Have you successfully stop bub from rolling/sitting in cot

DD 11mths has since about 6mths insisted on sitting/rolling/standing in her cot when I put her down to sleep, the frustrating thing is she doesn't do this for DH. For the past few months I have just let her move about and every few minutes go in an lay her down stroke her a bit and then leave. Eventually (between 15-45mins) she does go to sleep. Given nothing has changed I thought I would this week try a different approach, I am now staying in the room with her stroking her/holding her hips so she can't move. Still it is taking 15-45mins to get her to sleep. She is just so damn determined to move about the cot. I am also concerned with my current method that she is get use to me being in the room that that will affect her sleep if I'm not in the room. She's not a great night sleeper either but just tacking 1 problem at a time, at the moment my biggest frustration is this moving around the cot, so has anyone successfully stopped this movement. People have told me its just a faze but I see no end to this faze given it has been going on for nearly 6mths now.

Hi there

I put DD in her cot and then walk out and close the door and let her self settle however which way she likes . Sometimes 30 minutes later she is still talking to her teddy which is fine as this is how she winds down. I dont rock her to get her used to me having to be there to get her to sleep (we did this from a very early age - about 4 months... i understand and empathise will be harder at this age).

If i go in and she is alseep and on top of her blankets i then put her under then. If i try to hold her down under the sheets she just becomes more aggitated so i figured whats the point?

Bridee,

My DD does exactly the same thing!! She doesnt sit still. Eventually, she will get so tired that she settles into her 'sleep' position, sometimes on her tummy or side and it can take up to 1.5 hours at times (although generally takes 15-30 mins).

She likes to hold a blankie but even that gets all tangled up as she wriggles all over the cot. DH calls her 'little worm'. Unfortunatley I dont think there is much you can do to keep her still.

Sometimes DD will refuse to go to sleep and will jump up and down in the cot and bang her hand on the wall for my attention. I take her out, give her some cuddles, and then put her back in.

BOL

Lisa

Have you tried a sleeping bag?? Izzy has slept in one since she was 8 weeks old and when she started standing in her cot I started using one for day sleeps to stop her getting too far up and about if she was unsettled. She can still get up in it but it does make it much harder for her to do with it on. Plus if she is unsettled at night and moves around I know she is covered up. In summer she has very light cotton ones an don super hot nights we skip it altogether.

Tan - yes she is in a sleeping bag for all sleeps - but does nothing to stop her I can even tuck the end of it into the end of the bed and she still manages to roll and be on all 4's with it still tucked into the bed.

Well, I don't have a solution but I sure would love to hear one! LOL
DD has done this since she was able to roll and is still doing it now. Sorry I can't help (I tend to stay in the room with her until she is asleep, just ignoring her and saying the occasional 'lie down') but I just wanted to let you know you're not alone :wall:

My DD is the same.. she wouldnt let us stroke or pat her to sleep when we went through the whole unsettled period at 6 months so we just lay on the floor next to her cot and have been doing it since. I close my eyes and hear dd playing in bed but she does settle down to sleep. We dont mind staying with her before she goes to sleep and she is fine to settle herself when she wakes during the night...but i wonder what we will do when dd is in a bed hmmmmmm (i see her wanting to come and sleep or jump on us!!)

I'm confused by this. Why don't you want her to move in the cot? Is she able to fall/climb out?

I personally NEVER fall asleep within less than half an hour of getting into bed, and i don't really expect DD to either. Bedtime or naptime in my house means DD has to go into her room (she's not in a cot anymore). I put her to bed but i don't go in again and again to redo it unless she is crying or comes out, then i comfort her/put her back into bed with minimum conversation about it. She often plays quietly or looks at her books at bedtime for a bit and i'm totally fine with that. Right now as i type this she's been put down for her nap and i can hear her rolling about in bed. Her sleep is HER business - i decide when she goes to bed, but SHE decides when to sleep.

Learning to fall asleep is different for everyone. There are people whose eyes close when their head hits the pillow and people who need to read, toss and turn, think, before sleep can find them. Unless it's a safety issue or she's screaming her head off the whole time i really wouldn't worry about it. I'd put her down to sleep and listen for her not moving anymore, then once she's asleep pop in and make sure she's warm enough and not in a weird position.

It might be better, if she's the sort of person who CANNOT fall asleep quickly most times, to spend your energy teaching her to go to bed peacefully, rather than struggling to make her lie still and sleep when she can't.

YES, I have




... she is now standing and jumping, ratteling the bars and kicking in the cot :p :p

When dd did this, I would just go in there over and over and over and over and over and over again and everytime lay her down and say: "lay down, sleepy time. Night bunny" It took A WHILE, but eventually, they outgrow it. I did not mind her "singing" in the cot, but I did check in on her, just to make sure she is ok. It takes about 10-15 minutes now for her to quiet down. Atm dd get up maybe once, then she usually "lost" her dummy or threw her spitrag out the cot, so I put it back in for her, cover her up, give her her spitrag and say good night. It gets easier.


Just keep telling yourself that when she is 12, she won't be doing that anymore :)

hmmm you can't stop her moving (unless you put her in a straight jacket :lol:).... i doubt its the 'moving' thats effecting her sleep, more her unique little personality... we put our dd in bed and let her sort herself out, sometimes she just moves about and plays, sometimes she kicks at the wall, sometimes she babbles, sometimes she miraculously goes to sleep.... personally i wouldn't be in there trying to restrain her from moving, i think it sends a bizarre message..... just leave her to her own devices and see how she goes... she is safe in her cot (presumably) so can do her no harm.... unless of course she is hysterical with anxiety...? she'll get there sooner or later, but we all have our ways of winding down - mine is rubbing my feet together in bed!!

at this age i definitely wouldn't be interfering, she will start sleeping if she is tired enough, and maybe she will be a child that takes a bit longer than others to wind down, but there's nothing wrong with that, and its something you need to not worry about... she will in the end sleep if she is tired enough, at some stage - often not when you want her to!!

OM Emma!!! I do that too, rubbing my feet in bed. DH says I am fidgeting, but it's my way to calm myself and prepear for sleep. I have a feet-rub buddy :) :)

hahahha yes!! and i recently was in a very bad bad way - i hurt my ankle playing netball and COULD NOT RUB MY FEET TOGETHER to get to sleep, because it was sheer agony, do you think i could sleep - NO! and every now and then my body would forget and my feet would be rubbing, and then the pain would set in, and so on like a vicious cycle!!! hahaha. was hell!

Aw you poor thing :lol:
As I was getting in bed last night, I was rubbing my feet and feeling so "connected" because somewhere out there was another lady doning exactly what I was HAHAHA

Sorry for the hi-jack bridee :redface: How is things with bubba??

No prob's on the hijack. yesterday she took only 10 mins to go to sleep during the day and even slept for 2.5 hours in the morning. However, at night she was awake crying for 2.5 hrs. It seems I can't have both good days and good nights...

Aww, it comes later, the good days and good nights.

I know you don't want to hear this, but it's really just a phase :hug: My little "bundle of joy" only started to sleep throught this past month and she is turning 18 months end of the month. And there are still some nights that she wakes up and even some were she are awake for two hours. When she does this, I pull out a matteress from under the bed (when sleeping in the bed I worry about her climging off) and bunk down on the floor with her till she sleeps. If she does not want to lay still, I just close the door and let her run a muck in the room while I lay still, EVENTUALLY she will get tired and come crawling in under the covers with me :) I get some "rest" and she is happy to just have me in the room.
It's hard on mommies, but it do get better ... and worse again ... but it gets better eventually. Like I said, one day she'll be 12 ..