an early loss

hi there,

Just joined as I think I need to talk to other women who have experienced the same thing as I. We recently found out we were pregnant, after 2 months of trying, which we thought was exceptional given both our ages (Im 37 and Tony my husband is 41). When I missed my period and kept getting high temps I knew I must be pregnant, because my menstrual cycle is like clockwork. Anyway after 3 pregnancy tests which showed only a very faint line, I had a blood test which revealed a HCG level of 26 (which is just over the line of being positive) so we were both happy and found out we were just 5 weeks pregnant, however I had some spotting and later found out it was ok as they consider that implantation spotting. HOwever it continued, not bleeding as such just spotting, so off for more blood tests, my HCG had gone up the following week but only to 65 which was still very low. I was then 6 weeks and had started bleeding rather than spotting so thought this could not be right. I did have all the pregnancy symptoms, tiredness, sore breasts, thirst, except no sickness. I called the Doc last thurs just before my ultrasound and she told me that it looked like I was miscarrying, I did go to get the ultrasound because I just wanted to know, you know...anyway ultrasound did reveal that I had been pregnant and my sac and yolk were very fuzzy meaning that the embryo was passing. It was very very sad for us as we were so looking forward to our first child and I just don't understand why this happened, even though it was an early loss its still a loss and it is taking us some time to just get back to normal. I haven't had a D&C as I don't think i need to as Im still slightly bleeding but not a whole lot, but it just hasn't stopped, Ijust want my body to get back to normal so I can start trying again. I would like to know how long this spotting/bleeding lasts??? would luv to hear from anyone with similar stories...:(

Mannie I am so sorry for your loss. Please see your Dr if the bleeding doesn't settle, better to be on the safe side. Take care xxx

big :hug::hug::hug: to you and your partner,
I too had a very early loss, It was a few years ago now and i was only 5 weeks also. Even though it is early it is still hard. We decided after that not to TTC for a while so i cant say how long it will take for your body to recover as i can really remember, but im sure there are lots ( unfortunally) of other women who will nodoubt respond who have also been in this situation.
but :welcome: to you and im sure you will really love this site.

I'm so sorry for your loss. A loss is a loss at any stage, so don't feel that because it was early, it doesn't mean as much. Hoping that your next pregnancy goes much better for you. :hug:

Hi Mannie firstly i'm so sorry for your loss :hug: I also miscarried at 6 weeks and just because it was an early M/C it didn't make it any easier. My story was very similar to yours, i did 2-3 pregnancy tests and got a faint positives each time- having been pregnant before i thought maybe that was a bit strange since the pregnancy test i took with my son showed a very strong positive. Anyway at 6 weeks i started spotting over a few days and then started bleeding properly (which is when i passed the embryo) the hardest time was when i went to the toilet and passed some large clots and i just knew that was it :(
I really feel for you as i know it is such a painful time. I didn't need a D+C either as it was an early loss. i bleed for around 3 weeks- i think 2 of which was from the miscarriage and then i started my 'normal' period.
I felt really 'lost' for about 6months after the loss and just didn't know what to make of my feelings. About a month after the miscarrige i started feeling really faint and light headed- i went to the Dr and she said everything was fine. When i look back on it now i realise that it was the effect of stress and a bit of depression but i didn't realise it at the time because i don't get depressed much- just thought i'd mention that so you know what to look out for it you feel the same- its amazing the effect stress can have on the body.
Anyway it took about 6 months for me to feel as though i could try again mentally but i guess my body was back to normal about 2months after the miscarriage. I've heard you should at least wait untill you've had two normal periods after a M/C to try again but i guess it is whenever you feel ready.
All i can say is allow yourself time to think through things and talk to people about how you're feeling. A lose friend of mine miscarried at the same time so we had each other to lean on and i think that really helped the grieving process. Also BB was also a real life saver- i also joined after the miscarriage and it was so helpful knowing i had other ladies to talk to who understood what i was going through.
I wish you all the best and i'll say a little prayer that you will feel better soon :)

I miscarriage at 6+2 weeks about 8 weeks ago. I too had a very faint positive about 3 1/2 weeks and was concerned. I knew something wasn't right from the beginning but tried to forget about my fear. I miscarried naturally bleed for about 5 days and fell pregnant again the very next cycle.

I just wanted to offer you hugs and take it easy.

Hi all,

thanks for the replies it really makes me feel like Im not going through this alone. Will go see Doc to go over the ultrasound results hopefully this week. Have very low energy levels and think it could be an iron deficiency because of the loss of blood over the past 5 weeks! so on iron tablets now. Am off to see an acupuncturist/herbalist now. Wish me luck hopefully she'll get me sorted out soon.

thanks again to all for thinking of me at this time.....

chat soon xxx

Hi I share what you are going through as I have also experienced an early loss in the last week. I would have been 6 weeks pregnant and began spotting and then bleeding. After a week the bleeding has stopped and the process of miscarriage ended. My doctor was very good explaining it is natures way and that years ago the pregnancy tests would not have been around to confirm it so early, therefore you would just get a period and not know it was a miscarriage. I didn't think it would affect me so much but like you I have been tired and just wanting to sleep every day. I guess it is best to listen to the body and rest to give it the recovery time. The hardest thing is that when you have had one normal pregnancy and experience the results of it the next time you want to sing your pregnancy from the rafters not expecting anything to happen (glad I didn't) and you arent so scared, so you let yourself feel excited about the pregnancy earlier. I bought maternity clothes because I was a totally different season to the last time and I needed a new pair of jeans so I bought some nice maternity ones on sale and took them in to save spending on a pair that wouldnt get worn long. It seems that it is almost not the baby that you mourn but the loss of all the hopes and dreams you had for it and for the closeness to the 1st baby which is hard when they say you have to wait 2 periods before trying again. On the otherhand I feel positive that I can enjoy the many things you cant enjoy being pregnant for a little longer and spend such valuable time with my first daughter as she is only going to be little once and they do miss out on a lot when the next sibling comes along. Thinking of you and wishing you all the best for trying again. I am sure you will have a beautiful baby on the way before you know it and in the meantime enjoy some special nights out with your partner as it's a whole new world when there are 3!