem was blocked tubes, and because I'd had children naturally previously, it seemed pretty straightforward that we would likely fall pg fast on IVF.
However, it took us 5 IVF stim cycles (1 cancelled for poor response) and 3 FETs to fall pg. In previous cycles, we'd never even registered the slightest bit of HCG, so were never ever pg before our successful cycle.
At the time, our Dr also told us it was just bad luck. I didn't believe him, so requested the head scientist at my clinic review my case. He too couldn't find anything else that may have been contributing to my repeated failure to implant. If we hadn't fallen pg on my 8th cycle, our 9th cycle would have been a PGD cycle, just to see whether there was anything genetically wrong with our embryos.
We were very very fortunate to end up pg without PGD, and to have a baby from IVF after all that time, but having seen my Dr since, he believes that we may have a bigger, yet undiagnosed problem that prevented us from conceiving earlier than this. If it's true, we'll still probably never know what it is, and if it's not true, then we were probably just unlucky for it to have taken so long(and unfortunately this is fairly common, so your Dr is not wrong there). Either way, the best you can do is keep informed and keep asking questions. Make sure you've had every avenue explored and don't let the Drs fob you off if you really want more investigative tests.
Good luck!
Thank you so much ladies. I have been having a really hard time with all of this lately and sometimes I start wondering if I will ever have a baby? But I'm not ready to give up yet and have made an appointment with the councellor at my clinic to try and help me get through this.
Sushee you gave both myself and Lissie hope with your story! Thanks so much for sharing it, it does help to hear other people that have gone through it numerous times and have had a beautiful healthy in the end!
Lissie I wish you all the luck in the world you deserve it! Hang in there we will both get our babies in the end :hug:
Hey Jessie,
Thanks for the good luck wish and ditto to you - just hang in there - its just got to happen right? Going to the consellor is a good idea, my consellor is fantastic, and i have found that it does help to talk to them from time to time. Sending you a :prayer:
Let us know how you are doing.