When to tell people?

Hi everyone, I'm new to the forums and I had my dating scan today (6w, 3 days). I was just wondering when everyone is planning to, or if you already have, told your friends/family? I was planning to wait until 12 wks but this time of year there are alot of friends birthdays etc on where I would normally be drinking. I'm a really bad liar and my friends will be asking why I'm not drinking so I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to be a hermit for the next 6 wks but I'm not sure I'm ready to let everyone know yet either....Any suggestions would be appreciated ;)

DD1 i told every one at 6 weeks
DD2 i told at 7 weeks
This bub ive told now one (well except all of BB) and im now 16 weeks....we are waiting until after the 20 week scan which is 19th Aug!

i have told more people than i was going too, its just too hard to keep the secret. told both sides of family, told besties and mothers group friends and just told my boss at work today. hope i havent jinxed myself!

ali did you see a heartbeat at 6.3weeks plus?? i have mine next week, cant wait! i could be 5 or 6 weeks and i really wanna see a heartbeat.

Each to their own. I told every one i possible could both times at 4wks. I was too excited to keep it a secret. Alot of ppl worry about waiting for the 12 week scan but my thoughts were if i were to MC or anything unfortunate was to happen at least i'd have the support of everyone around me iykwim. My sister told every one and MC at 10wks and is now TTC again but says she wont tell anyone till 12wks but in reality i think she'd need the support of us iykwim.

We told my parents, sister and brother in law as soon as we found out (they knew we were trying), then DH's family the next day. Sat on it for a few weeks, then told our church small group (close friends) at about 6.5wks, so they could pray for us. We've only just now started telling good friends, I'm 10wks tomorrow.

We're waiting a few more weeks before making it generally known and I've only told two good friends (that I trust) here at work. I'm thinking about changing positions so possibly won't say anything until that is confirmed (or not!).

The first pregnancy we told everyone straight away, the second the same but the second ended in a miscarriage, while it was nice for the support I just didn't want everyone to know and give me that sad look. This time around even though I am sure all will be fine I just don't want to tell people I have told my mum this morning and have told dh brother but that is it and I am enjoying our secret, plus I don't think I want negitive comments on how soon it is after our miscarriage

With my first pregnancy, we had to tell people straight away as I had morning sickness really bad from 4 weeks. With my second pregnancy, it ended in miscarriage before I had a chance to tell anyone. And we only told our parents and my best friend of the miscarriage. With my third pregnancy, we waited until 12 weeks to tell most people.

I waited until almost 12 weeks with both, including family. I told DH when I knew obviously but both times that was about 6 weeks.

Reason I told at about 12 weeks was if I miscarried, I didn't want to have everyone sympathising. I wanted it to be just DH and I grieving. Maybe selfish but it is a very private thing to me. I also wanted to avoid people who may have known I was pregnant but not miscarried as I think that would have made it harder.

The extra time with just DH and I knowing was very special to us and we used it as a time to really get close and spend some quality time talking about our dreams and our future. We made it an amazing time for ourselves.

Thanks everyone for your comments & experiences & I'm very sorry for those of you that have had mc's before. I think we will just have to wait & see what happens. This is our first so it's all a bit new & exciting (and freaky) for us at the moment. Would be nice to keep it to ourselves for awhile until we get a bit more used to it... I think we'll tell our parents & families in a few weeks time - just in case I accidentally blab (or if my friends don't believe my "not drinking" excuses)!

And yep we could see the heartbeat at 6 wks 3 days, was amazing to see the look on hubby's face when he saw it on the monitor

We planned this pregnancy so i knew at 4 weeks i was preg and we told our families straight away, im very close to my family though, DP's family more or less found out he didnt really tell them. lol
But if you prefer to wait then just wait, drink raspberry and tell people its vodka and raspberry or just tell them you havent been well and your on medication thats your not alowed to drink with.
Good luck and congrats, only 33.5 weeks to go. lol

Ds I didnt know until I was 11 weeks so told the family one week latter...

DD1 AND 2 didnt tell until 12 weeks

so now when TTC next year I wont be telling anyone not even on here as I and very superstious(sp?) so dont want to do anything I havent done before iykwim....

With my first 3 pregnancies close family were told pretty much straight away. They all ended in early m/c's (age related, so don't let that worry you). I wished they didn't know as although they meant the best people often said the wrong thing which made things worse. On the other hand it was good to have people who knew what we'd been through. I only told work friends after the fact.

When I got pregnant last time we told close family I think at about 8 weeks (was past my personal danger period by then) and friends and work colleagues at 12 weeks.

As it was some people had already suspected. My SIL had noticed I wasn't drinking at all and didn't really believe my excuses (she was pregnant herself so had just been through hiding the fact herself). One work friend suspected my absences from work could be due to a pregnancy and my closest work colleague actually thought I might be going for IVF and that's why I had a couple of absences and that it would explain why I kept bursting into tears at my desk.

Go with whatever is comfy for you. I truly don't know which way I'd go if we had another one but I'm guessing we'd probably tell before 12 weeks as it's just so hard to hide the fact. I was extremely lucky that I didn't have MS. If you do get it, it can be almost impossible to hide the fact from others.

pretty much everyone knew by the time i was 5 weeks. i had to tell them coz i was under strict instructions from my doc not to get sick in the first 12 weeks and a few family members were sick so i had to tell them to stay aaway! lol! its all up to u in the end....

When pg with my ds I had spotting from 6wks - 9 wks and was very freaked out so no one aside from dh and my boss (to make it easier to go to appts) knew until after the nt scan at 12 and a half weeks. I was desperate to tell my mum and dad, don't know why i didn't really, and even had dreams about telling them!

My last pg I had told parents, in-laws, boss and a few close friends. Sadly I m/c at 9 weeks and with the exception of a couple of friends who were not supportive at all, I was glad that those people knew. In the weeks after the m/c we decided to tell other close friends what had happened, and I definitely found it much harder to have to say "I was pg, but now i'm not..." than to tell those that already knew about the pg what had happened. The baby I lost was very unwell, so i definitely don't feel like i had "jinxed" anything by telling people at all.

With this pg I have gradually told parents, in laws, boss and the close friends that were amazingly supportive of us. It has been great to have their support again, quietly cheering myself and dh on when we get an attack of the wobblies (quite often!). Definitely less people than before but am very glad to have the support there when we need it.

It's a personal choice - most people knew we were ttc again so found it hard to keep it from anyone anyway!

As far as excuses for not drinking go .... I reckon being on antibiotics for a "sinus" or "ear" infection is the one least likely to arouse suspicion :)

Tell them when you want!
With my first we told everyone straight away, we were too excited to hold it in!
Think we were the same with my second, this one we did plan to keep it quiet till I was 12 weeks, but we went away with family at 8 weeks and thought we better tell them incase something happened while we were away, we also wanted to tell the kids and knew they wouldn't be able to keep it quiet for the next 4 weeks!:cryinglaugh:

Snoopea

We told family pretty much straight away (that being my parents and DH's parents) but only so I had the support of my loved ones if something did go wrong. And we told friends after our 10wk Obs appointment when we heard the heartbeat.

Congratulations and best of luck with your pregnancy :)