ARGH! I will rip my hair out in a minute!

Ok, so Lily did her very first wee on the toilet at pre-school on Monday. Since then i've been trying to make her go at home. But i don't think she gets it at all. Today for instance i've kept her out of nappies. She came up to me and said, wee wee, so we ran to the toilet and put her on there which she did without hesitation(for once) and we had a chat. I asked her every so often if she was doing a wee, she said yes. So 15mins later she still hadn't done one so i took her off. An hour later she comes to me and says poo wee. So we race tot he toilet again and i put her on. Again she just sits there and we have a chat. She asks for the toilet paper and wipes her bottem then says shes finished, but she hadnt actually dont anything. So i got her off and said are you finished, she said no and wanted to go back on, but still just sat there chatting away, grrr! Then about 10mins later she wee'd on the lounge. But i took her into the toilet again and she said she was doing a wee, but she didn't! Then she said she wanted to get off. This is just getting so frustrating! At the moment it's like there is no point, like she doesnt get it at all! I'm gonna cry in a minute! :( Help!

Tegan, I am certainly no expert, so I can't give you any advice, but I think what you're describing is pretty normal. From what I've heard anyway :)

:hug: hun I'm sure it won't be long.

Oh I am certainly no help but am sending you hugs and support as my DD is around the same age and does pretty much the same thing - although I am not brave enough to let her run around with no pants/nappies on. Am doing the pull ups as they are supposed to make the child feel wet but save parents the mess of leakages....the first day DD told me that she had had a 'leak' to which I discovered it was just her experiencing the wet feeling with no mess for me to clean up...but after a couple of days wearing them (pull ups) it seems as though she has gotten used to the wet sensation as she won't tell us now. :rolleyes: She too will occasionally say about sitting on the loo just for nothing to ever come out..........:doh:

Am bf DD#2 so it's very tricky to catch DD#1 in time to get to the loo sometimes and she seems to leave her poo moments right when I am in the middle of a feed....then she tells me! :rolleyes:

I hope it all pans out for you soon to give you some mental relief!! :hug:

Matilda is 3 and still sometimes doesn't get it. Just make it a happy time and if she doesn't do one, say something like "oh well... maybe next time we'll catch a wee" and go on. Its frustrating but its a good thing she wants to go. At kindy & day care they tend to do it routinely so every 2 hours they do a toilet run. And all the kids jump up & run to the loos. Matilda was TT at kindy ages ago, but still not getting it right at home.

Tegan this is all perfectly normal. At the moment the toilet is just a novelty, and that is ok. Let her get comfortable with it. I know its a PITA but the fact that she is telling you, even if only for a muck around is a good step.

Tehya is in undies for the day time now and is going great. We do still need to remind her occassionally, esp if she is playing. And yes there are times that she tells us she needs to go and then mucks around. We make it that Teh isn't allowed to wipe or flush unless she does something. That's her reward :D

Keep up at it hun. I know it's easy to just think stuff it, but she will just get it one day.

Goodluck :D

Tegan - thats exactly what Jenna was doing until all of a sudden she just got it. Not sure why, not sure how, but it just all clicked.
Once she had the wees sussed, (about 2 days or so) we moved onto the poos, and she got choccy as a bribe to go poos on the potty/toilet. One poo later and 1 piece of choccy, and she had that sussed too.
We didn't drive TTing, she just wanted to do it, and actually now out of all the girls we know that are TTing (only about 3-4 in her age group) she is by far the most in tune with her body needs. I think its mostly a physiological thing, not mental or emotional. I'm sure for some kids the urges are stronger than for others, so once they learn how to tie in the urges with the actual weeing, it clicks for them.

Lily might only be a week or so away from it all clicking. And in the meantime you might want to get a seat for in the toilet ;) In the days before Jenna "got it" I spent many a time in there singing to her, sometimes feeding Hamish ;)

I'm sure it will all happen really soon - Chin up :D

tegan i so know how you feel - eliana is the same at the moment - next week i have most days at home so im going to set the alarm on my mobile phone to go off every hour (she loves the bells ringing) & will use that as our cue for the toilet - she is so wanting some barbie & dora undies so hopefully it will do the trick - it is just sooooooooooo frustrating!

I've not had success in TT mine. There was only success when they decided they wanted to use the toilet themselves if you can understand what I'm trying to say...

Try not to show frustration also, that can send her backwards.