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I was just hoping if anyone has any happy ending stories about successful pregnancies after m/c? I just need a pick-me-up :cry:
I'm currently TTC #1 and suffered a natural m/c at 5 1/2 weeks, 3 weeks ago. I'm still waiting for AF, but I'm doing my head in with all the "what if's" -
* can't get pregnant again
* m/c again
Please...anyone???
Pinklilly
Massive :hugs: Im so sorry for the loss of your little one hun.
After my mc I felt EXACTLY the same...and then I became pregnant after my first AF and my munchkin was born 10 weeks ago! Having one mc DOES NOT mean you will go on to mc after, and you became pregnant so your body knows exactly what to do in that department! Be reassured by that.
It is so scarey, and so heartbreaking to lose a little one, no matter how early but please don't think you are doomed in the future. The next few months is a whole new ball game.
I wish you the very best. It will get easier :)
Hi Pink Lilly,
Im sorry for your loss. I can truly understand all the doubts and what ifs you are going through right now. I think it's only natural, so remember to be nice to yourself :). I had a m/c at about 5 weeks also back in May. I was really lucky to get pregnant straight after that and am currently 8 weeks.
Just stay positive and try not to stress too much, as I think that can have some impact on things. I know easier said than done. M/c is actually quite common, many women have them and go on to have successful pregnancies. Something I learned recently which was interesting and worth noting is that nowadays the m/c rate is higher BUT mostly due to the fact that we can detect pregnancy so early. Years ago, women couldnt detect it until I think 2 weeks after missed period. So I think about 10% (not sure on that figure) of m/c occur in that 2 week time frame, whereas in the past women would have just thought it was their period. Does that make sense? It did give me some peace of mind to know that really early m/c probably happened to many women in the past, but they of course never knew and went on to have healthy pregnancies.
So try to stay positive and wishing you all the best for a BFP soon :)
thank you Lee and bebebebe. I really apprecaite your kind words :hugs:. I just feel that I am in limbo at the moment. Not pregnant but no AF... Hopefully she will turn up soon.
I have done the readings and know that statistically I still have as good a chance as anyone as falling pregnant again and carrying to term, but I just have one of those nasty little devils on mys shoulder, whispering into my ear. I just helps to hear stories of others who were in the same boat as me.
Hi again,
Im not sure when you wish to start to TTC again or when you were medically advised (if at all), but if you feel ready straight away I can offer a little advice on waiting for AF to return-- I actually had my m/c bleed and feel preg somewhere in the few weeks after that, never having an actual period. I know it might be hard to know when youre ovulating, but anyway, it's worth trying now if you feel youre ready.
good luck!! :)
not sure if my story will help but I finally had my happy ending born Sept 06 after 1 ectopic, 2 m/c and a s/b daughter
my Jack Robert is my life my joy took me 5 long years and 5 pg to get to him but if I hadn't kept trying I never would have got to where I am now
I'm sorry to hear of your loss :hug: . I thought I'd share with you that I had a natural miscarriage in January and I fell pregnant after my next AF and I am currently 27 weeks pg. I hope this encourages you that you have a good chance of falling pregnant again very soon.
Take care of yourself :)
I know the feeling Pink Lily - I'm in the same boat - I had a natural m/c a month ago exactly and I'm still waiting for AF - but I've been patient :) And I am thinking positive thoughts, which is something you should do too :)
I had a missed mc in July 2002.....and 5 years later I have my 3 beautiful little bonnie babies.....all perfect. It can and will happen! Hugs to you. I know how painful the loss is.
(Rach75....you're an inspiration.)
thank you lucy :hugs:
PinkLilly,
Just another to add to the stories of hope.
I had a complete shock when I had a mc in February this year. I had no idea how common mc is and felt like this was some cruel trick being played on me personally.
Eight weeks after the D and C I fell pregnant again and this pregnancy is going well. I know that others wait longer and I feel fortunate in this respect. However the overiding message is that mc is so very common and just as common is conceiving a healthy baby after mc.
Big *hugs* to you PinkLilly.
I had my first m/c at 5.5 weeks in 2005. I was one of those people who thought 'it won't happen to me', but it did. I was gutted. 4 weeks later i had another m/c at nearly 5 weeks. Even though i only carried my babies for such a short time, i will never stop thinking about them. The pain does ease with time, but the memory lives on forever.
2 months after my 2nd m/c i found out i was pregnant again. I was nervious and scared. I didn't believe it until i saw his little heartbeat on the ultrasound at 7 weeks. He is now a very happy and healthy, soon to be 10 month old baby boy.
So it will happen. I have every faith in you that it will be alright.
Pinklilly,
{{((Hugs to you))}} I am sorry for your loss.
I have suffered 2 m/c and during my 3rd pg I was abo****ely pertrified that I would m/c again. I had early spotting again as I did with both my previous pg and was scared out of my wits. But it all went well....one day at a time though.
Every milestone was scarey, every ultrasound, blood test and dr appointment. Even towards the end of my pg I was still nervous, but mostly happy and looking forwards to finding out more about my little bubba.
It will probably be a journey of mixed emotions for you. Unfortuately you no longer have the priveledge of being 'innocently' pg. You have experienced that it is so fragile. But you have to go one day at a time, sometimes even an hour at a time. Really try not to dwell on the negative thoughts. Challenge them, replace them with the good ones. Think of the positives and as time travels along, it will be second nature for you to be absolutely joyful about your pg, not thinking 'what if'.
To be honest this is the first time in a long time I have posted to anyone who has suffered a mc due to not wanting to remember those times. It takes time to heal, and you sill probably never forget, but it gets easier.
Good luck :)
Sorry to hear about your loss.
I had a mc in october last yr and i felt that it was uncommon till i spoke to freinds who had had them and not said anything.
I am not preg but hope to be have been trying again since jan!!
my ob said to me a mc happens for a reason so better fot that preg not to contuniue as it is natures way of protecting you!!
good luck chin up and hope to hear good news soon
I have found talking to other women that m/c is much more common than i had ever realised. It is horrible to have one and it makes the next pg more scary but as you can see in my ticker I have had 2 m/c and 3 beautiful children so another success story here. My mum had 2 m/c in between my brother and I and my MIL had 4 before she had her 2 children.
:hug: I'm so sorry for your loss - I'm exactly the same, I had a natural m/c *points to sig* and I'm still waiting for AF - I've wanted nothing but kids, but I know that one day, when the time is right, it'll happen. I've had 2 m/c and I've thought that it was because I just can't have kids, but when I had my 2nd m/c, I knew that one day I'll have a child of my own
hi pinklilly
first of all, i am sorry for your loss, i know how hard it can be.
with my first pregnancy, we had been trying on and off for 5 years, it was a complete surprise when we found out we were pg as we really thought we wouldn't conceive naturally.
Naturally we were devestated when i m/c and we thought we were in for another 5 years of trying.. but after our wedding last september we started trying again and then 5 months later we found out we were pg and now our first child (a boy) is due in November.
I know it feels as though it will never happen, but believe me, it will happen when the time is right and when you have had time to grieve over your recent loss, you will feel much better.
I wish you all the best for the future.