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Hi all
For about a week now I have begun feeling less like socialising and more time in the comfort of my home. I feel like I need to be around and talk to less people nowadays. My SIL called this arvo as she is worried I am getting depressed again (I have had PND in the past) but it doesn't feeli like at that all.
Anyone else felt this way this early - or anytime in their preg/s?
Rach
xo
Rach- For me being a mum and wife is a full on job- i stayed at home with my son til he was 2 and harldey went anywhere- wasnt depressed or anything just didnt feel the need to be around people or go anywhere unless i needed too... My MIL was worried i wasnt getting out enough and keep telling me i needed more friends, a job some kind of hobby to get me out of the house... i just felt like "why" i took her advice in the end- got a job 2 days but still to this day i love being at home with my DS... with this preg my DP is saying i'm a hermitt... i only go to the shops when i absolutly have to and stretch it out as long as i can... I hate going out and dont feel the need to be around people... I thin kas long as your happy and feeling ok with it then its fine- if your feeling like its not what you really want but cant seem to help staying at home maybe you need to make yourself get out more...
I thin kas long as your happy- comfortable- content with what your doing then go with it... i dont see that we all need to have people around, go out etc... some people like staying home...
If your feeling worried bout it then maybe seek some advice from someone who can shed some light on the PND- not really in a position to advise on that side of it. If your questioning your self, it cant hurt to get advice...
Good luck and belly rubs
I think Jess made a fantastic point - i'm not a mum yet but i can completely understand your want for just you time.
I'm the least social being on the planet at the moment, i hate the idea of having to go out to do the grocery shopping and im cursing if i've forgotten something when i get home. I have the freezer so full of food so i can just make DF pop out for me every now and then. I've been refusing to answer my friends phone calls and the only people i want around is my mum and my anthony.
Pregnancy is such a personal time and you shouldn't feel like you have to listen to what ANYONE else says about your social graces, and like you said, you will know when you have gotten to the point that you might need help for PND, iykwim? I am sick to death of people suggesting this and suggesting that when quite frankly i'm content. Tell them to go shove it - & then blame the hormones if they get upset :P
:hug: Good luck with the rest of your pg :grouphug:
xoxo
You girls both make great points. Wish you had been around when I was pregnant.
On another side of the coin though, I suffered really really badly from both ante and post natal depression. The AND wasn't diagnosed until I was 30 weeks. Even though I had to go to work full time, I stopped doing everything else I loved. I wasn't conscious of it though and didn't necessarily think there was anything wrong with me.
If it is worrying you Rachel ring the local community health centre. There is always someone there you can just sound off IYKWIM?
If it isn't worrying you then just enjoy building a lovely little coccoon for your budding family.
It matters not what others think, but sometimes the people closest to us have a feeling not a thought.
Thanks everyone.
Ever since deciding it was OK to quieten my life a little, I feel much better. There is so much I want to do at home anyway.... Some of my friends are still a little unsure of the new me, but I am not at all worried about pnd. I know my signs.
I realised that the more tired & overwhelmed I get by doing too much, the worse I am to live with. I want to continue being the happy mum & wife as much as I can!
Off to keep feathering my nest!!
Thanks for listening & thoughts, I appreciate it so much!
xoxo
:hug: Rachel, good to hear you're feeling a bit better about it all :)
Best wishes for a happy & healthy rest of your pregnancy.
i am much a hermit atm... while sometimes i wish i had a busier life, i am very happy the way it is. im not much of a talker on the phone - there's a list of ppl i should ring to chat to, i just never think 'ok, ill sit down and call xxx today' that doesnt include mum who i speak to several times a day, and also my nan who i speak to 3-4 times a week!
i enjoy being at home with my little girl, and dp when he isnt working, i like going out shopping with Krystal, taking her to the park, taking her to vist my mum and dad or PIL.
i do sometimes wish my mobile would beep with an sms more often than it does, but i think there is plenty of time to do things later, i like to enjoy my time now!
*sorry if im rambling, just kind of thinking as i type!*