Memorial poems, ideas please

Hi everyone. I am looking for some ideas for a memorial service for a little baby boy, Thomas Peter I lost in 2006 at 19 weeks and I am only now ready to let his ashes go. I used to be known as "brodes80" a few years ago, some of you may remember.

I am planning to have a private little service with my family and let the ashes go into the ocean on the 1st anniversary of his due date. Does anyone have any poems or quotes for our darling lost babies, as I know unfortunately there are many others like me who have been through this heartbreak :sad:

This past year has been the hardest, saddest, most gutwrenchingly difficult time of my life, but I am pleased to say we welcomed another little man in October 07, exactly 9 months after Thomas' due date. (After 9 moths of extreme worry and stress).

I would also like to say my thoughts are with others who have been through this as I know how extremely tough it is. Also I would like to give some hope, that with the passing of time the pain, although never ceases (I still, and always will shed tears) does ease.

Thankyou

Hi hun - I am sorry for your losses.
I have searched for a numerous amount of poems, so here are some of my all-time favourites

We go through life so often
Not stopping to enjoy the day,
And we take each one for granted
As we travel on our way.

We never stop to measure
Anything we just might miss,
But if the wind should blow by softly
You'll feel an ANGELS KISS.

A kiss that is sent from Heaven
A kiss from up above,
A kiss that is very special
From someone that you love.

For in your pain and sorrow
An ANGELS KISS will help you through,
This kiss is very private
For it is meant for only you.

So when your hearts are heavy
And filled with tears and pain,
And no one can console you
Remember once again.....

About the ones you grieve for
Because you sadly miss
And the gentle breeze you took for granted
Was just......... "AN ANGELS KISS"



If tears could build a stairway,
And memories were a lane,
We would walk right up to heaven
To bring you down again.
No farewell words were spoken,
No time to say good-bye.
You were gone before we knew it,
And only God knows why.
Our hearts still ache in sadness
And secret tears still flow,
What it meant to lose you,
No one will ever know.
When we are sad and lonely,
And everything goes wrong,
We seem to hear you whisper
"Cheer up and carry on."
Each time we look at your pictures,
You seem to smile and say,
"Don't cry, I'm only sleeping,
We'll meet again someday."


To All Parents
"I'll lend you for a while a child of mine,"
He said.
"For you to love the while he lives and mourn for
when he's dead.
It may be six or seven years, or twenty-two or
three,
But will you, till I call him back, take care of
him for me?
He'll bring his charms to gladden you, and should
his stay be brief,
You'll have his lovely memories as solace for
your grief.
I cannot promise he will stay; since all from
earth return,
But there are lessons taught down there I
want this child to learn.
I've looked the wide world over in My search
for teachers true
And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes
I have selected you.
Now will you give him all your love, not think
the labor vain, Nor hate Me when I come to call to take him back again?"
I fancied that I that I heard them say, "Dear Lord,
Thy will be done!
For all the joy Thy child shall bring, the
risk of grief we run.
We'll shelter him with tenderness, we'll
love him while we may,
And for the happiness we've known, forever
grateful stay;
But should the angels call for him much sooner
than we've planned,
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes and
try to understand."


You Never Said You're Leaving
You never said you're leaving
You never said goodbye
You were gone before I knew it,
And only God knew why.
A million times I needed you,
A million times I cried.
If love alone could have saved you,
You never would have died.
In life I loved you dearly
In death I love you still
In my heart you hold a place,
That nobody could ever fill.
It broke my heart to lose you,
But you didn't go alone
For part of me went with you,
The day God took you home

An Angel Never Dies
Don't let them say, I wasn't born
That something stopped my heart
I felt each tender squeeze you gave
I've loved you from the start.

Although my body you can't hold,
It doesn't mean I'm gone.
This world was worthy, not, of me
God chose that I move on.

I know the pain that drowns your soul,
What you are forced to face.
You have my word, I'll fill your arms
Someday we will embrace.

You'll hear that it was "meant to be,
God doesn't make mistakes"
But that won't soften your worst blow..
Or make your heart not ache.

I'm watching over all you do,
another child you'll bear.
Believe me when I say to you,
That I am always there.

There will come a time, I promise you
When you will hold my hand,
Stroke my face and kiss my lips
And then you'll understand.

Although, I've never breathed your air,
Or gazed into your eyes..
That doesn't mean I never "was"
An Angel Never Dies........

we used fly by celine dion

Hi. I personally love the 'An Angel Never Dies' poem and have included it in Nathaniel's memorial box.

Your service sounds like it will be beautiful. Thank you for sharing with us and sending us a message of hope - it is greatly appreciated.

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious son Thomas and congratulations on the safe arrival of Finnlay.

I find so much comfort in poems and search for them all the time. Below are some of the ones that have touched my heart so deeply.

Please don't tell them you never got to know me

It is I whose kicks you will always remember,
I who gave you heartburn that a dragon would envy,
I who couldn't seem to tell time and got your days and nights mixed up,
It is I who acknowledged your craving for ice cream by knocking the cold bowl off your belly,
I who went shopping and helped you pick out the perfect teddy bear for me,
I who liked to be cradled in your belly and rocked off to dreamy slumber by the fire,
It is I who never had a doubt about your love,
It is I who was able to put a lifetime of joy into an instant

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All Those Months

Your little heart beating so strongly
All those months
Is silent.
Your little arms and legs
Moving so vigorously
Are still.

Milk falling like tears from your mother's breasts
Will never nourish you.
Your eyes will never sparkle
Your little voice forever silent.

Your mother and father hold you in their arms,
Timidly kissing your soft, smooth cheek
Caressing your tiny fingers
And whispering your name with tears.

We dream of holding you
Of watching you smile and grow
Our love is always with you
Though you will never know.

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I waited so long for you and then in such a short time you were gone.
Such a tiny life, such a huge impact.

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Sometimes love is for a moment. Sometimes love is for a lifetime. Sometimes a moment is a lifetime

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Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away

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Ten Tiny Toes

We couldn't wait to hold you
And see your pretty face.
To count you little fingers,
And check your toes are in their place.

It should have been the happiest day
To remember all our life.
But joy had turned to heartache,
No breath, no beat, no life.

We will never see you smile,
Or hear your hearty cry.
We will never be able to dry your tears,
Or share your happy times.

Our precious little Angel,
We will always know your face.
In our hearts and stars forever,
You will always have a place.

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These are My Footprints

"These are my footprints, so perfect and so small. These tiny footprints, never touched the ground at all.

Not one tiny footprint, for now I have my wings. These tiny footprints were meant for other things.

You will hear my tiny footprints, in the patter of the rain. Gentle drops like angels tears, of joy and not from pain.

You will see my tiny footprints, in each butterflies' lazy dance. I'll let you know I'm with you, if you give me just a chance.

You will see my tiny footprints, in the rustle of the leaves. I will whisper names into the wind, and call each one that grieves.

Most of all, these tiny footprints, are found in mummy's heart, cause even though I'm gone now, we'll never truly part."

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Only a Moment

How quietly he
tiptoed into our world.
Softly, only a moment
he stayed
but what an imprint
his footprints have left
upon our hearts.

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A million times I've missed you, a million times I've cried.
If love alone could have saved you, you never would have died.
To some you are forgotten, to others just part of the past;
but to me who loved and lost you, your love will always last.
It broke my heart to lose you, you didn't go alone,
for my life went with you -sweetheart- the day angels called you home.
For things on earth didn't matter, but now I feel so alone,
My heart will always be broken, my life will never be whole.
We might be parted for awhile, our hearts will always be together
for one day soon we will hold hands again forever.

Oh my gosh I am sitting here bawling my eyes out. Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou. I have felt so alone, no one I know has been through anything like this. It is nice to know people know how I feel.

Those poems are so special, I will definately be using some in my service. It is so hard to know what to do, what I will be able to bear on the day, I am scared to ask other prople to come. Did anyone else feel like this?

Big big hugs to you :hug: It is so easy to feel alone - I felt like that until I met some beautiful women on here that had travelled the same devastating path as me and they have helped me through.

Life is so unpredictable once you lose a child, you have no idea of how you feel from one day to the next. Just take the day as it comes and don't put too much pressure on yourself to feel something in particular - just let your feelings be.

We only had immediate family at Cooper's funeral which was a week after he passed. I do have a garden for him at the crematorium but at the moment he is at home with us. I sometimes wished that I had asked friends to come to the funeral but I can't change it now. I do often think about the day of when Coopie will go to his garden and I too would like to do some sort of service. I think I will ask some friends to attend that. It is so hard to make decisions when you are grieving, there is no right or wrong and I think we will always questions our decisions because it is something that no parent should have to make but heartbreakingly we do.

Big hugs :hug:

Thanks for your kind words Lynn. You are right, it is so hard to know what to do, for me anyway. As Thomas was 19 weeks we had no funeral (they have to be 20 weeks), so I kind of felt like people didn't think of him as a real baby, the term is late miscarraige at that stage, even though you could see a perfect little baby with hands, feet, etc.

I can see you are about to welcome another precious baby, congratulations and good luck!!This baby will mean so much because you have been through so much to have it, and you will appreciate him/her and every moment even more, which I believe is the gift our angel babies leave us. :)

Thank you Water_lily your words are sweet and kind :hug: It is so hard when babies are lost around that 20 week mark because they are either a m/c or stillbirth but either way they are a baby......... a REAL baby. Perhaps by inviting people along they may get a better understanding of your grief and it may make them realise that Thomas is a real baby. Do you have pictures of his little feet or hands or even foot or hand prints that you could display? While it is so hard, I believe it is up to us as bereaved parents to educate society that babies lost are always in our hearts and dreams and although we can't hold and see them, they are still very very real to us.

I truely agree with you about the gift from our angels. I believe this baby will carry part of Cooper's soul.

I buried my last MC in the garden under the azalea bush. Then I released a balloon at the cemetary.
I'll keep you in my prayers as you mourn this loss.

Hi
I have just recently join the forum.I di it while searching for a memorial poem for my baby girl who passed away 4 months back.She was just a year and 15 days old.

She was my first baby .thanx for putting up the poems on this page I am using one of the poems for my baby's memorial album.I miss her very much.
thank you for the poem mumofanangel

hi

here are some of my favorites:

Little Snowdrop
The world may never notice
If a Snowdrop doesn't bloom,
Or even pause to wonder
If the petals fall too soon.
But every life that ever forms,
Or ever comes to be,
Touches the world in some small way
For all eternity.
The little one we long for
Was swiftly here and gone.
But the love that was then planted
Is a light that still shines on.
And though our arms are empty,
Our hearts know what to do.
Every beating of our hearts
Says of our love for you.

Author Unknown

A rainbow lights the way.

I have not turned my back on you
So there is no need to cry.
I'm watching you from heaven
Just beyond the morning sky.

I've seen you almost fall apart
When you could barely stand.
I asked an angel to comfort you
And watched her take your hand.

She told me you are in more pain
Than I could ever be.
She wiped her eyes and swallowed hard
Then gave your hand to me.

Although you may not feel my touch
Or see me by your side.
I've whispered that I love you
While I wiped each tear you cried.

So please try not to ache for me
We'll meet again one day.
Beyond the dark and stormy sky
A rainbow lights the way.

Authour Unknown


GONE TOO SOON.

This was a life that hardly begun
no time to find your place in the sun
no time to do all you could have done
but we loved you enough for a lifetime

No time to enjoy the world and its wealth
No time to take life down off the shelf
no time to sing the song of yourself
though you had enough love for a lifetime

Those who live long endure sadness and tears
but you'll never suffer the sorrowing years
no betrayel, no anger
no hatred, no fears
Just love, only love in your lifetime..

Authour Unknown

They Say There is a Reason
They say there is a reason,
They say that time will heal,
But neither time nor reason,
Will change the way I feel,
For no-one knows the heartache,
That lies behind our smiles,
No-one knows how many times,
We have broken down and cried,
We want to tell you something,
So there won't be any doubt,
You're so wonderful to think of,
But so hard to be without.

Author Unknown

Hope you like them,
Take care,

A lonely young wife
In her dreaming discerns
A lily-decked pool
With a border of ferns,
And a beautiful child,
With butterfly wings,
Trips down to the edge of the water and sings:
?Come, mamma! come!
?Quick! follow me?
?Step out on the leaves of the water-lily!?
And the lonely young wife,
Her heart beating wild,
Cries, ?Wait till I come,
?Till I reach you, my child!?
But the beautiful child
With butterfly wings
Steps out on the leaves of the lily and sings:
?Come, mamma! come!
?Quick! follow me!
?And step on the leaves of the water-lily!

And the wife in her dreaming
Steps out on the stream,
But the lily leaves sink
And she wakes from her dream.
Ah, the waking is sad,
For the tears that it brings,
And she knows ?tis her dead baby?s spirit that sings:
?Come, mamma! come!
?Quick! follow me!
?Step out on the leaves of the water-lily!?
- Henry Lawson


Cassandra?s Lullabye ? B.Carney 1997

Gentlest of angels child of our child
Spark of a passion so easy and wild
All the world waited so eager to see
Where did you go to?
Where can you be?


I?d like to find you and ruffle your wings
Kiss you and bounce you and sing silly things
Though my arms cannot hold you my mind sees you grow
Where can you be now?
Where did you go?


Sometimes you?re with me in the blur of a tear
And I?ll show you the love that we had for you here
But the hand that gives life also snatches away
And leaves you with sorrow that no words can say


A tree spreads its branches
The seed falls to ground
Life starts anew and the seasons move round
Though my arms cannot hold you my mind sees you grow
Where can you be now?
Where did you go?

Hi how are you? My name is sophia babygrl1221 I have one 4yr old son born in 04 but my first born was a baby girl in 2000 i still think about her so it has taken me 8 years of understanding and mourning. So finally the time has come for me to arrange her memorial ceremony. Iam planning it for end July early August 09. I can share a few ideas, Iam happy for you that your going to be having this time of closure for your baby in heaven. I wrote a short letter to my daughter that will go on her monument. Maybe that might be an idea. The memorial home always carries a book of poems and also google would be a great search. I would like to share with you with what i have planned. Placement of the monument on her grave along with flowers from the local flower shop me my friends n family will place at her gravesite the releasing of 2 doves followed by a short prayer the pastor will speak a few words about life, dying and eternal life. After we have planned an indoor catering private party. The monument is a closure its like a funeral to me thats what the flowers are for, and also to brighten up her grave knowing that she is not forgotten and she once lived in this world with us at one time, the doves represent life and her spirit flying up to heaven. The dinner is a time to end the night in happiness and joy with the ones we love.

My letter basically says my thots n emotions before she came into this world how happy i was to conceive her and then when she came into this world it wasnt ment for her to stay long but she deserved eternal life more than suffering, and then the ending my opinion of god speaking to me why she had to leave and what this experience has taught me and the wonderful life she will live in heaven. well I hope whatever u decide u will feel at peace. Also iam going to finally be giving a plack to the hospital that helped keep my baby alive but in the end god wanted her back. if you have any questions feel free to msg me.

hi everyone im new on here just joined. I had a miscarriage on monday the 27th of april at 12 weeks 4 days. I was just reading some of the poems on here and they are beautiful. waterlily80 im sorry to hear about your loss i hope that when you do let your baby's ashes go you will feel a little comfort knowing that you baby boy is where you want him to be peacefully. i have just been trying to think that time is a healer and my baby just wasnt ready to come into this world. i have a little poem that i found and thought i would share with you.

An angel from the book of life
wrote down my baby's birth,
and whispered as she closed the book
''Too beautiful for earth''