Daytime routine - 3month old

Hi - I was just wondering if anyone could give me a bit of an idea of their daytime routine. DS is 12wks old. We have the night time pretty worked out - bath, feed and in bed at about 7. He ususally only wakes once at night. I am having trouble with the day time though. At the beginning, i sort of just let him sleep when he wanted, feed when he wanted etc but now i can see its not really working for either of us. He tends to be cat-napping and just snacking on his feeds so i find it really hard to make him go any lenght of time between feeds. Usually by the afternoon he is so tired and grizzly. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks - Em

Hi Em

My DS is 10wks old and his night routine is feed at 7pm, bath at 7.30pm he likes to stay in for around 30mins and cuddles and quiet play till 9pm then i offer him another feed and he is asleep by 9.30pm. I keep him awake from 7-9pm as he would only sleep for 2.5 to 3hrs at a time and now he is starting to sleep longer with this routine.

As for day routine, we sound much the same! My ds will only sleep for 20-30mins on and off during the day and his feeds are all over the place. He gets grumpy and unsettled around 4pm and i usually get him to sleep around 5.30pm and he will sleep for about an hour then.

Sorry im not much help.

My DD is 14 weeks old and we don't have a 'routine' during the day b/c she wakes up whatever time in the morning, I just try to encourage her/resettle her until about 8am. She is then up and I feed her about 8.30am or when she 'looks' hungry, she is then up for 1.5 hrs after waking and I try to put her down for a sleep, sometimes she'll go for 45mins or a couple of hrs - am trying to encourage her to sleep longer atm. She is then up and we have a play/sing/dance/book - whatever until her next feed and then try to put her down for a sleep again, but only if she looks tired b/c otherwise she won't go. The afternoons are the worst, she catnapped today b/c I was at my grandmas and I have just put her down at 4pm, but alas I can hear her now.......
Night time I try to get her down at about 7pm, but we settle her for an hour, sometimes more. She is tired b/c she will sleep if cuddled.... BTW my DD is formula fed.....
With bubs not sleeping during the day, it's b/c they don't know how to resettle themselves. We need to get help them over the first sleep hurdle, which is usually 30-45 mins, then they should continue sleeping for longer. I find this really hard b/c I don't like listening to my DD cry or winge and I have been giving up really easily, but I am now trying to persevere this week and beyond. One mums in my mums group has this down pat (she got on top of it early with her son) and he can self settle himself during the day.