first appointment with fertility specialist

i have my fist appointment with fs next friday 14 march and i really don't know what to expect.:doh:
i read another thread where someone was doing ivf and they already had children, well thats me.
i had thee boys naturally 9, 7 and 5 and now my husband has blocked tubes the only options are assisted insemination or ivf maybe others, i'll find out next week. i know it may seem selfish to some as i've already got 3 children but there is someone miising in our family so we have decided that we both want to go thru with this.
if anyone has had a simular experience or can offer some advice i'd appreciate it:redface:
thanks

Hi JBM :)

Welcome to BB. There are so many people here who have mutitudes of advice and experience of what they've gone through in Assisted Conception which makes it a wonderful place to feel like you can be understood.

Don't think twice about people who tell you or make you think it's selfish to want to have another child. Firstly it's not their business, and secondly it's completely your right and your decision to make. If you want another child, then congratulations to you and your husband! It's a joyful thing, and I hope your journey to have another precious child in your life is a short and successful one.

I think the type of fertility issue you and your husband are dealing with is called a Secondary Infertility. Your Fertility Specialist will talk to you about this I'm sure.

In our first appointment with our FS (Fertility Specialist - you'll get used to all the abbreviations!), we talked about our circumstances, personal, life and health-wise. Our FS then ordered tests for both DH (Dear Husband) and I to get another opinion on our fertility situation. DH had to do another sperm analysis test after his initial test resulted in us making the appointment to see the FS in the first place. I had to have a ulstrasound with dye to confirm my tubes were not blocked and that I had no other abnormalities, even though nothing was suspected to be wrong with me. We also had to confirm that I was ovulating, and I expect your FS may want to do similar tests with you, even though there is no problem with you. This is all so your FS can see the overall picture of your fertility as a couple, once both of you have been assessed.

From there we came back to get the results and discussed our treatment options from there. We went immediately to IVF treatment that day. Perhaps you ask your FS at the appointment what is involved - in detail - in the different treatment options that are being considered for you.

The most important thing we have found about our FS is that she is someone we like. And we respect. And we trust. These things are so important when you are dealing with the difficult, highly sensitive and life-changing issue of your fertility as a couple. If you don't feel comfortable, or don't feel that your FS communicates to you properly or anything that leaves you feeling underwhelmed or concerned, you must speak up to them, ask for another opinion if needed, or move to another speciailist who you do trust and respect and who can make you feel safe and well cared for.

Good Luck with your appointment on Friday, and we look forward to hearing how it all goes! I hope it is good news for you both and that your dream of a new baby in your life is quickly achieved.

Miss C :)

I've had 2 rounds of investigations (2 different relationships 10 years apart).

Both involved getting a thorough history on us and our family's medical histories. Blood tests, one did an internal, one didn't. Both ordered tests on partners semen. Both sent me for ultrasounds but did not do them in their rooms. Both sent me to have a laparoscopy for a good looksee. I was waiting for the latest lap when I fell pregnant with this one. I was very happy as I'd been told as soon as I had the results from the lap I would have to have IVF (due to early losses and due to age 41).

I was very lucky as both docs were very thorough on the first visit. Some docs will take a few visits before you get all this done.

Welcome and GL with the visit on Friday :hug:

well i had my first app with fs and all went well, very nice and happy guy which surprised me. we have been told that basically our only option at this stage is ICIS. we both have an app in 3 weeks and then i have to start injections.

i don't have to go for ultrasound as i know my cycle and since had no probs falling preg before they don't see a prob.

we will prob do first and hopefully fall preg first time ICIS towards end of April by time we do app and then do injections for 2 weeks etc etc
will keep all informed thanks so much:dance:

JBM glad all went well with your visit. GL and I do hope it only takes one for you :clap: