1st bub = SN, who's had a 2nd?

I hope it is okay for me to post this here, I really need some help/support.

I have just discovered I am 6 weeks pregnant and am completely freaking out for many reasons:

1) I have had 2 miscarriages in the past
2) I had a prem baby born with multiple complications at 30 weeks
3) The above baby has been diagnosed with a complex medical condition/disability

I am trying to take one day at a time but am freaked out one of the above things is going to happen again. I was given the all clear for anything genetic causing the above things, just those things that happen unfortunately but it is hard for me to think that everything will be okay.

I am trying to tell myself what will be will be but it is scary. Can someone please give me some reassurance as DH won't let me tell any friends or family yet so they can't reassure me (and I'll probably end up having to reassure them!)

*hugs* I'm sorry that you're going through all this at the moment...It's so hard when you can't speak to someone in person sometimes! I'm sure this new baby will be fine :) I imagine it must be so hard to stay positive about it, but hopefully your DH can offer you lots of support too. Be sure to try and keep thinking of all the wonderful things about having a new baby and hopefully the next few months will fly by and a healthy wee bub will be with you soon!

Hi Lulu, so sorry you are having to go through this early pregnancy stage without the support of your friends and family. I don't have any personal experience to share with you, however I wanted to tell you about a lovely family that we're friends with. Their eldest child, a gorgeous girl, has global delay and is a great mystery to her doctors. She is lovely, but requires a lot of assistance for day to day living. Naturally, they were anxious about how their next child would be, whether he would have similar health problems. He is now three years old and is a picture of health - a cheeky, intelligent and affectionate little boy.
It was actually difficult at first seeing how 'normal' he was, knowing that he would overtake his older sister in their developmental milestones, however he is very understanding, protective and considerate of her in a way that I think is unique to those who have a family member with special needs.
I wish you all the very best for the rest of your pregnancy. I pray that everything goes wonderfully well for you.

Hi Lulu

Im sorry for your losses and that you have had a rough time:hugs:
And a BIG CONGTRATS ON THIS PREGNANCY:happyforyou:

I have had one m/c, and I was so sure that something was going to go wrong with my following pregnancy. But you know what- I went on to have the most beautiful little munchkin (a month or so ago) (I know my situation is NOTHING compared to yours) I couldn't believe it, and still can't really, that I went on and had a healthy little girl. Even going over all my scans and blood tests, I still feel shocked and SO blessed that they all went well. Like it was a miracle or something! But the reality is that in most cases people have healthly babies with no problems! But when you have been through something tough, you kind of forget that. I am sure that all will go well and I wish you all the best.