Reached 12 weeks, but still not relaxed...

Ok, so I was all set to tell the world about my pregnancy when I got to 12 weeks. Then, last weekend I had some spotting (very light brown only, no cramping, lasted late Fri night - Mon morning). I had a scan last Saturday (while I was spotting) & bub was fine - moving around & had a strong heartbeat. Sonographer said she could see some bleeding around the placenta, but didn't seem too worried about it.

If the bleeding has stopped & I didn't get any bad cramping, does that mean bub is ok?

I wish I could just relax & enjoy the pregnancy!! The midwife at the hospital said that I can't have another scan until 18 weeks, but that seems like a long time to wait! (My doctor said it's too early to use the Doppler - has anyone else been told that?)

I had a doppler check for heartbeat at 13 weeks when I had some bleeding, that was just my GP too (took 2 GPs to work it LOL) Do you have an OB? Mine checked heartbeat every time.

I was very paranoid with my last pregnancy and I asked my Dr for a reassurance scan./ They said if it would help me relax then ys.. They filled out the form differently so I was still able to gt the rebate and th scan lasted less then 10 minutes. We saw a heart beat and healthy bub and left it at that.

If you are going thru a hospital go back and see your GP and explain your fears.. Most should be understanding.. ((hugs))

MrsMac - I'm doing shared care - so yeah, it's my GP (maybe she could 'phone a friend' from the practice if she needs some help!! hehe). I don't have an OB. My friends said that their GPs used at doppler at 13 weeks too.

Nic - Thanks! Maybe I will go back again this week & ask to hear the heartbeat. If she still doesn't want to use the doppler, I'll ask for a 'reassurance scan'!

Good luck.. I hope they rescan you

I know exactly how you feel. After 3 losses my last pregnancy was very scary - and spot on 12 weeks I started bleeding - no cramping but real blood loss. Like you, scan showed bubs ok. Defnitely ask for another scan for reassurance but take heart - bleeding doesn't always mean loss - my beautiful daughter in my arms is proof of that! Good luck

Hi Ezz, I can totally relate to you! I had some spotting on Thursday (very light) and then my first rrimester screen on Friday. I was also told I have a placenta bleed. She wasn't too worried about it though and described them as 'abnormally normal'. Doesn't help me feeling any less worried though. Will try to take it easy for the next few days but its going to be hard because we are moving house!

Hope that helped in someway.. I have also posted the placenta bleed question in general discussion.

Ezz, I have never lost a pg or had spotting but during my pg with Flynn I spent a lot of time worrying about what might happen. I could lose the baby before 12 weeks; when I got to 12 weeks I stressed about the 20 week scan; once I had that I started reading the m/c and loss posts and worrying I would lose bub at 30 weeks, 35 weeks, 39 weeks. Then two mums in my Junie Belly Buddies had their bubs at 27 and 33 weeks. Then I realised even when bub was born I could start worrying about SIDS.

Ezz, I am not writing all this to trivialise what you are feeling or indeed any of the terrible losses a mother can experience, but rather to share with you how I dealt with the fears. I decided that I didn't want to spoil the pg for myself, and more inportantly, I didn't want to raise my family and spend my whole life worrying about them. That kind of fear is infectious and can really change your perspective on life and in extreme cases (like my mum's!!) almost make you incapable of being happy.

What you are feeling are normal fears, but please don't let them cast a shadow over your happy time.

Someone once said to me that having a child is like having your heart permanently outside your body. Welcome to the bittersweet world that is motherhood.......:hugs:

Rory, you made me cry! You're right though. I guess my Mum was a bit like that too (very anxious) & I've always said I don't want to be like that. Definitely food for thought. Thank you for sharing those wise words.

I need to remember that God has a plan for me & for my family and to trust in that. But it can be hard not be in control, can't it? I guess there are going to be lots of times as my kids get bigger that I can't control what happens to them. Maybe this is good practice??

Shell - GP, Dr at the hospital & my uncle (also a doctor) all told me to take it easy - not to lift anything - so be careful moving house!! I replied to your post in general discussion too. None of the Drs (or the sonographer) seemed very worried about the bleeding - just said to take it easy & it should be ok. (I seem to be the only person worrying about it!! hehe).

Lulu - Thanks for your kind words & sharing your experience! :)