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Well i want to get rid of DD's tummy.
At the moment she only has it in bed when sleeping (once during day and overnight).
I have to barrier cream her face due to the rash she keeps getting from the drool with the dummy and i thinking i should try to get rid of the use all together ..
ANy hints...
NOw remember she is only 13 months so the dummy fairy and all that is too old for her to comprehend....
Is it a matter of just refuse it?
Sorry I can't help you, we took it from Paris when she got a cold (and couldn't breath with it) over easter long weekend (so we could both deal with it if need be) when she was 18 months, she never asked for it again, and it was quickly forgotten. My little man on the other hand is 2.5 and still has his and we'll be sending it to Santa at Christmas so he can get a special present :) Just make sure whatever you do block out a period of time so you can stay up and cuddle and sleep the next day if need be, or even take turns in settling between you and DH.
We recently got rid of Izzy's and she is only a month or so older than Ashley. She only used it at night and day sleeps not during the day etc... but we just got rid of them. Hid them all, in fact I don't even know where DH put them and as Cai mentioned we got ourselves prepared to cuddle and comfort for a few days until she got used to sleeping without it again.
It didn't take too long and a few days of little grizzles for day naps and she is fine without them now. I do use teddies for her day naps but rotate them around - she has a few fav's and she watches me give him kisses and cuddles and even says "ssshhhh" Like I do with her when she is unsettled! So funny.
Good luck with it and I think now is probably a good time to do it!
thanks girls
Tanstar. i will see how she goes witha day sleep without it.
I mean she sleeps in the car without it.... so i know she can lol
PP I accidentally forgot to give it to DD when she was 22 mths and she eventually went to sleep at nap time without it (took her an extra half an hour, but she did go down herself). Given that it wasn't necessary at that nap I phased it out over a week by not giving it to her at nap time at all but giving it to her at night time. We saved cutting it out at night for the weekend when we were both there! She didn't really complain the first night, complained for about 5-10 mins the second night and never asked for it again.
We bought DD2 a brand new teddy bear. And gave it to her the first night while on a 4 day trip away.
She had dummy and "ruggy" (flannelette nappy comforter) every time she went to bed and sometimes while awake and sooky too. She was 14 months old at the time.
The ruggy was starting to get grotty and embarrasing and dummy making rashes so it was time for them to go.
First night away just as putting her in to bed she asks for ruggy.... we say ruggy is not here, but wow, look at this cute teddy he wants to cuddle you and sleep in your bed, can you look after him? Making a big fuss of the ted.
So being on hols and being quite tired and distracted by being in another place and another bed and having a new toy all added up to an easy transition.
She became very attached to the ted but gave him up later as she got older. But at least there were no more rashes and a teddy is a bit more decent looking than a grotty rag of nappy when you go in public.
The ted was dark brown and machine washable - very important!
Also important - be sure to completely dispose of every dummy and ruggy in sight, if they get them back it could be harder next time.
Might have to watch them around other innocent by-passing kids in prams with dummies too, we were involved in a walk by dummy snatching one day... very embarrasing...
well i tried putting her down for a sleep without it,
She screamed and got into such a state after 10 minutes... to the point she was doing the hyperventilating cry iykwim
ANd i caved and gave it to her!
:( i suck
Don't be so hard on yourself PP!!
My DD would never take a dummy so I haven't tried this, but a friend of mine did - she cut the very tip off the dummy/s and her DS didn't like sucking on them anymore because they didn't "work" properly - might be worth a try!
All the best :)
PP, you don't suck! Some babies find great comfort in sucking and it will take a while for them to learn to go to sleep without it. My DD was one so we waited until she was 2.5 and in the end there wasn't much fuss. I hated that she had it for so long, but in hindsight, we had 2.5 years of great sleep so it worked for everyone!
Well this is what i was thinking.
Oh i need to buy more dummies... i wonder with #2 if i hold off the dummy or not
Ok so we are in the process of this now with the boys and yesterday was the first day.
Jordy was great and just keeps saying that only babies have dummies however totally different story with Xavier. He cried and cried and last night he eventually went to sleep after 10pm. With his day sleep today apparently he just went to sleep with no crying. Oh I hope it goes ok tonight. I just told the boys that they are big boys now and big boys dont have dummies.
lol i guess that is the advantage of a 3 year old over a 1 year old - conversation lol
Maybe it is just too early
If it were me i would be waiting till she a bit older......we weaned my DD#1 when she was 29 months - a bit longer than i wanted to tell you the truth. We introduced a box, like those gift boxes you can buy almost anywhere, popped all her dummys in there, and at night she could pick ONE that she could take to bed....that got rid of the day sucking. Then when easter came around, the easter bunny took the whole box away and gave the dummys to another baby.......it worked. Good luck.
Mason had them till he was 3. It was just too hard to get rid of them as he was very attached. The way we did it was they all got lost eventually. Your DD is probably too young for the concept of lost though.
With Angus he didn't want one at all but he sucks his thumb. Still at 5 he sucks his thumb :wall: I know I would prefer a dummy to a thumb though.
PP don't beat yourself up. It sounds like she may not be ready yet. If you aren't giving it to her during the day then it's probably just how she's used to soothing herself to sleep. She's still only really little. My DD was 22 mths, so a fair bit older than your DD. We didn't need conversation, but she was old enough to self-settle in other ways obviously.
:hug: I doubt with your approach she'll be sucking her dummy when she's going to school!
(FWIW, I was never in favour of offering the dummy in the first place, figuring what was the point? But when my DD was only 2 days old she was frantically trying to suck her wrists after every bf and she wasn't hungry. The paed pointed out that she'd given herself blisters b4 she was born from soothing by sucking on her wrists - so out came the dummy and it was the best thing ever!! So I will wait and see with #2, but I don't think it was much hassle to get rid of it and it brought a lot of joy b4 then!).
When my DS was about 12months i bought him a different brand of dummy (one of those ones that glows in the dark so you can find it at night) and he hated it! He kept spitting it out.. i guess it felt different in his mouth. I'd thrown his usual ones out because they were getting grubby and old so i didn't have anything else to give him at the time. I didn't get around to buying anymore, i kept offering him the new one but he would just pull it out of his mouth and look at it... so over about 2-3 days he just weaned himself off it. Maybe try using a different brand/kind and see if it works?
Good luck :)
i did try this. and even tried it again today but she screams and throws them out her cot.