feeling crappy?

Hi all,
well i'm about a little sad today with all the little things that seem to be bugging me at the moment.If no one minds i'd like to share them all and maybe some one will have some soothing advice for me?:(

i am still really naseaus at 16 weeks and throw up when i don't take maxalon. I feel soooo tired and achy all the time and i feel a real sense of, well that life has lost it's zing. It takes all my energy to get to work 4 days a week and i end up spending three days on the couch trying to recover. It's a little depressing cause i never do anything fun and when i do it's a real effort and subsequently not any fun.

I feel jealous when i read a bout other women who start feeling great in s econd trimester. I get worried that my friends and family (2 of which are pregnant nearly same week as me) will think i'm being a weakling 'cause the other girls aren't taking time off and lying around all day. I get really scared that my hubby doesn't understand and that all this is trying his patience. Then if he does say anything to that effect i get really angry and yell at him because we both wanted this and now i'm the one suffering!

Anyway, my sister says i'm a big drama queen- maybe i am. But i am really sick of feeling like such crap. i really need a little reassuring advice from girls who understand! Does anyone else have these feelings or experiences?

Thanks for listening guys!
bea

Give your sister a big pregnant slap!!! Ppl who have never been pregnant or have had easy pregnancies have got not the slightest clue about how difficult a difficult pregnancy can be. Maybe it's time to have a heart to heart with DH and be quite specific about how difficult it is for you. Tell him not to compare you with the other ladies because they are not having a "difficult pregnancy". You need his support & understanding now more than ever.

In the meantime, try to remember this is a temporary thing. Just because you feel like this this week doesn't mean it will last forever. And do whatever you need to to cope - get dinner delivered, decrease your work hours (or start your mat leave early - get a drs cert for this), rest more, whatever is going to work, just do it. You don't have to explain it to anyone, just do what you need to hun.

xxx Good luck.

Hi Bea

Can I ask if you are exercising? I know you said you feel like crap and tired all the time but maybe a walk around the block (even a forced 10-15 minutes) might just be enough to relelase a few endorphins to make you feel better?? I'm afraid I'm one of the ones you were speaking of who is having an easy pregnancy (and I certainly do NOT think you are a weakling) so I know it is very easy for me to say to go for a walk.

I had an awful emotional hormonal day last Tuesday and I went for a walk (more to get out of the office than anything) and an hour later I was feeling *almost* on top of the world.

I dont know if this is of any help or not but might be worth trying. If it doesnt work for you, talk to your doctor as you may be anaemic. As Marydean said, it might even be grounds for you to start maternity leave early.

Hi Bea,

I can understand exactly how you feel. I am now twenty weeks and although my nausea has eased a little bit, I still drag myself through everyday. I eat healthy foods and take my pregnancy vitamins yet I am utterly exhausted, to the point of feeling depressed at times. I cope by just doing one thing at a time and sleeping whenever I can. I also think to myself everyday "that's another day over and I one day closure to giving birth to my baby. Sending you energy vibes. Eloise

Hi Bea,
I am also 16 weeks & am desperately awaiting the supposed "glowing" stage of pregnancy to actually arrive! I was hoping to have more energy and generally feel more like myself by now.
I have become a social recluse : (
I think that when the weather gets warmer & the sun starts to shine things might improve...at least that's what I am hoping!
Hang in there...

Hi Bea,
Don't worry- I am also 16 weeks pregnant & I'm so tired all of the time. I have become a social recluse & I feel like a real wimp! I am hoping this so-called "glowing" stage of pregnancy actually starts soon!
Perhaps when the weather gets warmer...
Hang in there!

Hi Bea,

I am now 20 weeks pregnant and still hoping to get that surge of energy they say you get in the second trim!

I am tired a lot and have pelvic instability (sorry, literally translated from Dutch, don't know the English word). Sore back, pelvis etc from all the movement and ligaments weakening.

I now only work 4 hours a day which is sooooo much better!

Maybe thats an idea for you to?

Thanks so much everyone for your responses! It helps to get a bit of "I know how you're feeling". I think i will talk to my obgyn tomorrow about my energy levels re: anaemia. And yes, one day at a time is the best thing to go by.....It shall become my new mantra :pray: lol....*sigh*...there's so much to get used to being pregnant, eh? sometimes it feels like my pregnancy is taking forever and then a second later i don't fit into the jeans i was wearing last week!oh well, i think my most comforting thought right now is my maternity leave that starts in december, christmas time, air conditioning, making chrissy treats, lots of shopping, yay!!!:dance:

Thanks again gang for listening
hope ya'll feel better soon

I had to explain to DH why i was so cranky and sick and being #4 you think he would know... Since I adv him of the constipation, constant nausea, extreme tiredness, him never helping and me working 4 days a week, heres hoping that he has a small idea of what it is like.

Hope you feel better soon xoxox

I haven't enjoyed any of my pregnancy and I have found it really depressing at times. As we seem to read all over the place, the second trimester is when you get your energy back and feel good and all that sort of stuff - I seemed to miss that stage too. I am now 37 weeks and still feel nauseas every single day, there hasn't been a single day since about week 6 that I have felt like my usual self. I also found it really upsetting that I had turn down every social activity that I would usually take part in and I really miss 'me' (sounds silly I know). I was thinking that I would have 9 months to just enjoy my life and my husbands company and make the most of the time before the baby came - not likely.
I'm sorry you are feeling upset and I know exactly where you are coming from.
Hope it gets better for you.

I know how you feel, I am not one of those "glowing pregnant women" either. I have had shocking nausea since week 2, I'm now 18 wks and still suffering, each week I seem to get a new unwanted pregnancy side effect. Just last week I developed a terrible painful rash which the dr thinks may be shingles and now my glowing complexion seems to have broken out in pimples........It takes everything just to drag myself out of bed and go to work. Not fun!