When does it get better?

Kai is 1 yr old now (oh my god!) and is still a shocking sleeper. Always has been. Even in our bed he wakes 3+ times a night. What I was wondering . . . . is there any 'common' age that they start to improve? I don't understand how he can learn to do something when we've shown him a couple of times but STILL hasn't worked out how to go back to sleep!!!!

Just found out we've got no 2 on the way and can't see how we're going to cope with Kai's sleep pattern AND demand feeding a newie.

Thanks in advance for your input.

I hope she does soon for ur sake!!! I guess ive been lucky.. my DD has slept thru from about 6-8 weeks... and only occassionally wakes now cos of teething!

it does get better!! DS was waking 6-8 times a night up until a month ago. Now he wakes up 0-3 times a night and sleeps 12-14 hours! I still pinch myself, as 13months of constant waking was a total nightmare, just keep telling yourself that it will get better. There was nothing we did that caused him to stop waking he just grew out of it (now i've said that he'll prob start waking again!)

Goodluck i hope he settles for you soon!

It will get better, I thought the same and was convinced my son was incapable of sleeping more than a couple of hours. From around 9 months to 18 months he was waking constantly, every single night and crying until we put him in bed with us/rocked him to sleep/gave him a bottle/ whatever we needed to do. Eventually we persisted wih making him stay in his own bed while comforting him only in his room and he learned he had to stay there. Then we let him cry abit in between coming to comfort him, nothing major just listened at the door while he whinged and if he got hysterical would go in and settle him. After only two nights of this he changed, for six weeks straight he started sleeping all night without waking or calling out once, from 7.30pm to 6.30am. I can't say it was really anything we did other than what i described above, he just changed and settled down. He has been sick lately so has been waking again but we know that is because of illness and he is getting better and last night slept pretty much all night without waking except for a drink.

It will get better, sometimes you just have to ride things out and know that you are doing the best you can and it is nothing you are doing wrong, kids just do this sometimes (your baby really loves you and wants to be with you all the time too!). Type into google 'sleep problems' and there are 1550000 results that appear. It happens all the time and to everyone and even to the ''experts'.

I hope you find the strength to get through it but in the meantime rest assured that you are doing a great job and as with all the other stages our babies go through - this too shall pass.
God bless you and your family
xxxxx