Midlife crisis - turning 30...

I'm turning the big 3-0 in May and feeling my age a bit. Have just had a baby and while i'm pretty happy with how I've bounced back, I kinda feel a bit....old/housewifey/not me!

I would LOVE to get another tattoo for my bday, but don't want to do that while b'feeding. Contemplating a piercing (nothing outrageous, probably just a tragus piercing) but bit scared about that so not sure.

Soooo what I'm thinking of is a new 'do. I have a collar length, very layered/choppy kinda cut which I like to wear quite full and messy. Usually in summer I have a thick blonde foil in the front and leave the rest natural (brunette). I usually go darker in winter, a redish/darker brunette most of the time.

I'm contemplating getting it coloured darker, kinda a warm chocolate brown, and then getting a thick fire engine red foil in the front...always wanted to do it but never got around to it.

Only reason I'm hesitating is because I am quite fair (i'm talking casper the friendly ghost) and not sure if these colours would be a bit harsh and would actually just make me look/feel older??

Do you think dark hair is OK with really fair skin? I'm going for funky, not gothic ;)

Hey Willow,

Don't think you quite fit the middle age catergory. Sure you will live beyond 60. I have fair skin and find the darker my hair colour the fairer I look and I feel darker hair makes me look older. Your hairdresser can probably give you best idea. Good luck. Get game and go for something different I can assure you it will feel GREAT:D

Hon, I am very fair, and these are my favourite hair colours. In fact, when I turned 30 I had almost black hair with a blunt cut fringe and the underneath fire-engine red - it looked fabulous!

I find that on me a warm base colour works better than a cool colour (either reddish or brown black), so if you are the same a really dark chocolate would look great.

Willow: I too have very fair skin and in the cooler months always have a dark chocolate colour. I have just had foils put in and now I want to dye it back but want to get my money's worth first (lol)

So I reckon go for it. It is only hair and you can change it back if it doesn't work.

Lv Spring

Ask Cai - she is quite fair & has dark dark hair with funky red bits & it looks awesome :D I don't think it makes her look old at all.

I say do it!!! If it's no good change it back ;)

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when I turned 30 I had almost black hair with a blunt cut fringe and the underneath fire-engine red - it looked fabulous!

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Suse - I had this exact hair cut when I was about 22! Only difference is I never got around to doing the red bit before I grew the fringe out. I loved that cut my hair was half way down my back then, DH HATED the fringe though!!! He used to call me cleopatra and still goes on about it now!! :lol: So I have had it very dark before, but I was a bit younger then!

Spring - I think if the colour is warm enough it will look OK. I'll talk to my hairdresser about it, she's great but always freaks out a bit when I want to do something different! I first started seeing her when I was growing my hair and leaving it a la naturale for my wedding, so when I went in after the honeymoon and said 'chop it!' she freaked!! Since then I've gotten shorter and shorter.

Sarah - oooh, where is she??!! I wonder if she'd post a pic for me....

I'm very fair skinned too and i have black black hair at the mo. I think it looks cool, espesh with my blue eyes, makes them look bluer some how.

I did have blue/black hair with red foils before which i think looks great too.

I have pretty much the same as Antheia's av actually, accept I have a "Pob" and have another big red foil at the back and one on the right side as well :)

Definitely doesn't make me look old!

ETA: The foils are blended in with the black though so they don't look like big chunks if that makes sense. I use Fudge Corvette Red :)

Could someone please tell this follicley ignorant person what a 'pob' is?

LOL! Suse, a 'pob' is an inverted bob - you know like Posh Spice has? That's why they call it a Pob, it's a Posh Spice Bob :rolleyes:

Oooooh, Cai, you hair sounds almost exactly what I want! Not sure about the pob cut though but have been contemplating that. Do you have a photo of it in your gallery so I can see....pretty please??

Oh wow Willow - I had one of those for years and didn't even know it...