Back on board again

Hey ladies & Gent

dp and i went for a loan so we could do IVF and we got it:cryinglaugh::dance::clap:

When dp told me we got the loan i burst into tears, i cant believe it we are finally going to do it. I dont think i have been so happy to be in MORE debt hahah crazy i know.

I am off to see FS on tuesday to book in for lap and then we will have a choice of doing another iui or go straight in to ivf, either way i am just so happy that we are back into swing again. Its been a very hard few months of scraping and saving and going with out but god damn it's been worth it.

cant believe i am this excited to get a lap done hahah the quicker its done the quicker we can start babies:dance: i cant stop crying i am soooooo happy

ok enough otherwise i will keep going on and on, so i will be back to give you update after FS appointment tuesday.

Congratulations Mummy2chloe!

My DH and I borrowed against our mortgage to keep going with IVF after we had a few unsuccessful cycles and have never regretted it! Good luck wiht your FS appt!

good on you hun congrats to you and dh i wish you all the very best

That's great news about the loan! Good luck with your app on Tuesday.

Wonderful news about the loan - i know what you mean when you know that you can start something pro-active and get you on your way to that bundle of joy - good luck with it all and i hope its a short journey for you.

ok i really really need your help

sorry mods if this is in the wrong place feel free to move it, but it's all about the original post so thought it belongs here with the beginning of the story

24 hrs ago i felt life couldnt get any better, finally we were back on track to making our first baby together, dp rang me last night and we got talking about the money and then thats when it all went wrong

we were talking about how much of the loan was going to be used on lap and ivf and dp started to sound a little funny and i asked whats wrong and he started saying how disappointed he was cos there wouldnt be much money left over for him to do his car up, dp is a car freak we have had issues about his car before ( look in relationship thread under " am i being silly") and so i began to feel really guilty cos he wouldnt have much money left over for his car. so now i am not using the money cos i would feel guilty

but the whole idea of the loan was so we could do babies and now the money is here, he is making me feel bad cos its all going on babies and hardly any on his car. My heart is breaking as i cant believe he would be more worried about a F*#king car then babies, for the last few yrs he has seen what i have gone through, all the hours spent holding me while i cry on the floor, all the tears as i have watched family and friends have babies and him telling me that he promises me that we are going to have a baby. and we have our chance now and he is disappointed cos of his car??? his car should never of come into this i cant understand why he has done this exspecially when he knows how important this is.

I really dont know what to do, i have never felt so hurt in my life i really thought he understood me and how babies are everything and i really thought they were everything to him too, but how wrong was i. how can i be with someone that has for the past few yrs lead me to believe that babies were everything to the both of us, but the moment he gets his hands on some money he wants to do his car up, i feel so stupid and dumb and betrayed and angry i thought i knew him.

Please help me, you all understand infertility and the road you have to travel, am i over reacting, do i get over it let him use most of the money for the car and i will waiting a few more years to do ivf and lap, but in saying that i dont think i would be able to sit back and watch him spend all that money on a 2 seater car when it could of been on a gift of life a baby. i am that hurt and bloody angry that i am thinking of leaving him, how can you lead someone to believe that the loan is for one thing ( baby) then when it gets approved you change your tune and want to spend it on a car???

oh god please help i dont know what to do, i love him so much but how could he do this

Hi Mumy2Chloe,

I'm very sorry your good news has turned so bad.

I have waited about 5 years before DH was ready to undertake IVF and it's a hard road - especially when family and friends were getting pregnant and living the dream that I didn't know if I would reach. I'm not sure what else to say oher than I'm thinking of you and hoping your DP can see how important this is to you.

oh hun i am so very sorry this is happening as you were so bloody excited last nite about the ivf ou iui i dont no what to say except this would make me so angry if my dh had done this to me.i hope you can work something out together..thinking of you hun and take care:hug::hug:

Hey

thanks so much for your reply's, well things have settled down a little here, we have sorted a few things out and my dp is really trying to make up for everything, and being in a relationship you have to take the good and the bad. but its all sorted out and thats the main thing, i went to fs on tuesday and i was booked in for lap on the 31st of august but had to cancel that date as we wouldnt have anyone to look after chloe so i have booked it for the 28th of september which works out it will be school holidays, so thats good he also wants us to give iui one more shot, that will start after the first af after lap. here's hoping this last attempt at iui will do the trick so we dont have to do ivf:pray:

thanks again for your caring reply's, i was pretty hurt and upset and feel bad about coming on here carrying on but thanks again for listening;)

Hi again,

Thanks for the update - I was wondering how it was going. It's good to hear things are getting back on track.

Good luck with the lap and the iui. Hopefully you'll get a positive result from this, so you don't have to spend the money on IVF. :crossfingers:

Thanks for that CeCe

It must of been very hard for you to wait 5 years? i hope everything is going well with you and we all get bfp real soon.

thanks for caring, your a sweetie

Hi Mummy2Chloe,

The five (or so) years have definately had there ups and downs. The hardest part was seeing friends and family have children and knowing I just had to wait until DH was ready. IVF/assisted conception is not something you can do without both being fully committed (as you would know).

The good thing is we are working on it together now. Next week I have my first BT for this cycle to see when I start the nasal spray. I've got great friends and work colleagues who are ready to listen, but I love this site for the support, knowledge and strength of the women here.

i completely understand about the ups and downs, but the good thing is that your getting into it now, good luck with the bt next week and with the spray hopefully everything works out great and you get a bfp, keep us informed i will be waiting to hear all about it

hi there hun well im so happy for you both it sound like thing are going weel for you and never you mind about anything we all have our ups and downs were only human darlin you take care and best of luk to you for the lap