Looking for some positivity...

:help: Hi Guys,
I am new to this forum and this whole concept.
I wanted to share my story with you and ask for some feedback on others that may have experienced recurrent loss and gone on to have a positive outcome.
Sorry it's a bit long winded but there's lots to tell
My partner and I began TTC in January 2007. We we successful after only 6 months and I found out I was pregnant in June 2006. Unfortunately at 6 weeks I had my first miscarriage.:(
We luckily (or so we thought) fell pregnant immediately - even though we were not trying we were obviously not careful enough and next thing we know im being rushed to the emergency ward with severe pain and what turned out to be internal bleeding from an ruptured ectopic pregnancy in my left tube. It was Fathers Day and I was 6 weeks.:(
They saved the tube but I spent 2 weeks in hospital and another 4 weeks at home recovering.
Needless to say we had a break.
Come January 08 we decided to try IVF as we did not want to risk another ectopic and we knew the left tube was badly damaged (in hindsight they should have taken it out or clamped it). We were over the moon to find out that we were pregnant again but joy turned to despair when we went for our 7 week scan to be told that the heartbeat was very low (90bpm) and the prognosis was not good. A week later (March 17th) I was diagnosed with a missed miscarriage and scheduled for a D&C.:(
Broken hearted but not to be deterred we once again put things down to bad luck and jumped back in the saddle.
May 2008 and once again :clap:we are pregnant (this time naturally). First scan at 6w3d looks good heartbeat 113bpm. Next scan 7w6d all ok heartbeat 135bpm. Then I began spotting just a light brown but I knew this was BAD. Rang OB and went for a scan at 8w3d all looks ok heartbeat still strong and im told to rest up. Spotting continues and im feeling pretty down. Conclusion 10w scan yesterday and no heartbeat. D&C tomorrow.
So basically today im distraught. While in the past I have been able to chalk things up to bad luck and try and rationalise my way through the journey of infertility, today it has finally hit me - there is something wrong with me...
My OB has already done genetic testing through IVF and this time around he put me on heparin injections and progesterone - he says that we are doing all we can and its just bad luck.
I can't accept that. There MUST be someway to find out what the problem is and fix it??? Mustn't there??
So what do we do now... I want to try again but we will have a break until next year. Can I go through this again? I really don't know - I feel useless like im letting myself and my husband down.
Sorry that this post is so negative but i'd really, really, really like some positive stories if there are any out there?????
Thanks for listening guys
Mel

hi hun,
sorry to hear of your m/c although it doesnt seem like it there is light at the end of the tunnel. my sister had 10 m/c and was found to have a problem with her immune system as it attacked the baby causing m/c (not sure of the treatment) but i just wanted you to know that she did get pregnant at the end of 06 and although she had bleeding all the way through and was on bed rest she went on to give birth to a healthy baby boy aug 14th 07 called niall who is now happy and doing fantastic.
hth take care :hug: and :pray: you get your bundle of joy soon
rach xxxx

:hug::hug:and lots more:hug:

my first pg took us 12 mths of trying ended in ectopic at 7 weeks, 2nd pg took us 5 cycles ended in a s/b @ 21 weeks, 3rd pg took us 17mths TTC ended at 7 weeks m/c, 4th pg 3 cycles TTC ended at 10 weeks m/c my 5th pg finally brought me joy and beautiful boy, unfortunalty my 6th pg has also ended in m/c @ 7 weeks

this is a facvourite saying of mine and I hope you find some comfort in it as well

:hug::hug:

Frankly, if the truth be known, I think God has singled me out for a special treatment. I think God meant for me to build a thirst for a child so strong and so deep that when that baby is finally placed in my arms, it will be the longest, coolest, most refreshing drink I've ever known.

Rach75 thanks for sharing your story and im so happy to hear that you have a beautiful baby boy.
Your quote is very moving and bought tears to my eyes. It's true that I feel like God has singled me out but he only knows why it has to hurt so much.
Good luck with your journey for number 2.
xx Mel

my sister and I were only talkingbout this today, we aren't huge religious people we beleive there is a god but not into religion anyway we were like why does he allow drugs addicts, abusers etc to go on and have chid after chilcd when there are people out there who would od anything to have a child sometimes I wonder what he is thinking

:hugs:

Mel,

I'm so sorry for your losses.

If your doctor has put you on heparin which is a blood thinner that suggests he found something that causes blood clots. Some examples are Factor V Leiden and antiphospholipid syndrome, both can cause recurrent miscarriages. These are simple blood tests. I would ask him if he's done a full blood work-up and what the results were. If it's one of these then your chances of success on treatment are very good.

If you want anymore info on these let me know, I did a lot of research after our son was stillborn a couple of months ago (I have blood issues).

I hope you can get the answers you need,

Love Rozzie

My love I am so sorry to read your story - and sad for your goodbye babies... :hug:

I have had 3 1st trimester losses and 3 second trimester losses on the journey to hold my 5th Earth Baby Imogen in my arms. ( & Rach I hear your quote and I too know what that cool drink tastes like;))

We have a sticky here on recurrent miscarriage and it's causes. The causes are many and sometimes we never know. I researched until I needed glasses and researched at night instead of sleeping - I decided on leaving no stone unturned. It wasn't going to beat me.

I decided I have an autoimmune condition and then the doctors also decided I was right!
I commenced on prednisolone (steroid) and clexane (blood thinning drug) and low dose asprin. This did the trick for me. My daughter Imogen was born at 28 weeks and it was terrifying. I still believe had I remained on prednsisone and not weaned off it that I would not have got sick and therefore had Immy early...

But that' s by the wayside. I will include the link to our recurrent loss info thread for you to have a little read. You will find some info I have put together HERE

Wishing you all the luck in the world my love...:hug:

Thanks Flowerchild and Rozzie for your posts.
Flowerchild im sorry to hear about your 6 angels but very happy to know that you have had success with Imogen (such a pretty name too..)
I haven't had any blood work done. My Ob put me on baby asprin right after my 2nd miscarriage and then Clexane injections once we found out we were pregnant again. I think he just assumed the law of averages and put me on the Clexane injections as a "guess". Maybe the wrong guess?? by the look of it as I still miscarried.
Up until now I haven't done any major research although I did some googling after the last loss.
Flowerchild it's funny that you mention that you decided that you had autoimmune problem as I remember when I came across this condition in my googling and I just had a funny feeling (an intuition if you like) that it was my problem.
I need to look into it further but am thinking of going to a speciaslist at Sydney IVF by the name of Dr Gavin Sacks who may be able to help me further.
Thanks again guys,
M

Listen to that voice - it is rarely wrong... :hug:

mel, ive only had one MC, so i cant really add to the advice, but i just wanted to say im so sorry for your losses...i think Rach's quote was beautiful, it brought tears to my eyes too...im still trying again to conceive my first, after a mc in Dec last year...that quote really hit home with me....and im really really thirsty now, but i know that God knows this and will provide when He is ready...

Meldazel,

Sorry for you losses, love :hug:

There is hope, don't you worry.

One of my closest girlfriends had several miscarriages and i mean several. She had an ectopic, was admitted into hospital to have it all cleaned out and all. She then had a still born at about 32 weeks (after pre-eclampsia). She had everything that could happen to a person TTC happen. She now has a 3 y.o little girl and a 6 month baby boy.

It WILL happen love, don't you worry. Just try and be positive.

Hugs hugs.

My thoughts are with you meldazel, you've had a terrible run.

I wish you all the best with the rest of your journey.